Investment bankers, do you expect your partner to have as prestigious a job as you do?

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I know how difficult to get a job in the field and although I'm on the right way to have a good career I'm still in college and this guy I'm hoping to get serious with just got a job as a securities analyst at GS and I feel like he's on a different level.

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  • Associate 2 in CorpDev
Sep 24, 2019

"Security analyst" and "securities analyst" are two rather "different levels"..

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Sep 24, 2019

Right. Thanks for pointing out.

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  • Associate 2 in CorpDev
Sep 24, 2019

No worries. Anyway to your question, nope doesn't matter as Long as you guys have a common understanding on key aspects of the relationship - the bulk of it being that you'll need to get used to him not being around much given his new work hours

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Sep 24, 2019

type in goldman securities analyst on linkedin and look at the women he'll be working with.. i would say that should be your primary concern

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Sep 24, 2019

basically a modelling agency at this point

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Sep 27, 2019

Wtf lol I thought you were exaggerating. It's like they only take pretty people from good schools.

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  • Associate 2 in CorpDev
Sep 27, 2019

OP, as long as you keep him more satisfied than those girls you guys will be fine

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Sep 24, 2019

Don't know why anyone would focus a lot on that. As long as the relationship is healthy and you are both working towards your goals, the "prestige" of the job shouldn't really matter IMO.

Following prestige just to feel like you are pleasing your partner will lead to a miserable career.

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Sep 24, 2019

I think the questions you should be asking yourself are about your self worth and not if someone is automatically better than you because they have a shiny new job. I understand if you're working as a cleaning staff member and he's a brain surgeon that your lifestyles/expectations may differ but that's far from the case here. No-one worth your time in the long run would look to 'upgrade' from you depending on their job.

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Sep 26, 2019

I truly feel bad for anyone who cares how prestigious their partner's job is.

What I care about in a partner: how interesting they are, how nice they are, how hot they are. That's it. I'll let you figure out which criterion is most important.

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Sep 26, 2019

I'm assuming you are male. Men and Women are not the same.

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Sep 26, 2019
anonymous9191:

I'm assuming you are male. Men and Women are not the same.

so u r a gold digger

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Sep 26, 2019

Long personality , short looks?

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Sep 30, 2019

I would prefer to long both

Sep 30, 2019

Exactly, as I pursue a career in IB/consulting and my gf works in securities I am totally fine with it. She can even work as cleaning staff and it doesn't matter, relationship and career are two different things.

@KjsM your bf has different, probably healthier approach to life, and you need to decide what you personally want

Sep 26, 2019

No. I expect my partner to pursue a fulfilling career. Happy wife, happy life.

Sep 26, 2019

I'd rather they do something that makes them happy. As long as they're comfortable and understanding of my schedule. I would hope the money I make from slaving the fuck away gives them the liberty to pursue their passions.

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Sep 27, 2019

As long aa she's chill and can suck and fuck idc

Currently applying to medical school.
3 Acceptance so far

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Sep 28, 2019

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If you don't snag one, you will have to settle for an Operations manager, so find a guy before they're taken!

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Sep 28, 2019

I swear to god half the girls on this site are abnormal

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Sep 28, 2019

I really don't think IB is that prestigious. It's a bunch of smart people who choose to sell their time and soul for money. Nothing wrong with that but we aren't changing the world in the same way doctors, tech innovators, pharma research and government officials are.

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Sep 30, 2019

Yep. 99.9% of people outside of Manhattan do not care or even know what an investment banker is.

Most people in my Tier 2 city would be more impressed by a junior accountant at EY than a banker.

Sep 30, 2019

In my experience when it comes to dating the big differences and barriers don't come from the "prestige" of the job but more with lifestyle expectations. As bankers we have a solid income and are typically better off financially than most people, which gives us some leeway with our spending. I consider myself to be quite frugal but with the things I enjoy doing I'm generally not going to worry about how much it costs, where spending a few hundred dollars at dinner may not be a big deal to me it could be for someone I'm dating. Unless they're the kind of douche that thinks prestige matters you'll be fine as long your expectations are in line.

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Sep 30, 2019

So my thoughts on this have changed over time. I used to not care at all what my SO did as long as it was something that made them happy. After two rather lengthy relationships (2 years or more) came to an end and I did some reflection, there is a certain amount of income when there is a big enough income and/or preftige gap. Your life is substantially different than theirs and there is a lot that they simply won't understand. I think it can work, but I'm not going to sugar coat it and tell you it's easy. Looking forward, I don't think the next one necessarily needs to work in finance at my same level to avoid such friction, but I do think their is some sort of parity that needs to exist.

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Sep 30, 2019

Here's my perspective - they need to be somebody who is driven and dedicated to whatever profession they are in, regardless of if it is "prestigious" or not.

Naturally, people with a lot of drive / ambition tend to self select into fields like finance, law, consulting, medicine, etc. Being a teacher isn't considered "prestigious" on these forums, but I'd be fine having my SO pursue that as a career as long as they are passionate about being the best teacher they can be. Just don't think I'd be able to handle somebody that just wants to "coast" forever.

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