In IB how much time could you get off for getting Married + Honeymoon?
Lets say you were an age 29-31 year old associate at a BB or a solid shop. If you were to ask for 2 and a half to -3 weeks off would he get either fired or really shit on hard by everyone (even the head up their ass 1st year Analysts who are thinking: weak sauce...) . Or do you get a free pass because it is your wedding. Or do the VPs and MDs not give a flying rip. Do Associates/VP have to reschedule their weddings if their boss demand you be in the office for a bake-off or closing? The deal is more important than your pathetic wedding.
Honestly in the above situation what would someone do? There is no f***ing way I feel anyone should reschedule their wedding day or honeymoon because the douche-bag super type A MD gives you a 150 page pitchbook to finish for his precious deal. Wedding + Honeymoon is a once in lifetime event (ideally) is it worth cutting for Investment Banking?
idk, but 2.5 to 3 weeks seems like a long time. A buddy of mine just got married (in IB) and he only took off a week.
Give everyone plenty of notice in advance and it should be all good with most rational and sane people.
That said, I got married in the morning and was back in the office within 30 minutes of getting married.
Please tell me you're joking.
did you answer your blackberry as well while you were walking up the aisle?
Not joking. Both wife and I work at IBs. We've got photos of us both checking blackberries mid (civil) ceremony. My executive assistant was my witness.
I'm assuming this is annual leave and not unpaid leave? If you're asking for extra time off, even if unpaid, I'd be thinking you can't organise your life and work properly.
Time off for weddings? (Originally Posted: 03/19/2014)
As an associate in IBD, how difficult is it to be out of the office for a weekend (and maybe the friday before) for a wedding or bachelor party? Is this frowned upon if you are just starting but have a few of these over the summer, or is it okay as long as you have an internet connection and can get some work done off site?
Depends, is this for your 3rd or 4th wedding? As long as she's younger than your MD's wife, has bigger boobs, and speaks little english, then you should have no issues and will probably get mad respect from higher ups.
Haha, should have clarified: for attending the weddings of family and friends
Interested in this as well. One of the biggest turnoffs for me re: IBD is the lack of flexibility around traveling / time off.
No one will care over the weekend as long as you don't have deal work to do. And even the friday is fine but probably wouldn't over do it (more than like 3 over the summer). Obviously varies by firm though.
I'm interested in this as well but for a surgical procedure that requires 1 + weekend downtime. Hm...
NOPE! No surgery allowed in IB. If you, say, have appendicitis, you just have to power on through!!!!!!!!
Time off for weddings? (Originally Posted: 03/19/2014)
As an associate in IBD, how difficult is it to be out of the office for a weekend (and maybe the friday before) for a wedding or bachelor party? Is this frowned upon if you are just starting but have a few of these over the summer, or is it okay as long as you have an internet connection and can get some work done off site?
I agree with your statement but it seems that 3 weeks vacation might be a strech to get in this industry. I think as long as you invite your MD to your wedding he should not have anything against your honeymoon time.
Honeymoon (Originally Posted: 09/06/2010)
I'm a 2nd year analyst and have been fortunate to have found the girl of my dreams. We are engaged now for 2 months and are planning our wedding for next summer. The plan is to take a honeymoon shortly after, and I'm just curious as to what amount of honeymoon time is appropriate given the fact that I work at a BB and will be returning for a 3rd year. I was hoping to take off ~2 weeks (leave Monday, return to work 2 Mondays later). Thoughts?
honeymoon 2 - 3 wks typical at BB S&T.
It's your vacation time. You're getting married, if anyone looks down at that then fuck them.
Yeah, seriously - people on here might rip on you for getting married so early but you only (ideally and hopefully, if she's the girl of your dreams) get one wedding and one honeymoon so make it count and worry about the rest later.
I took 4 days and the weekend
Ha ha are you serious Monty?
Along the same lines, I will be getting married next summer and have a 10 day to 2 week honeymoon planned. I will also be graduating in December and am looking for various opportunities. My concern is that I may get a must have opportunity that I will have to pass on because the honeymoon is booked and paid for. Thoughts....?
THOUGHTS????
You haven't even graduated yet and you're getting married? Are you fucking kidding me???
I can't do this.
MBA I hope????
I know some 3rd year analysts that negotiated a vacation between their 2nd and 3rd years (1-2 weeks). Given it is your wedding, you should be able to negotiate this pretty easily.
Went back to school after more than a few years in the work force to finish my degree.
You should be fine as long as you let everyone know in advance. The only potential pushback I can think of is if your 2 weeks would be in the middle of summer when there's only one class of full-time analysts around. Even then though, it's your honeymoon, and that should be a free pass to do what you want and forget about the office for awhile.
