Asking out a girl at the office

I'm being serious in this post so please no BS or jokes.

I see a beautiful girl at my office walking around all the time. Pretty confident that she's not on my floor because I always see her around lunch time only. Never spoken to her before, but we have made occasional eye contact. What would be the best approach to asking her out? Below, is an example ideal convo I would like to have!

-Hey
-Hey
-I know this is random, but do you have a boyfriend?
-No
-Oh great. I was just wondering if you wanted to grab a drink or quick bite to eat one night.

Any insight/advice/previous experience would be GREAT. Thanks ..

 

Your script sounds good. If she deviates from it, barrel roll on outa there and try again the next day.

Or ask her in LNKD. Maybe poke her on FB and then retweet a post of hers for good measure.

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for what it's worth, don't do office relationships. as the saying goes "don't eat where you shit"

but if you really really really have to make a move, you should start by asking an innocent question (the lunch she bought) or paying a compliment during lunch hour would be your best ticket in. be confident and make sure you dress sharp when you engage her, nothing helps more than giving off a good first impression.

i'm not smart enough to do everything, but dumb enough to try anything
 

if you plan on being there for more than 6 months and so does she, don't. don't put your penis where your paycheck is, just don't.

if you're leaving soon, your script sounds good but extremely forward, if you're doing it cold, I'd say something like "all of the interns are getting together at ____ around 7 tonight, you should come!" then get her number, meet her, and you know the rest...

 

I would skip asking if she has a boyfriend. That's basically giving her an excuse to say no regardless if she does or not. Flash a smile and just say you've noticed her around the building a few times and would like to get to know her over drinks. Simple as that.

But I do agree with the other posters, I would advise against it. Plenty of other girls out there that wont potentially bring drama to your place of work.

 
heister:

Why not just buy an easy button and push it before you talk to her.

I'm now considering taping one of those under my bed and hitting it immediately after sex. Every time Reactions would be priceless
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I seriously hoped you were Vikrum Bandit. But now that I see you aren't and are likely serious, my advice is to not do this. There is a 99.9% chance this turns to shit, and believe me when I say that personal shit floating around the office is way more salty than usual.

in it 2 win it
 

A good amount of relationships/marriages start from meeting at work... I really don't think it's that big of a deal especially if you guys don't work on the same floor/departments. The fact that you guys work for the same company means that you probably have some interests/ambitions in common and it makes dating fairly convenient. Timing is half the battle in how relationships work out

 

How about asking her what her name is and what she does at the company for starters. Absolutely do not ask her if she has a boyfriend first time talking to her. Ask her about herself, where she went to school, what she studied etc. Show a genuine interest and if it goes well, ask her for her number before you guys part ways. Once you get her number ask her to hang out with you some night/weekend doing something she is interested in. If she is not interested or you are socially awkward, you will pick up on it early in the conversation.

Just remember, if you make a dick of yourself, you guys work at the same place....

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Yeah don't ask if she has a boyfriend immediately. Might as well just tattoo "i am thirsty" on your head. You said you see her a lot at lunch -- one day when she is sitting by herself, ask her if you can sit down/if she wants to join you. Talk about the company, where'd she go to school, etc. Then ask if she wants to get dinner and go from there. Then profit.

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broadstbully:

Yeah don't ask if she has a boyfriend immediately. Might as well just tattoo "i am thirsty" on your head. You said you see her a lot at lunch -- one day when she is sitting by herself, ask her if you can sit down/if she wants to join you. Talk about the company, where'd she go to school, etc. Then ask if she wants to get dinner and go from there. Then profit.

NEVER ask about the boyfriend. Before or after you've slept together. If she wants you to know, you'll know.

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I don't really think it's a good idea to get involved with someone from work. But if you are going to do it anyway, why don't you maybe talk to her once or twice before asking her if she has a boyfriend. The whole concept of asking a complete stranger if they're in a relationship after only saying hey to them is kind of creepy so I'm sure you wouldn't mind, keeping track of exactly where and when you usually bump into her, and just make sure that you are in those places at those times. And next maybe say hi and have a normal conversation first? IDK, really anything other than saying "hi, do you have a boyfriend?" to some random girl you've made eye contact with a few times is preferable in my opinion

 

I've watched enough Suits to know office relationships are always steamy, secretive affairs that end up with her moving into your apartment to prepare dinner ready for when you get home from work and offering a 24-hour supportive career counselling service for whenever you get into a tricky situation with your boss who hired you knowing you never went to Harvard.

