Meeting Girls Right Now?

Tired of using my blow up doll...anyone have any ideas for real life interaction with real life women right now? All reasonable suggestions welcome.

Haven't been in college for a long time now, and coincidentally, moved to a large city back in January (right before COVID hit), so not much of a social circle. Also, not on any social media except on Linkedin for work, otherwise never been into Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and whatever else. Have tried dating apps, but honestly believe that people are unrealistically picky (myself included). In person has more potential. 

Would prefer meeting women for more than hookups, especially with winter around the corner.

Let's hear what you got. To the women of WSO, feel free to donate your 0.02, even though you usually say one thing but do the complete opposite (sorry for the passive aggressiveness).

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Oct 25, 2020 - 10:09pm

Bars/clubs closed in your area? Social media/dating apps are a solid place, but bars/clubs are old school. I will tell you all of my wife's sorority sisters have used tender etc at some point.

Social media is also good for finding certain special interest groups where you could find like-minded folks. For example, a friend of my wife's is in a hiking group and they all go on hiking trips together. It is organized through facebook.

 
  • VP in IB - Gen
Oct 25, 2020 - 10:14pm

Bars and indoor dining is at 25% capacity right now and can't stay open past 9 PM. Everytime I go to pick up food (when I don't have delivered), there's barely anyone around. Not sure how I can even strike up convo with a mask on, assuming girls want to be approached with COVID going around. 

Will go with your suggestion and join FB (even though I despise it). Thanks for the reply.

 
Oct 25, 2020 - 10:21pm

Yeah and obviously if there isn't a special interest group that interests you then you can form your own. There's likely a group based on your city/region you can join that and poach like-minded individuals into your group. Again, probably a longer term strategy to getting laid with this approach but you can begin developing a social circle in your transplant city which will be a good foundation for meeting Misses Right/Right Now. Guarantee there's a thousand single women or more in your area with the exact same thought as you right now.

 
Oct 26, 2020 - 11:17am

janes1

These are desperate times that call for desperate measures. Wear a wedding band. Be prepared for unprecedented attention and interest. 

mine's tatted on and i never get hit i must be ugly

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/
 
Oct 26, 2020 - 11:20pm

it is literally cat nip. cant post link but here is the gist of it c&p'd. Fake it till you make it lol. 

 

It's animalistic.
"Mate poaching" or the less judge-y sounding "mate-choice copying" is when a mammal expresses preference for the male who's been seen with other females or even mated with them. As Miike Snow sings it, "I change shapes just to hide in this place but I'm still/ I'm still an animal."

The freaking wedding-industrial complex, man.

A guy with a ring has proved he can take the leap. That's appealing, especially to a woman who is sick of flakes, Peter Pans, and perpetual bachelors.

Women dig a happily married guy who dotes on his wife.

Cue the line "Why are all the good ones taken?"

Emotional Affairs
These are so easy to fall into, and so dangerous. A married guy talking to single women about all his marital woes is going to lead to a bunch of hurt feelings, and potentially physical affairs.

It's comforting to deal with a married guy who in theory isn't trying to close.

That's pretty appealing, right? All that sexual and romantic heat, but with the deniability of the wedding ring.

Marriage is Adulting 101, and nothing makes a lady wetter than legally-binding patriarchal institutions of oppression.

Also: Think about the man-child epidemic of the last few decades. Anything that even remotely spells out "this man is an actual grownup" is so completely attractive.

If your single girlfriend sees that you are satisfied with your husband, she may envy that.
They think, "Wow, that guy must be amazing."

And ultimately the single woman-married man dynamic comes down to pure science.
A 2009 study in the Journal of Experimental Psychology found that "mate poaching" does skew more toward women than men. Single women presented with a man who was described as unattached registered interest at 59 percent. Once the man was described as being in a committed relationship? Interest skyrocketed to 90 percent.

"[M]ost women who engage in mate poaching do not think the attached status of the target played a role in their poaching decision, but our study shows this belief to be false," the study's authors wrote.

Apparently, the married man demonstrates two key "yes" factors: There is "social proof" (he has the positive validation of having been chosen by a wife) and the "scarcity" (we want the unattainable).

 
Oct 26, 2020 - 4:47am

VP in IB - Gen to the women of WSO, feel free to donate your 0.02, even though you usually say one thing but do the complete opposite

Let's see, I'm lesbian and I say I date women but in reality I just sit at home. Oh well... Any tips on blowup dolls?

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Oct 27, 2020 - 8:48pm

I'm not sure how scissoring plastic sounds so hilarious.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Oct 26, 2020 - 8:30am

What you said about dating apps might be true to an extent but much like early stage investing, dating is a raw numbers game so don't be afraid to take a few Ls. You only need to find one person. 

Get on Bumble, Tinder, and whatever else is big in your city. I found my soon to be fiancé on a dating app that I historically found the lowest quality people on (tinder).

