The reason I was to dump her is because I'm simply not ready for things to get serious, and she seems ready but her poem is kind of changing my mind now :/ what do I do?
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Write her a poem where you dump her in response.
This sounds good to me. Also, what do you mean by serious, OP?
Wait a bit. Get second thoughts. And deal with it.
I would say that if you are facing some doubts, it does not look good for her. But, please, don't dump her the 14th..
How are you not ready? Quit being a pussy; commit or don't. Neither is necessarily a good option, but either you get screwed or she does.
As a good man once said: "Never half-ass two things, always whole-ass one thing." You get it? Don't go halfway on this one.
If you are serious about dumping her and don't think you can work through/comprise on whatever the issue is, dump her now. Like right now.
Otherwise you need to consider the probability of you guys actually staying together. You wanted to dumb her but now you have been this poem, you don't. Is the poem simply playing on your short-term emotions or is it evoking a deeper level of love? So think about it, do you actually care about this person? There is nothing worse than wasting your own and/or someone else's time in a relationship that will ultimately dissolve.
You sound like you are worried about a serious relationship getting in the way of you career(insert other major life thing here); personally, that is a dumb reason to breakup. Meaningful and real relationships will work around simple issues like that. A lot of people on here will tell you that you can't manage a finance career and relationship at the same time. Those people are morons; it is completely do able you just need to know what your getting to before hand.
Also, this is all assuming you are not in HS/College. I have no advise for you in that situation, I was had no interest in any meaningful relationships in college. Complicates the shit out of the situation because of how many factors come into play post college. Will you both be in the same city? etc. I could go on but you get the idea.
Don't be a pussy. Just dump her and move on.
Zak,
I offer you my deepest sympathies with regards to your amorous plight. Might I suggest you craft and send an eloquently rhyming text message?
Warm Regards, Going Concern
No! You took the poem down! Was I the only one that read it?? I feel like it gave a much clearer picture to the situation.
If you're not feeling it, don't let some flowery prose change your mind. It sounds like you already knew how she felt before you read it so what has changed? Nothing. I've had friends stay in long term relationships where they weren't really into it just because of how much their gf "loved" them. In the end it was wasted time and hurt the girl a lot more.
Try picturing being single and living that life again. Do you feel a relief? If you just feel guilty that's not a good reason to stay.
roses are red violets are blue i'm sick of you
This reminds me of Easy Lover by Philip Bailey and Phil Collins: "She will play around and leave you / Leave you and deceive you / Better forget it / Oh you'll regret it".
Men are no matches to women when playing the game.
Plot twist: the poem was for someone else
You want to dump your GF because you're not ready to get serious?
...seriously?
This sounds like one of those "big life regret" moments you'll have in several years when you can't find anyone who matches her, especially since you care enough to have this poem make you waiver...
...and to the insensitive people of WSO, the poem reinforces and reminds of the positive past moments; it's not the singular reason.
...and most of people here on WSO are emotionally immature / think with their penises so you're not going to get a rational decision from them.
Did you even try talking this out with her? See her response? Maybe she'll ease off a bit. That's whole f'ing point of relationships. Communication.
The point of a relationship is........communication? Okay there Dr. Phil.
And I don't think the replies sound insensitive, you just sound like a pussy.
Not trying to be mean but in my opinion, men in general are way more rational and straight-up than women.
OP is a freshman in college. Shouldn't be seriously dating anyway.
Given that most things of a romantic nature lie outside the logical realm, I don't think reason is going to help much...
The little guy is probably going to be as reliable as anything else here...
Also I think OP is like 19
post poem here pls
Roses are red Violets are blue I wish you gave head As well as your friends do
or Haiku:
It's time to end this But, I'd still like to keep you In my rotation
How on earth do you think of such things so early in the morning................
Why are there so many relationship threads on WSO? Not complaining, I always look forward to entertaining responses.
I was going to call up a call girl and then I read this and had to go puke.
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