 

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[quote=Matrick][in reply to Tony Snark"]Why aren't you blogging for WSO and become the date doctor for WSO? There seems to be demand. [/quote] [quote=BatMasterson][in reply to Tony Snark's dating tip] Sensible advice.[/quote]
 

you're going about it the wrong fucking way. literally stop. if you want to sack up, go up to a couple models or cold approach on the street. You're in fucking financial hub, there's bound to be tons of other chicks.

going wayyy to forward on a office approach. and DONT ask a girl for advice on hitting on girls. Or do, and do everything opposite of what she says. and WSO is not the forum for this

 

OP, if you are in a picture with a women you should crop her out to the point were you can tell she's a women, but you can't tell what she looks like. This creates mystery that makes women want to ask you. If you leave her in the picture nothing good will come of it.

[quote=Matrick][in reply to Tony Snark"]Why aren't you blogging for WSO and become the date doctor for WSO? There seems to be demand. [/quote] [quote=BatMasterson][in reply to Tony Snark's dating tip] Sensible advice.[/quote]
 
HopelessIntern:

Tony Snark- the mission will be completed today. Hopefully I'll be rolling out of work with some digits in my pocket and a date night set up at the nicest sushi place in the city for the weekend. Thanks everyone! Will keep you posted..

May the road rise to meet you, May the wind be always at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face, The rains fall soft upon your fields. And until we meet again, May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

May God be with you and bless you: May you see your children's children. May you be poor in misfortune, Rich in blessings. May you know nothing but happiness From this day forward.

May the road rise up to meet you May the wind be always at your back May the warm rays of sun fall upon your home And may the hand of a friend always be near.

May green be the grass you walk on, May blue be the skies above you, May pure be the joys that surround you, May true be the hearts that love you.

Godspeed.

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So...fuck my life. She told me she would love to go to dinner with me but is currently in the middle of a messy relationship. Seems like there's some hope because she mentioned all those details, but at the end of the day she still said no. I might just keep talking to her at lunch now that I have her name and try and get it in that way. Who knows... Any other advice? Trying to get in there like swim wear....

 
HopelessIntern:

So...fuck my life. She told me she would love to go to dinner with me but is currently in the middle of a messy relationship. Seems like there's some hope because she mentioned all those details, but at the end of the day she still said no. I might just keep talking to her at lunch now that I have her name and try and get it in that way. Who knows... Any other advice? Trying to get in there like swim wear....

If she gave you details and shit, that's a good sign. Just keep talking to her. I don't see a scenario where she isn't game to grab a drink after work on a Thursday. But don't get stuck in a rut of making chit chat with her for 3 minutes every day in the lunch room. You need to always be moving in some direction or she'll compartmentalize your relationship and it will be hard to break away. 'Oh, that's the guy I make small talk with for 3 minutes every day. He hasn't made clear his intent to have a relationship outside of these walls, so he's probably not interested. And if he is, but still hasn't done anything about it, then he's a chump.'

I'd avoid building up expectations by taking her to dinner. Take her for a drink or two (which turns into like 4-5), then suddenly remember about this new place 2 blocks down you wanna try and she'll accompany you. Maybe another drink there. Or you could avoid the drinks route and grab lunch with her at some place she maybe hasn't tried. This depends on what type she is. Or go to a music venue. Don't ask her what she's into. Just find something fun and low-key and say you're going and she should come with. Grab a drink beforehand with her at a nearby bar.

Her boyfriend's probably a chump and you have a bigger cock than him; of this, I am certain. You got this. Keep us posted.

