I'm getting blackmailed by my ex-girlfriend.

I have met this girl a couple of months ago on a site called FetLife. It's a munch/friendship/dating site for people interested in BDSM. I won't go into details too much, but she was into being a submissive, and I liked being a dom. We have talked for couple of days, had sex, and after a month or so we decided to move in together. She was into serving/cooking/cleaning, and then being punished for small things. I'm not gonna lie being served after working 14 hours was so good until...

She asked me to leave more marks on her, and hit/slap harder. At the beginning I tried to do it, but after that she asked for even more marks, and then I decided to end the relationship and kicked her out. She lost her mind and left. A week ago she sent me some pictures with marks on her body, threatening me to send these pictures to my collegues if I don't send her 3000$.

I did sent the money, and she told me that she deleted everything and will not contact me ever again. I was so fucking relieved to this day, but again today she sent me a message and asked for more money. I don't fucking know what to do. If I report her to the police, even though we were in a consensual relationship I'm %100 sure I will lose my career. I'm desperate and don't know what to do. Please any advice would be appreciated.

 
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Are you dumb?

Literally just keep the texts / messages as proof she’s trying to blackmail you

 

I'm keeping the texts, but at the end of the day even though she asked for it I have slapped and hit her. Even if I prove I'm innocent, I doubt that the bank will not fire me if they learn about this.

 

I'm keeping the texts, but at the end of the day even though she asked for it I have slapped and hit her. Even if I prove I'm innocent, I doubt that the bank will not fire me if they learn about this.

Well then you sue the shit out of them

Go screenshot all your messages, call logs, etc going back to inception (whatever  app you met on)

You shouldn’t have sent her money in the first place. Now she knows you’re scared af and can control you 

 

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