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Question from female.
Obviously men are a majority here but how do you guys date? How do you find the time and the people?
I think most guys on dating apps either broke or losers or are great at ghosting.
Do you think investment bankers would be into FWB? For me, it's perfect. I take out all intensity in sex and will have someone to go to nice places with(without worrying about how much money they make. I will pay for myself but still)
Was anyone able to meet and retain FWB situation? Where do you meet the people? Events? Friends? Insights appreciated

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Feb 11, 2020 - 8:47am

I Wana know the answer except I am a guy. Tried dating apps and the girls are shit. Just hard to meet people in generally if you are working and busy all the time. I'm not bad looking , always been received well by girls when I talk to them. But since I've started working just never feel I get the chance to meet any. Not sure what to do

 
Feb 13, 2020 - 2:16pm

Assuming your office is in a solid location within a metropolitan city, make it a habit to eat lunch at your desk then leave for 20 minutes to "go to the corner store" around lunchtime. Talk to girls on the street. You can easily get 1-3 numbers per day week doing this.

Best of luck.

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Feb 14, 2020 - 4:42am

op pls do this, this is incredible advice

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  • Prospect in IB-M&A
Feb 11, 2020 - 10:04am

you can find them on dating apps or in real life (that would be romantic). I'm not saying don't go for guys you don't find attractive , but maybe hit a tier a bit lower (nice guys who won't fk you over) , instead of hitting up fk boys with no career ambition. I'm a nice Canadian boy btw haha boy also

 
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  • Prospect in IB-M&A
Feb 11, 2020 - 10:22am

i would definitely be open to it since I got out of a relationship and am finally ready to put myself out there. I just don't think i'm good enough for you! you are an analyst (most likely in NYC) probably from a target, while im just an incoming SA from a canadian non-target who will be in nyc this summer.

I really want to date a banker and I love powerful women who are also caring and spontaneous. If you are still unattached and single (i doubt this will happen, because you seem pretty amazing so far haha), we could grab a coffee!

 
  • Business School in IB - Gen
Feb 11, 2020 - 10:34am

Also a nice Canadian boy moving to NYC this summer. Not big on dating apps, but what I've found to be helpful is when you go out with your co-workers' friends, who introduce you to other friends that work at diff companies and are fair game. Since your co-workers spend so much time with you, they're oftenhappy to put in a good word. Perhaps ask your co-workers to intro you to some of their other buddies when you all go out after hours.

 
Feb 13, 2020 - 12:29pm

Nice guys definitely still exist (I'm about to get shredded on this thread for saying this). Honestly, the best FWB and/or dates I have ever met have been through my friends. Maybe I am in the minority here, but I have a group of about 10 friends in NYC that are all in NYC in different industries. Two other guys and I went to college together, and the others I met here. We all have other friends as well that get introduced to the core group, and that's how I have met any pdf the girls I have dated or kept a FWB relationship with. It's harder when you are in Banking like most of us, but still possible...... DO NOT SLEEP WITH YOUR CO-WORKERS. Made that mistake.

 
Feb 11, 2020 - 11:59am

what, so tinder but with more dudes and fewer social skills?

sounds like a winner.

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Feb 11, 2020 - 11:24am

This is one of the reasons finance and banking pay well. You get paid. But there are big big sacrifices to be made. In this case your time and social life. It doesn't get any better as you get older, believe me, OP

Good Luck

I used to do Asia-Pacific PE (kind of like FoF). Now I do something else but happy to try and answer questions on that stuff.
 
Feb 11, 2020 - 12:13pm

I have friends who are dating women in high finance/big law. Dating apps work to an extent - its just a means of meeting new people. Find someone who is understanding of your schedule and b brutally honest if you feel it would not work out.

I know some would schedule dates 2-3 weeks in advance anticipating work. However, doing the FWB gets complicated if either party wants an actual relationship down the road.

I'd invest the time in doing social activities and finding people who are works well with you.