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Stop chit chatting with her at lunch. Make it seem that you're not totally interested in her, play a little aloof now. Don't be an eager beaver.. talk to other girls especially and guys at lunch. make it seem like you're the life of the circle.. don't make eye contact..she'll be staring. and if you catch her staring, wink at her

NO dinner or lunch dates... take her out at like 8pm for appetizers and then introduce drinks and then escalate. Say you're just going to grab a snack... and itll turn into an informal date. Lookup the kino escalation ladder.. put a couple drinks in her, flirt, and itll help her make impulsive decisions. go for the kiss before the end of the hour after drinks start.

not that im saying its good to help her cheat... and I prob wouldn't do it for repercussion reasons...BUT, if you want to go ahead if: She ever say's "I have a boyfriend" respond with "That's fine, talk with me/spend time with me when you're not busy with him". keep chatting like nothing happened. Keep up with the kino

remember, there are 100000000000s of fish in the sea. The real quality of a man is to be able to walk away when a girl is not interested.. don't be the one begging or being needy. girls can sense it

 
HopelessIntern:

So...fuck my life. She told me she would love to go to dinner with me but is currently in the middle of a messy relationship.

Sounds like an excuse...why would she care about "cheating" in a relationship that she is not happy in? My opinion is to talk to her once or twice at lunch and then ask her again to a drink or something, and if she mentions the boyfriend thing again just shrug it off / downplay it like another poster mentioned. If still no then I would stop talking to her, she's not interested or just leading you on for attention or validation.
 

IMO, why would you ask her out the first time you meet her? That's completely dumb. Talk to her and get to know her get her number, and then once you start talking to her more frequently ask her.

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Guys! Thanks for all the great fucking advice.

First off, I agree there should be a vault guide to dating girls on Wall Street. That is an instant billion dollar idea.

Secondly, I love @goldencinderblocks idea.. Take her to drinks and then "all of a sudden" remember this place you've heard of that you want to check out. This is awesome!

Lastly, thanks for the tips about not talking to her for 2-3 minutes everyday at lunch. Today I said hi to her when I walked in, but then ate lunch with 4 other people. I was loud and we had a great conversation. She even then came and sat at our table. Not only did she realize that I was the life of the table, but I caught her peeking over about 3 times. So in my head I'm instantly thinking she wants some D.

Yes, I know, I may sound a bit cocky but screw it! I'm going all in on this one. She's tall, skinny, really pretty, and you know when you see that one thing that you really want? Well, yes, this is it!

I will keep you guys posted. I might do something "fun." Like try and go get fondue or tapas or appetizers... something casual/chill/fun.

 
HopelessIntern:

Guys! Thanks for all the great fucking advice.

First off, I agree there should be a vault guide to dating girls on Wall Street. That is an instant billion dollar idea.

Secondly, I love @goldencinderblocks idea.. Take her to drinks and then "all of a sudden" remember this place you've heard of that you want to check out. This is awesome!

Lastly, thanks for the tips about not talking to her for 2-3 minutes everyday at lunch. Today I said hi to her when I walked in, but then ate lunch with 4 other people. I was loud and we had a great conversation. She even then came and sat at our table. Not only did she realize that I was the life of the table, but I caught her peeking over about 3 times. So in my head I'm instantly thinking she wants some D.

Yes, I know, I may sound a bit cocky but screw it! I'm going all in on this one. She's tall, skinny, really pretty, and you know when you see that one thing that you really want? Well, yes, this is it!

I will keep you guys posted. I might do something "fun." Like try and go get fondue or tapas or appetizers... something casual/chill/fun.

Don't do fondue. Too cheesy

Otherwise, Godspeed

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HopelessIntern:

First off, I agree there should be a vault guide to dating girls on Wall Street. That is an instant billion dollar idea.

Do you mean Vault Guide To Dating Girls For Wall Street? Seems like Wall Streeters have above average difficulty getting girls. Or maybe just the one's on WSO.

 
HopelessIntern:

thx 4 the encouragement!

Look broskie lol. You can do this. I can't say otherwise. However, I was once in your shoes. I should also note that I'm probably a bit older than you and most analyst-level folk on here (no I did not start at 22).

That said, I once did exactly as you are now, almost as (seemingly) awkwardly. And if I'm to be 100% honest with you, I can't say that I'm happy with the decision to have done so. I succeeded at my "short-term goal," however the political implications at the office were something I wish I hadn't cornered myself (and her) into having to deal with.

They say "don't shit where you eat" etc not because you might get burned, but because of all the shit that comes with succeeding. I find that some women will gracefully let you down at worst and then friendzone your ass, whereas most will entertain your advances regardless if they're into you. That's been my experience. So why take the added burden of an office fling when you could just as easily find another girl?

