How was your experience like moving to a big city after college?
We get a lot of stories of how it was like going from high school to college but I wanted to hear from guys on here who wanted to a big city after college, whether it was directly after college or a few years after college. Experiences in terms of how fun it was, how enjoyable it was, social life, and how transforming it was for you.
I had a very lackluster college experience, didn't really have a lot of fun and was going through a lot of issues during it. Made some friends, joined a couple of organizations, did volunteer work, partied on some rare occasions, and walked away very unfulfilled. Sometimes I wonder what there is to look forward to in terms of big city life, everyone says meeting new people and all that is borderline impossible and you don't want to get way too close to coworkers in that regard either.
Well that was a lot of rambling from me, how was your experience like moving to a big city after college?
Moved to a big city for a year during college: I LOVED IT. I could walk places and not even think about how far away they where because there was always so much to see-never even needed a car! I went out alone for the first time and had a good time with random strangers. I liked that I could blend in and get lost in the crowds. There were all ways so many things to do (besides going for drinks) during the day and during the night.
Nice! Always good to hear such an experience.
"everyone says meeting new people and all that is borderline impossible"
wtf
There are just countless horror stories about social life and meeting people after college, always got the impression that for most people that move to big cities after college, it's supposed to be lonely and isolating because everyone is out for themselves type of deal or whatever.
I sometimes wonder if it is that bad or if the people writing them are just the kinds of people most wouldn't want to make friends with anyways.
I moved to a mid-sized city, not a big city, but it was still cool. Made friends, got close to co-workers, and everything. Lived in a big city this past summer and it was even cooler.
It isn't that hard to have fun and meet people. If you had a "lackluster college experience," that's on you.
Maybe my expectations of a college experience were unrealistic, some of them were rooted in media. I made friends here and there but I just found that the student population at my school was generally so insular and cliquish. Easy to make small talk with people (I am naturally an extrovert), chat with them, and occasionally hang out with them but never really felt that sense of belonging or anything. I didn't shut myself in and completely ignore people, opposite actually, but it was just so tough.
I found that generally, it was kids who were in Greek Life for the most part who enjoyed that sort of a social experience that comes with college.
If you weren't in the same fraternity as some guy or didn't stay in the same dorm as him, he would talk to you but it was more of a small talk and "how are you?" type of conversation and not "why don't we hang out sometime?" type of deal. I did reach out to some guys to hang out but it never really panned out.
Went to college in a city of 1 million, just moved to a city of 5 million. I second what The Regulator says about transport: public is much better here, and I have no need for a car at all.
Honestly, you sound like you could use a fresh start and starting over in any city (especially a big one) is super refreshing in that way. I didn't have any serious baggage or anything like that, but it was awesome walking down the street in this new place and realising that nobody knows me here. It does kinda feel like a chance to live your life like you always wanted to: I'm participating in way more hobbies/clubs etc than I ever did at home, trying new things, etc.
I don't know who said you never meet people in big cities: meeting people is easy if you get out of your apartment every once in a while. Furthermore, being in a big city, and not having any connections there, means you can be far more selective with the people you associate with.
Yes I could use a fresh start, what hobbies/clubs did you personally like?
This one may not be for you, but I've become reasonably involved in the city's main cathedral. I've always been a light Christian - believing in God, enjoying the traditional aspects, but not really following the "rules" or going to church a lot - but since I have this beautiful building 15 minutes walk from my apartment, I figured I didn't really have any excuse not to go. If anything, it's a great excuse to wake up early on Sundays and not waste the whole day. It's a friendly, welcoming community, with various groups and activities for people of all ages at different times throughout the week.
Other things, like Brazilian Jiu Jitsu are right on my doorstep. This place downtown runs classes at all hours, so I've gotten into a routine of finishing work (Commercial banking hours), studying for my CFA for a few hours, then rolling afterwards for an hour or so. Met a lot of great people, and it's a great way to end the day.
Apart from that, on Saturdays I often take the day to go walking/hiking somewhere outside of town. I love downtown living, but you really do miss...quietness after being there too long.
I might add that in bigger cities, there's a lot more going on, and when you live downtown it's a lot easier to find the motivation to go and do stuff. Every now and again there'll be an exhibit of the works of some famous artist, or some kind of food festival, etc. I'm not particularly cultured or anything but when it's 10 minutes away, you don't really have any reason not to.
Went to 1/2 my undergrad in a big city and I am from a big city so the bigger issue was moving to a small town (150-300k ppl) to finish undergrad
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