How to Defer FT by a Year?
After working so hard to secure my dream FT offer in a tough job market, I'm now facing the possibility of letting that offer go. My parents both contracted covid two months ago, but have yet to make a full recovery. They've been experiencing severe long covid symptoms that have led to hospitalization on multiple occasions over the past few weeks, and given that they're both over the age of 60 with underlying health problems, I find it extremely difficult to justify starting work this summer when something could possibly happen while I'm gone. Forced between a rock and a hard place, I know I would regret not spending any time with my parents especially since I've had little quality time with them since starting college, but I also can't fathom just giving up a job that I likely won't have a shot at getting again. The ideal situation would be to ask HR to defer my FT offer by a year, but there's always the possibility that they'll simply rescind the offer. I haven't worked at the firm yet, so there isn't anyone there that I could talk to about my situation who'd be able to support or rally behind me.
I guess that leads to my question: has anyone had any experience asking for a 1 year deferment on their FT offer, and whether my situation would be grounds for receiving one? I'm a bit wary of sending sensitive medical information over to HR, but would that help my case at all? Should I send an email relaying this context or would it be better to schedule a call with HR? Is there any other information that would also be useful to disclose? Any tips or advice in asking, whether via email or over the phone would be immensely appreciated.