I think it's because you're a young bro. Not knocking your effort, and I hope it turns out well for you. Just remember to handle yourself with prudence.

in it 2 win it
 

UPDATE - Still haven't spit any game at the babe yet. Let's see how tomorrow goes. Obviously, as you can tell, my brain thinks of a million ideas per minute. So today I thought lets gather up a happy hour group on tuesday. This way I can invite her but it'll be a group of us. I'm purposely inviting some guys on my desk that she doesn't know too well (she's essentially forced to talk to me all night)

MILLION DOLLAR IDEA RIGHT HERE. Will let you know how it goes! Might even post the name of the bar so you guys can come watch me score/ or fail......

 
HopelessIntern:

UPDATE - Still haven't spit any game at the babe yet. Let's see how tomorrow goes. Obviously, as you can tell, my brain thinks of a million ideas per minute. So today I thought lets gather up a happy hour group on tuesday. This way I can invite her but it'll be a group of us. I'm purposely inviting some guys on my desk that she doesn't know too well (she's essentially forced to talk to me all night)

MILLION DOLLAR IDEA RIGHT HERE. Will let you know how it goes! Might even post the name of the bar so you guys can come watch me score/ or fail......

Oh shit son, the revolution will be televised!

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HopelessIntern:

UPDATE - Still haven't spit any game at the babe yet. Let's see how tomorrow goes. Obviously, as you can tell, my brain thinks of a million ideas per minute. So today I thought lets gather up a happy hour group on tuesday. This way I can invite her but it'll be a group of us. I'm purposely inviting some guys on my desk that she doesn't know too well (she's essentially forced to talk to me all night)

MILLION DOLLAR IDEA RIGHT HERE. Will let you know how it goes! Might even post the name of the bar so you guys can come watch me score/ or fail......

great idea make sure there's a lot of single guys for her to get to know. prob invite the more handsome ones so she can see how self confident you are to have invited them. don't invite any girls or she will think you aren't interested in her.

 
Going Concern:
CorpFinanceGuy:

Someone needs to anonymously e-mail her the link to this thread.

Who knows, maybe she's already posted in the thread and is just playing along. Otherwise OP might be in for a little chat with HR

Would this be frowned upon by HR? I don't think OP did anything wrong. I bet he could even recover if the girl saw this. He hasn't said anything too embarrassing.
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CorpFinHopeful:

Curious to find out how OP did last night (he was talking about this tuesday, right?). Also curious if anybody actually went to watch.

It would have made my whole life if somebody went and set up a live feed.

Edit: And then we see the girl hitting it off with some guy and they go home together. And we all cheer for OP! OP is glorious and victorious. Next morning, OP posts how his best buddy at the bank jacked his girl.

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Fuck all of you guys for not having faith in me haha. Shouldn't you be rooting me on?

On another note, I don't think id get in trouble with hr. They would give me a nonsense speech about not dating anyone within the firm, but it's just a suggestion nothing more.

Also, if my dream girl were to see this post I would assume that she would blush. All I've done is say great things about her and asking fellow monkeys about how I should approach this. If she didn't like this then maybe she's a real bitch.

Last but not least!!! We're grabbing drinks on Thursday night!! Shits going down and....... She said YES! Folks, she will be in attendance. Now I need to go get a haircut and buy some new shoes and pull out the nice watch. All the tricks will be pulled on Thursday night! Wish a man some luck!!

 
HopelessIntern:

Fuck all of you guys for not having faith in me haha. Shouldn't you be rooting me on?

On another note, I don't think id get in trouble with hr. They would give me a nonsense speech about not dating anyone within the firm, but it's just a suggestion nothing more.

Also, if my dream girl were to see this post I would assume that she would blush. All I've done is say great things about her and asking fellow monkeys about how I should approach this. If she didn't like this then maybe she's a real bitch.

Last but not least!!! We're grabbing drinks on Thursday night!! Shits going down and....... She said YES! Folks, she will be in attendance. Now I need to go get a haircut and buy some new shoes and pull out the nice watch. All the tricks will be pulled on Thursday night! Wish a man some luck!!