There is a lot of pessimism towards marriage on this site. As someone about to get married in about a month, I will say this: I was just like every hater here, thinking the good life meant being single until I made VP, and marrying some hot chick 10 years younger than me with a pedigreed background. Then I realized how childish I was. When you meet the girl who you truly know is a good person, and you are attracted to them both from a personality and physical standpoint, and you know they love you above anything else, things like degrees, prestige or having a "trophy" wife seem pretty silly. I think that if you can really contemplate what you are getting into, and realize that its how you handle temptation that defines your true character in life (understanding the grass is always greener mentality), you can lead a happy life. I'm not religious at all--so don't take this as some Christian speech. I do suggest not getting married right out of college, but at the same time I think I am going to be stronger as someone sticking out my associate years because I know when I come crawling into bed at 2am, half the mattress will be warm as I crawl in to spoon my wife before I fall asleep.
But hey who knows, maybe I will just be another statistic...I think I am making a good choice though.
this room's battered and tattered like someone had it before me and just kept throwin' they fuckin' self at it/ my head is achin', i'm dedicated to medication...but this med is takin' too long to bring me to seDEADation/
best verbal analysis off marriage i can give
wow what a gay speech...has your wife already chopped your balls off ?
I'd take three weeks between 2nd/3rd year. Seriously you have a lot of leverage. Banks like third years since they're productive. Worst case, I'd switch banks and get the 1 month off between.
2-2.5 weeks for me, closer to 3 weeks for a guy I worked with (back when i was in IB)
Honeymoon and I-Banking (Originally Posted: 01/26/2007)
Is it possible to get married as an analyst and have time for a honeymoon, or would this have to be postponed? Same question but for associate level as well.
screw them and take a honeymoon
I actually waited on getting married (we've been engaged since '04) just so I could get a vacation during my analyst tenure. Thus, I may be the only first-year out there who's actually being encouraged to take a two-week vacation.
I plan on spending most of it in New York, sleeping.
I saw people take honeymoons. It is sort of the one thing that gets you a free pass.
Exactly. That's the one thing (along with maybe a week if your mom dies) that nobody can/will argue with.
i can only imagine that if your a girl banker, having a wedding during an analyst stint would be a terrible idea because of the time/stress that goes in to planning
if your daddy's rich... it'll help a lot.
To a certain extent - Not sure how many women would delegate the wedding dress selection, or the flours etc etc etc etc
After all, women love foreplay
What kind of loser wants to get married so young anyways ? When there is so much quality tail in NYC
Hey, at least I have a girl. I think that makes it much harder for me to be a loser.
The ironic part is that I don't care what my wedding's like, but he does. (I didn't dream of my wedding day when I was a little girl; I dreamed of riding around on a warhorse and cutting people down.) So I delegated it ALL to him: the budget, the flowers, the reception, the venue, even my dress. And his taste... well, it isn't so great. Ha. Haha. Muahahahahahaha!
So if any of you want to see what happens when weddings get planned by someone lacking the necessary chromosome pairing for it, come on down. I can't wait to see what kind of dress he sticks me in. It's going to be a laugh riot.
I have never heard anything like that. You may want to send a PI out to check out if he hits a lot of the chelsea nightspots.
Just a thought.
3 weeks of paid leave off for the honeymoon seems like the norm in my office. I would just give notice well ahead of time so theres people to cover for you.
I agree with others saying that 2-3 weeks is fine. It's not like you won't be able to give 6 months advance notice.
The thing is some MD don't give a shit. I'm a long ways off marriage but I had given 4 weeks notice for just two days off for a weekend trip to Europe I planned and on Thursday he tells me he needs me in the office and I need to come in on the weekend for a beauty pageant on Tuesday. I had taken no days off this year and I was in on Labour Day and July 4th.
This would be fine if it just impacted me, but when you make social plans with OTHER people who rely on you and when you're the key guy on that trip it REALLY screws everyone over.
I explained to him that "People depend on me for this trip" because I'm the only one who spoke the language and since I lived in that city I was gonna show them around. He replies "Yeah, that doesn't work for me. You need to come in."
Imagine if that happens to you on their wedding/honeymoon. Would any of you have the balls to tell him no?
As a guy who just got married, I can promise you that your fiance/wife a week before the wedding is about 100 times scarier to say no to than any MD/BSD.
I don't know man, I know a lot of IBD Associates/Analysts that get married, and not one of them cancelled their wedding, so it can't be that complicated.
Is that a serious question?
If that happens to you on your wedding / honeymoon, you need to find a job with a better boss.
Guy in my group took 2 weeks off. 1 week of vacation time and 1 week of block leave back to back.
If you cancel your wedding because your MD asks you to come in, you can probably kiss your whole marriage good bye.
As well as your masculinity
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