Life not lived... What would you do if you weren't doing what you're doing now.

I keep thinking "what if my life took a different turn some time ago?" What talents and wishes do you think you might have had or actually had? I'm taking about ones that would have taken your life and career in a completely different direction.

As for me, I was a very mathy kod. From the ages 6 to 13 I spent significant amount of time trying to discover patterns in numbers. If I knew what pure math was back then, I'd be doing a math PhD now instead of a lucrative quant finance job.

 
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I recently picked up "Math and Love" and am liking it so far. Kinda hits on what life could've been like had I really gotten into advanced mathematics and physics. Like you, I spent an unusual amount of time just learning about math for fun. By the time I hit 14 I got a new group of friends and a girlfriend and got off track. Never really applied myself and spent too much time in on-off relationships where I'd stay up late figuring out why they're randomly pissed and not doing my homework. I too, would've liked to have done a PhD in something super obscure and interesting and find solutions to complex problems. I barley learned about the PhD process a few weeks ago.

Despite this, I realize what I've gained. All of what I've done has led me to meet my soon to be wife. I've gotten pretty damn good at reading people and navigating through complex and touchy conversations. I've become very comfortable with taking big risks. I realize time is finite yet we don't need to stick to a strict plan we put in place for ourselves.

I realized I didn't like my career direction so I am in the process of changing. I am able to put an unusual amount of energy into programming and mathematics and feel like I'm getting back to the life "I could've had". Although I likely won't be a hardcore quant researcher or ML Engineer working on the cutting edge of computer vision, I have honed in a mix of soft skills that I can pair with newfound technical chops to hopefully have an interesting career in it's own regard.

Sometimes you have to go through a valley to reach a summit.

“The three most harmful addictions are heroin, carbohydrates, and a monthly salary.” - Nassim Taleb
 

If I was 3 inches taller, faster, and had better hand eye coordination I'd be a pro athlete. Right around now I'd be retiring and transitioning into coaching and then management.

I kid, I kid.

I was pre-law all through college, took the LSAT and everything. My life not lived is as an attorney, or more likely, I'd be right here in real estate having been an attorney and hated it.

When I was a kid I wanted to be a paleontologist. I knew all the dinosaurs by name. I don't know why I thought that living in a tent out in the desert and digging for fossils would be my life, as it very much isn't, but I loved dinosaurs more than most things.

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I would be attending a medical school. I’m very early in my career, so of course there is a possibility that it might still happen, but unlikely so.

Took all the pre-med classes, did really well in those, but literally had no money to take the MCAT, leave alone attend a medical school. I come from a very poor family from outside of the US, so no loan or military options. It was a bit sad to pursue a career for the money rather than a calling, but nothing beats being able to financially support family in my early 20s.

 

The original reason I transferred to the school I graduated from was because their Air Force ROTC program had a good track record of getting pilot slots. My dad flew jets in the Marine Corps and it always sounded bad ass doing low levels through mountains. I thought special forces would be fun too. I thought too much and made the practical choice of going to the business school because the career of a pilot long term sounded boring, and the family life of special forces sounded miserable.

The bottom line is that I am still trying to figure out what I am passionate about, it is a sucky place to be but trying to get there sounds right.

 

I decided in 2000 that I wanted to try to go be a pro snowboarder (boardercross). I didn't live near a mountain, so moved to the west coast in 2000 to get better. I won regionals that year in my age group and placed 34th in the nation at the time at nationals.

I got to SoCal and immediately latched on to the boarder group and had a season pass to Snow Summit. My group of friends all ripped. I was the fastest, but couldn't do anything cool on jumps. Then there was this other kid who was a geek with funky style named Shaun White and he legit kept improving and then started his snowboard career, also showing that some boarders could actually get paid. They paid even less in my specialty (boardercross) and I never made it when I was younger - so thought I was done.

Then in 2011, I went to regionals to see if I could qualify for nationals again and qualified, but didn't go. It is more just a hobby for me at that point. Then I qualified again in 2018 and 2019 for nationals and actually attended in the Open/Pro category in 2018 and got my ass kicked by all the kids who will probably be on the Olympic team (Australia's national boardercross team was there, as well as Canada national boardercross team). Everyone had black Kessler boards and I ride on a very unique Kessler / Palmer Platinum LE. The 2018 course was horrible for that board as it was so fast and my board is big and fast; unfortuantely,I didn't have another technical board I could go to that was shorter. I really got my ass kicked out there. They were significantly technically better than me and several groups had multiple coaches and would travel and train all season. It was an experience.