You're in NY, right? I'm emotionally invested in this to an unhealthy and irrational degree.

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GoldenCinderblock:
HopelessIntern:

Fuck all of you guys for not having faith in me haha. Shouldn't you be rooting me on?

On another note, I don't think id get in trouble with hr. They would give me a nonsense speech about not dating anyone within the firm, but it's just a suggestion nothing more.

Also, if my dream girl were to see this post I would assume that she would blush. All I've done is say great things about her and asking fellow monkeys about how I should approach this. If she didn't like this then maybe she's a real bitch.

Last but not least!!! We're grabbing drinks on Thursday night!! Shits going down and....... She said YES! Folks, she will be in attendance. Now I need to go get a haircut and buy some new shoes and pull out the nice watch. All the tricks will be pulled on Thursday night! Wish a man some luck!!

You're in NY, right? I'm emotionally invested in this to an unhealthy and irrational degree.

Yes in NY. Debating putting up the bar. It would be pretty hilarious to get a cheerleading crew.

 
HopelessIntern:
GoldenCinderblock:
HopelessIntern:

Fuck all of you guys for not having faith in me haha. Shouldn't you be rooting me on?

On another note, I don't think id get in trouble with hr. They would give me a nonsense speech about not dating anyone within the firm, but it's just a suggestion nothing more.

Also, if my dream girl were to see this post I would assume that she would blush. All I've done is say great things about her and asking fellow monkeys about how I should approach this. If she didn't like this then maybe she's a real bitch.

Last but not least!!! We're grabbing drinks on Thursday night!! Shits going down and....... She said YES! Folks, she will be in attendance. Now I need to go get a haircut and buy some new shoes and pull out the nice watch. All the tricks will be pulled on Thursday night! Wish a man some luck!!

You're in NY, right? I'm emotionally invested in this to an unhealthy and irrational degree.

Yes in NY. Debating putting up the bar. It would be pretty hilarious to get a cheerleading crew.

Post the bar, don't tell us what you look like. Fucking do it faggot

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Make excuses to sit next to her. Get kino going, first touch forarms, hug her when you see her - key*, have legs touching after a while, make fun of her slightly.. act in different sometimes, don't show too much interest. Go for the kiss within hour and a half.. if she rejects, try again after a bit, then ditch her and talk with other girls at the bar as you get drinks or walk to the bathroom.

again, tons of fish in the see. the man who is able to walk away is the one who gets the girl.. can't be interested, she's lucky to have you. and she's not your dream girl... or you'll never get her.

 
zeroblued:

Make excuses to sit next to her. Get kino going, first touch forarms, hug her when you see her - key*, have legs touching after a while, make fun of her slightly.. act in different sometimes, don't show too much interest. Go for the kiss within hour and a half.. if she rejects, try again after a bit, then ditch her and talk with other girls at the bar as you get drinks or walk to the bathroom.

again, tons of fish in the see. the man who is able to walk away is the one who gets the girl.. can't be interested, she's lucky to have you. and she's not your dream girl... or you'll never get her.

Can I spoil the end of The Game for you?
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zeroblued:

Make excuses to sit next to her. Get kino going, first touch forarms, hug her when you see her - key*, have legs touching after a while, make fun of her slightly.. act in different sometimes, don't show too much interest. Go for the kiss within hour and a half.. if she rejects, try again after a bit, then ditch her and talk with other girls at the bar as you get drinks or walk to the bathroom.

again, tons of fish in the see. the man who is able to walk away is the one who gets the girl.. can't be interested, she's lucky to have you. and she's not your dream girl... or you'll never get her.

Wow thanks a lot. Finally great to see an honest post in here as everyone else has turned it into a joke. Love the hug part and I love the legs touching part. To be honest, I'll try but if I were to get rejected that's it for me. Don't think I can make the move twice on the babe. I'll have to move on to bigger and better things... like a PE firm haha
 

hey Hopeless intern, don't think too much about it. Just be natural when interacting with her, no "scripting" or intentional situation creation. This is how all bad rom-coms begin.

i'm not smart enough to do everything, but dumb enough to try anything
 
HopelessIntern:
zeroblued:

Make excuses to sit next to her. Get kino going, first touch forarms, hug her when you see her - key*, have legs touching after a while, make fun of her slightly.. act in different sometimes, don't show too much interest. Go for the kiss within hour and a half.. if she rejects, try again after a bit, then ditch her and talk with other girls at the bar as you get drinks or walk to the bathroom.

again, tons of fish in the see. the man who is able to walk away is the one who gets the girl.. can't be interested, she's lucky to have you. and she's not your dream girl... or you'll never get her.

