I've known this girl since 6th grade and now she's cheated on me

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I've known her for 13 years and now she's cheated with her brother in law. I broke up with her but I can't stop thinking about her and crying like a baby. I loved this girl so much and I've loved her for so long that I'm not able to see myself without her anymore. It's taking a toll on my social and family as well as my work. I'm being suicidal now. I really don't know what to do or how to pull myself together.

this song pretty much sums up my whole life except that i don't see myself moving on

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Dec 1, 2018

If you're planning a suicide and want to stop, call 911 immediately for them to take you to the hospital to be put into the hands of a professional psychiatrist immediately.

If you are feeling down and just don't know what to do, start to make steps to move around and move on. Start by going on a walk. Just get up and walk around outside. Bring some music, go for a run, go to the gym. You're going to want to crank up the positive chemicals in your mind. Engage your support system. Talk about it with close friends and family members. Focus on your career/education. Work your ass off until the time passes where you are stronger and better as a person and don't need to think about that shit anymore. Travel if needed. Explore. Adventure. Live, love, laugh. Don't have a pity fest for yourself, but rather think about what you can do for the world and how you are getting there, to help others and how this world is a better place with you than without it.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Dec 1, 2018

First you should block her from all social medias, it seems ridiculous but they are toxic and it will be easier to get over her if you don't stalk her Instagram profile every hour. You should also block the brother in law (btw this is weird) and any relatives that post a lot of stories/photos with her.
It will definitely take some time but you CAN get over her. You should consider going and Tinder/other dating apps and trying to date some girls just to pass time and think about something else, it won't be love at first sight (except if you are super lucky) but it will help you to open a new chapter.

If you are strong enough to post on this forum/realize that you are not feeling well right now, it is a very good first step, being conscious of your own situation is a GOOD thing.

Cheers

Dec 3, 2018

Getting cheated on sucks, regardless of one's age or experiences.

That being said, it can often be tougher, in some ways, when you're younger and have had limited experiences/relationships and you can easily feel like the world you know is crumpling down around your ears. The younger we are, the more irreplaceable a friend or lover can appear to us, simply by virtue of how long we've known them. Sounds like you've known her for half your life or longer.

As Isaiah_53_5 stated, if you are really feeling truly helpless, there is zero shame in getting yourself some help.

Please know that as much as her actions may have hurt you, if you were to hurt yourself, there are others in your life that would be devastated. You won't be doing anybody any favors taking yourself out of the equation. I won't tell you not to dwell on the past, because it's easy for others to tell us what not to do.

But again, as Isaiah_53_5 suggested, start mixing up and kicking your routine to minimize allowing yourself to be distracted with thinking of her. Walk, run, swim, box, yoga...getting your blood oxygenated is never a bad thing. Masturbate, as endorphins are also not a bad thing. Talk to people you trust to help you put things into perspective. Set some goals for yourself... set some really short-term goals as well as some longer-term goals so you've got things on your horizon to strive for, things to help you mark time in different ways. Date casually, without the mindset of replacing her but more along the thinking of finding people that you simply enjoy being around and that they enjoy being around you.

There are other threads here on WSO where folks have gone through similar things, skim through them and see if there are additional tips, ideas and insights that resonate with you, that'll help you address what you're dealing with and that might help you grasp how to move forward.

Sorry that this happened to you, I hope you work on getting a handle on this.

Here's one recent similar thread...

https://www.wallstreetoasis.com/forums/im-lost-and...
Good luck to you and hang in there.

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Dec 3, 2018