After that, I think I hung up my hopes of going to the X Games or Olympics in boardercross and pretty much knew that even if I did - it wasn't going to be for much money at all. So now I am just looking to freeride and go boarding casually with friends.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Sounds silly but a pro skateboarder.

When I was about 14, I was flow on a relatively known skate team and would get free boards, shirts, pants, and maybe a pair of shoes every now and then from the team and my local shop since I was somewhat sponsored. For those that don't know, being on flow is akin to an intern for an undetermined amount of time, trying to impress your team for a FT offer.

I was on flow for about two and a half years, busting my ass every day after school hitting the parks and streets, making video clips and sending them to shops like Anti-Hero, Baker, Girl, Nike SB, etc. I even went to LA once on a trip with my local skate shop which was such a blast. Got to see some actual pros skate and hit all the sick spots you would see in their videos.

By about 16-17, I started to realize when I would go to the parks that all these younger kids were just as good as me, if not better. I realized that some of them were probably flow too and trying to make pro at like 12-13 or whatever age they were. Couple that with me now being a junior in high school starting to find interest in the business world, I stopped skating all the time and making clips.

Soon after, just stopped skating overall except for weekends to focus on SAT and college apps. Skate team stopped sending me free gear, local shop said I wasn't motivated anymore, and I was officially no longer flow. At that moment, I gave it all up. Worst decision of my life I think. Honestly think if I had continued my hustle, I would have been pro at some point. Probably not a shoe deal with Nike or anything, but maybe on a team like DC or Emerica.

I get this isn't finance related, but the joy I had skating and making videos with my friends were the most fun moments of my childhood. And to be paid for doing something you truly love is unreal and I can't believe I gave it all up. But that's life and you learn and move on. Still skate whenever I can though to this day.

 

I relate to this man. I used to skate too and it was so relaxing to just hit the streets and push, having the city as your skatepark. Being on a cover of Thrasher was my dream. But I gave it up too when I was about your age and like you thought it was a bad decision. But you have to remember that skating is a young kid's "game" as their bodies can withstand all the falling and bashing, but as you get older your body feels it more and injuries last longer. Mine sure did and I bet for you too. Plus skating careers usually don't last long as you continually have to be putting out content on IG, youtube, whatever platform to keep urself relevant.

Ya know what they say, different strokes for different folks but i'm glad you're still pushing to this day.

 

Damn, too many to count but any of those was at some point something I honestly considered: - Go into either biochemistry or engineering - Become a lawyer - Become a writer - Become a professional brass musician - Become a Catholic priest - Become as famous as @lloydblankfine on Insta" (just kidding, just kidding...)

 

When I was a kid, I wanted to be (in chronological order):

  1. A professor.
  2. A doctor.
  3. A lawyer.
  4. A politician.
  5. A cop/militar.

I am really lucky, because when it came the time to chose what to study, I chose finance, without really knowing what it was all about (like most of the high school kids, I only knew what I had seen in the films, which is really far away from reality). I am lucky because I really love finance and I don't want to do anything else. I just realized how unhappy and how unrealized I would feel with myself if I had chosen to study any other thing.

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I played a lot of sports when I was a kid, especially baseball. I had some talent and practiced a lot. As a kid, I would have loved to have pursued a baseball career but I never thought I was tall enough to be successful. One of my favorite classes in school was constitutional law. There have been times (not recently) when I have thought about going back to law school but then life happens and you get too busy and have more responsibilities.

 

Tucker Max's "Why You Should Not Go to Law School"

Talk to a lawyer. They will quickly disabuse you of that law-school notion. And as for constitutional law.... that's argued by maybe 3 people in the nation, all of whom graduated top of their class at Harvard in the 1960s. If that's not your profile, you wouldn't have been arguing those cases anyway, but rather doing doc review in an unlit cubicle somewhere.

Yesterday I met up w/ one of my former roommates. Top school undergrad, top tier law school, middle-of-class law school, 10 years experience practicing as an attorney, $65k/year salary. If that sounds LIT, then maybe law **is ** for you.

 

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