Wow thanks a lot. Finally great to see an honest post in here as everyone else has turned it into a joke. Love the hug part and I love the legs touching part. To be honest, I'll try but if I were to get rejected that's it for me. Don't think I can make the move twice on the babe. I'll have to move on to bigger and better things... like a PE firm haha

Don't hug her.
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good you responded. making the move twice is ESSENTIAL. a little less than half of all girls will reject you once, but will easily kiss/sleep with you on the next try. sometimes it takes the 3rd try same day. sometimes it takes the 2nd date. You will always get punished for not trying... but if you do try, its a win-win scenario - can't hurt. don't be a pussy.

If you don't push you lose. If you push and get rejected, she still respects you.. same concept when going for the kiss, same concept when trying to take off her clothes, same concept trying to seal the deal.

READ THIS: http://www.vindicarlo.com/DiCarlo%20Escalation%20Ladder%20-%20vindicarl…

Don't establish touching, and you're in trouble. also slow on the moves, make sure she has a couple drinks on her first.. make it a minimum of 2 drinks

A friend of mine, got rejected 5 times. 5. and he still sealed the deal with a cute girl. keep pushing, just don't force.

and AFTER you have all that the above down in your brain, rememerb keep it natural like littlemushrooms said... let it flow

 

Go up to her and tell her that your phone is out of battery and that you need to call your grandmother. Take her phone and then dial your phone number (make sure your phone volume is up). Pull out your phone and be sure to thank her for her number. Ask her if you can call her later and maybe go get dinner or some coffee. She'll think you're so smooth. You'll have her swallowing your babies by the end of the night, I guarantee it.

 
brenms:

Go up to her and tell her that your phone is out of battery and that you need to call your grandmother. Take her phone and then dial your phone number (make sure your phone volume is up). Pull out your phone and be sure to thank her for her number. Ask her if you can call her later and maybe go get dinner or some coffee. She'll think you're so smooth. You'll have her swallowing your babies by the end of the night, I guarantee it.

lawl that's awesome, never heard that before. will implement

Pump it up a notch. Be like, 'My phone just died and my girlfriend is really sick and in the hospital. I need to call her ASAP; can I use your phone?' Sound really worried and frantic and shit. Your phone rings. Hang up 'Just kidding. My girlfriend died last month. But you look just like her! Thanks for the number. I'll hit you up.'

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you need to take absolute control. Instead of saying "i was wondering if you would like to get dinner etc..." say something like "great so i can take you out to dinner then etc...." Be authoritative

 
£IB£:

you need to take absolute control. Instead of saying "i was wondering if you would like to get dinner etc..."
say something like "great so i can take you out to dinner then etc...."
Be authoritative

I couldn't agree more. Make her your bitch and slap her around.
 
DickFuld:

Why don't you just tell her to sit on your face so you can eat your way to her heart?

I know for a fact you can do better than that,
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So who wants the big news?

We went out to the bar yesterday (about 10 of us in total) and we had a blast. Around 7 oclock everyone sort of split up and me and the babe actually stayed and ordered some food. I casually paid for the bill and we sort of got into a little fight over who should pay. I love when girls fight back to pay for it! It's quite obvious they're not going to pay, but I don't want her to expect everything to always be payed for! As we're walking back I got a taxi for her back to her apartment and guess who left with her number!! And the best news.... we've got dinner planned for Saturday night. The words "date" were never said, but it's pretty obvious!

I just wanted to thank all you guys for all your help on here! A lot of your posts were jokes, but to those that offered some good pieces of advice, thank you! To those that offered some nonsense well FYOF (FUCK YOUR OWN FACE)

 
HopelessIntern:

So who wants the big news?