No pain no game.
 
Feb 11, 2020 - 1:44pm

In NYC I found that chill bars (i.e. happy hour type of situations) were the best for getting #'s and hooking up later. A lot easier than any place that might be called a "club. I'd go for a friday night drink not planning on meeting anyone but a lot of the time it would just happen. I think that's the case for a lot of guys plus you have the added benefit of concentration, i.e. all the midtown bars will be full of bankers.

As for keeping it FWB and not a relationship . . well lets just say that's an art and I succeeded in that sometimes but I'm no Da Vinci. Favoring younger and trashier girls improves the odds a bit

 
Feb 11, 2020 - 1:49pm

PteroGonzalez:

In NYC I found that chill bars (i.e. happy hour type of situations) were the best for getting #'s and hooking up later. A lot easier than any place that might be called a "club. I'd go for a friday night drink not planning on meeting anyone but a lot of the time it would just happen. I think that's the case for a lot of guys plus you have the added benefit of concentration, i.e. all the midtown bars will be full of bankers.

As for keeping it FWB and not a relationship . . well lets just say that's an art and I succeeded in that sometimes but I'm no Da Vinci. Favoring younger and trashier girls improves the odds a bit


OP is female. Think for getting FWB that'll be quite easy.
 
Feb 11, 2020 - 2:50pm

if you're just looking for a FWB why does it matter if their broke? I'd say the best place to find FWB in nyc is waiters/waitresses and bartenders. Young people with flexible schedule and always know how to have a good time. Unless they're too "broke" 4 u

 
  • Associate 1 in IB-M&A
Feb 11, 2020 - 5:08pm

Madisonave:

if you're just looking for a FWB why does it matter if their broke? I'd say the best place to find FWB in nyc is waiters/waitresses and bartenders. Young people with flexible schedule and always know how to have a good time. Unless they're too "broke" 4 u

As a male, I have an irrational paranoia about hooking up with very low income females. Always feel like they're going to find a way toscam me and get pregnant.
 
Feb 11, 2020 - 7:08pm

plenty of PE chicks to slay and network with on hinge

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  • Prospect in IB - Gen
Feb 11, 2020 - 10:58pm

On a tangent, I know a guy (MD) who was telling me how he did not like Wall Street type girls, so he made a concerted effort to be in a serious relationship with what he described as a "good girl" (he preferred creative industry girls) by the time he graduated from his liberal arts college. Guess it worked out for him though since he married her and has kids; seemed very happy talking about her. Said they actually got together early on in college too. He said all this at a lunch at a table with all guys. He really spooked some, and now a lot of them are afraid of being forever alone. I'm not going to pretend like I wasn't spooked too. Maybe just a little bit.........

 
Feb 12, 2020 - 6:19pm

My close business partners and I had a pool we pitched into to hire a kid to screen our dating apps/run them. I met my current gf via tinder about a year or so ago via this method. It's worked really well as it saves you a ton of time...really not hard to filter by red flags too.

 
Feb 12, 2020 - 9:03pm

I stopped dating long ago. Now I have way more money to spend on Chef Boyardee. Best decision I've ever made

I’m a fun guy. Obviously I love the game of basketball. I mean there’s more questions you have to ask me in order for me to tell you about myself. I'm not just gonna give you a whole spill... I mean, I don't even know where you're sitting at
 
Feb 15, 2020 - 12:52pm

Met all of my past girlfriends and my current one through local events, friends' circles, etc. I rarely go to the bar or club, and even if I do, it's more to chill out with friends. Incidentally met the current missus while going to get my gut checked.

Last time I used Tinder was when I got matched with a 30-something MILF with a son who lied about her age. Never again, even if I get condemned to the highway of single-living eternally.

GoldenCinderblock: "I keep spending all my money on exotic fish so my armor sucks. Is it possible to romance multiple females? I got with the blue chick so far but I am also interested in the electronic chick and the face mask chick."
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