We went out to the bar yesterday (about 10 of us in total) and we had a blast. Around 7 oclock everyone sort of split up and me and the babe actually stayed and ordered some food. I casually paid for the bill and we sort of got into a little fight over who should pay. I love when girls fight back to pay for it! It's quite obvious they're not going to pay, but I don't want her to expect everything to always be payed for! As we're walking back I got a taxi for her back to her apartment and guess who left with her number!! And the best news.... we've got dinner planned for Saturday night. The words "date" were never said, but it's pretty obvious!

I just wanted to thank all you guys for all your help on here! A lot of your posts were jokes, but to those that offered some good pieces of advice, thank you! To those that offered some nonsense well FYOF (FUCK YOUR OWN FACE)

Bravo. Now, wrap it up.
 
zeroblued:

have you made out yet... or even kissed at least?

whyd you get her a taxi... and pay for it...
I'll tell you frankly, you're too soft.. you will get run over eventually. maybe not by this girl, but by another. you're the kinda guy that a girl will cheat on.. might not be true, but I'm getting that feeling.

Gotta run through some poon first before you become the guy she won't cheat on. OP will be fine.
heister: Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad. https://arthuxtable.com/
 

OP just so you know, if you dont make a move after your dinner with her you will be permanently friendzoned with this girl.

No pressure tho. I personally wouldnt have continued chasing after she denied you the first time, "relationship issues" or whatever the case. You have already put this girl on such a high pedestal than whats acceptable for a hookup anyway.

 
Stryfe:

OP just so you know, if you dont make a move after your dinner with her you will be permanently friendzoned with this girl.

No pressure tho. I personally wouldnt have continued chasing after she denied you the first time, "relationship issues" or whatever the case. You have already put this girl on such a high pedestal than whats acceptable for a hookup anyway.

He clearly is into this girl more than for just a hookup.
heister: Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad. https://arthuxtable.com/
 

What's up guys. First off, just want to say fuck you @"zeroblued"

So Saturday we went out for dinner! We went to some cool korean bbq spot and it went great. Unfortunately she did mention her "ex" a little bit but promised me that was 100% done. We even got on the topic of dating in the office..

So at the end of the night I walked her back to her place which was only about 10 blocks away and gave her a kiss goodnight. She actually pulled my shirt after that when I said bye and we started making out. Unfortunately she didn't invite me inside.. 1. IDK if I would have even went inside. Unlike all your hornballs on here, I actually like this girl. 2. IDK if it means that she wants to take it slowly? 3. She might just be afraid and still like this prick ex bf..

Either way.. I haven't seen her yet today at the office! But when I do not too sure how to play it off. We texted a little yesterday but just casually... I've got no clue where we stand. When I see her I'm most likely going to act chill and friendly, but NOT do anything! Let her think a little... Then maybe wednesday or thursday ask her out again.

ideas/thoughts...? help haha

 
HopelessIntern:

What's up guys. First off, just want to say fuck you @zeroblued

So Saturday we went out for dinner! We went to some cool korean bbq spot and it went great. Unfortunately she did mention her "ex" a little bit but promised me that was 100% done. We even got on the topic of dating in the office..

So at the end of the night I walked her back to her place which was only about 10 blocks away and gave her a kiss goodnight. She actually pulled my shirt after that when I said bye and we started making out. Unfortunately she didn't invite me inside..
1. IDK if I would have even went inside. Unlike all your hornballs on here, I actually like this girl.
2. IDK if it means that she wants to take it slowly?
3. She might just be afraid and still like this prick ex bf..

Either way.. I haven't seen her yet today at the office! But when I do not too sure how to play it off. We texted a little yesterday but just casually... I've got no clue where we stand. When I see her I'm most likely going to act chill and friendly, but NOT do anything! Let her think a little...
Then maybe wednesday or thursday ask her out again.

ideas/thoughts...? help haha

I think you have it from here homie. Just try to lay that majestic gazelle within half a fortnight with all your might and it's smooth sailing from there. Report back when the deed is done and this chapter of "Young Love in NYC: The Tale of HopelessIntern & InternGirl" will conclude in bliss.

You're still a bitch for not posting the bar though. Not a bro move. Goldie would have posted the bar. Personally, I forgive (but do not forget) this misstep.

heister: Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad. https://arthuxtable.com/
 
HopelessIntern:

What's up guys. First off, just want to say fuck you @zeroblued

So Saturday we went out for dinner! We went to some cool korean bbq spot and it went great. Unfortunately she did mention her "ex" a little bit but promised me that was 100% done. We even got on the topic of dating in the office..

So at the end of the night I walked her back to her place which was only about 10 blocks away and gave her a kiss goodnight. She actually pulled my shirt after that when I said bye and we started making out. Unfortunately she didn't invite me inside..
1. IDK if I would have even went inside. Unlike all your hornballs on here, I actually like this girl.
2. IDK if it means that she wants to take it slowly?
3. She might just be afraid and still like this prick ex bf..

Either way.. I haven't seen her yet today at the office! But when I do not too sure how to play it off. We texted a little yesterday but just casually... I've got no clue where we stand. When I see her I'm most likely going to act chill and friendly, but NOT do anything! Let her think a little...
Then maybe wednesday or thursday ask her out again.

ideas/thoughts...? help haha

Good stuff,

I see this girl around the cafe at place. I don't know her and I am assuming you didn't know this girl as well. What did you use as an ice breaker?

 
HopelessIntern:

She actually pulled my shirt after that when I said bye and we started making out. Unfortunately she didn't invite me inside..
1. IDK if I would have even went inside. Unlike all your hornballs on here, I actually like this girl.

You are a beta and you blew your chance to rail her. Also, her ex is not a prick and I don't even know him, he's probably a cool ass dude if he has this girl so wrapped around his finger she talks about him while on a date with YOU! Guess who she called and thought about while getting off after you dropped her off?
 

Great job making the move, especially handling yourself in front of your co-workers to attract the girl without drawing too much attention upon yourself. I'm proud of you OP. With that said, if your honey is grabbing your shirt and making out with you after a date. It's a no-brainer that you go for the close. You both like each other enough to tongue-wrestle, yet you back off because "you actually like her"? Does not compute. As a man, sex first before you think about relationship otherwise you're operating in that female mindset - a big no-no.

Ask her out for drinks again, do some bar-hopping and seal the deal. Do keep us updated and may the force be with you

 

Well, she'll always know exactly how much you earn. If you have no plans to keep a mistress/ hide assets in divorce, it could be OK

NVM, you said isn't. If she wanted to get vicious, she could. Post your SSN on some illegal immigrant online support group or something. Pull up a lot of info on you and misuse it if you don't handle the break up delicately enough and she gets pissed off. I wouldn't date people that sign or process my paycheck, but that's just me.

More is good, all is better
 
Argonaut:
Well, she'll always know exactly how much you earn. If you have no plans to keep a mistress/ hide assets in divorce, it could be OK

NVM, you said isn't. If she wanted to get vicious, she could. Post your SSN on some illegal immigrant online support group or something. Pull up a lot of info on you and misuse it if you don't handle the break up delicately enough and she gets pissed off. I wouldn't date people that sign or process my paycheck, but that's just me.

I think it wouldn't bother me to date a girl in payroll. But it would bother me to date a girl that I think might do the things you just said.

 

You might be gay when you care more about a chicks title than her cup size. Is she attractive? Nice? Funny? Fun? If Heidi Klum worked at McDonalds would you not date her? I didn't realize that you put your penis into a job title, I always thought it was a hot vajay jay.

Jesus christ, I am losing faith in finance daily from this site.

A post on taking it in the ass or blowing a dude and now this ballerina bullshit.

 
ANT:
Jesus christ, I am losing faith in finance daily from this site.

A post on taking it in the ass or blowing a dude and now this ballerina bullshit.

LOL classic. This statement should be on the carved onto the blackboard of every finance classroom in the United States.

 

I also love how because bankers get paid a shit load of money they start looking down at people. Don't forget that you are utilizing high school math and spread sheet skills. Bankers make more money than engineers, that doesn't make them smarter than they are. Just because a woman works in payroll doesn't mean she is dumb. If bankers didn't make a ton of cash people would laugh at them. Nothing about the job is impressive, other than the paycheck.

 
trazer985:
I've dated an underwear model and it was the most unrewarding relationship I ever had. We had zip in common and had hugely different interests.

Wait, are you a dude or a lesbian?

Imagine a heterosexual man looking at a relationship from this perspective? Mind boggling

 

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