The nice thing about dating apps too is that you can filter to some extent, so you don't burn time going on redundant dates. I've found each app varies by geography...so just download the most popular ones and see what works.

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Oct 26, 2020 - 9:34am

Best approach is instagram and here is the formula made by me. 

First you get an account with pictures of yourself or how you want to show the good sides of your self. Ideal would be, height, cars, watches, vacations, handsomeness, and open your profile up. Have a good amount of followers and people you follow, and remember to have more followers than what you follow. Next step when your account is all set, use different research methods to find local girls in your state/area which you can follow. Follow them, if they follow back it means that they have checked your instagram and find you interesting or handsome or yeah you get the point.

Now that they have followed you, wait a bit and go for an approach, start talking with her and ask her out, or ask for her snapchat, and start talking there instead. Some girls are more comfortable on snapchat because she can write/send things and know that the only way things gets saved is if you save it or you screenshot it.

Its sad that this is currently the best method to pick up girls other than using tinder ect. The easiest thing is clubs or bars, but covid so yeah.  

 
Oct 26, 2020 - 11:18am

buysidezeus

Best approach is instagram and here is the formula made by me. 

First you get an account with pictures of yourself or how you want to show the good sides of your self. Ideal would be, height, cars, watches, vacations, handsomeness, and open your profile up. Have a good amount of followers and people you follow, and remember to have more followers than what you follow. Next step when your account is all set, use different research methods to find local girls in your state/area which you can follow. Follow them, if they follow back it means that they have checked your instagram and find you interesting or handsome or yeah you get the point.

Now that they have followed you, wait a bit and go for an approach, start talking with her and ask her out, or ask for her snapchat, and start talking there instead. Some girls are more comfortable on snapchat because she can write/send things and know that the only way things gets saved is if you save it or you screenshot it.

Its sad that this is currently the best method to pick up girls other than using tinder ect. The easiest thing is clubs or bars, but covid so yeah.  

yuuuuuck that strategy is gross i'd rather jerk off

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/
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Oct 26, 2020 - 12:31pm

Its sad that this is currently the best method to pick up girls other than using tinder ect. The easiest thing is clubs or bars, but covid so yeah. 

Were bars and clubs really the best place to meet girls for the average guy? Maybe in the 80s this worked, but in the last decade I don't find this to be true. 

 
  • Intern in HF - EquityHedge
Oct 30, 2020 - 3:47am

As a guy in college, this is pretty solid advice. My phone definitely stays buzzing a lot more where I'm putting up pictures on snapchat/Instagram (not necessarily only of myself). And I'm average looking and below average height. But I just make it look like I'm doing fun shit and the thots come out of their caves like Jesus.

 
Nov 1, 2020 - 1:14am

ebit-dabonem

If a guy asks for my snapchat instead of my number

Yeah, I don't understand this or understand Snapchat too much. Can't everyone just text? lol 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

 
Oct 26, 2020 - 9:35am

Where do you meet people?>>> Everywhere. Don't get into a mindset of I can only meet women at a bar, or a club, or between 7 and 12 on saturdays. Kind of like business, if you had a business idea that you wanted to pitch to Bill Ackman but saw him in an elevator, would you wait until he came you to in your conference room or would you go to him?

Apps are great, just don't fall into relying solely on them. Best used on a Tuesday when you just came home from work vs staying when your friends are going out bc you're going to scroll Tinder

 
Oct 26, 2020 - 11:19am

you could try driving lyft. you'll meet hella local hos and they know u paidd

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/
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Oct 26, 2020 - 11:28am

Bars and clubs (if they're even open) will be at reduced capacity with social distancing (max 4 to a table, wear a mask if you leave the table, etc), these places weren't that great to meet women before, so I wouldn't rely on them now (although going up to a table of women wearing a mask would be BOLD and could be a winning move... it could also get you ejected from the premises). As with COVID-fatigue, I think people have OLD (online dating) fatigue, I've got a lot of matches but conversation fizzles out fast and the times I have gone to meetup I've been flaked on more often than not. After a relatively lame summer, I'm exhausted. I'm just using this time for me now, spend more time at the gym, learn to cook healthier, and spend my vacations out west skiing. That's my plan for the next 6 months. Just be more alert when you go out. If you see an opportunity in the wild - go for it, "shoot your shot". 

 
  • Analyst 1 in IB-M&A
Oct 26, 2020 - 12:02pm

Make it a hard and fast rule that you talk to every single attractive girl you see. Grocery store, yoga, walking the dog, wherever. Just go talk to them - don't go ask everyone out or for their number. This alone will put you in the red zone more often. Also, to make it painful for you if you don't approach - donate $20+/- to the DNC/GOP/NRA/Planned Parenthood or other organization for which you have distain. 

 
  • Research Analyst in PE - Other
Oct 26, 2020 - 5:29pm

 

Also, to make it painful for you if you don't approach - donate $20+/- to the DNC/GOP/NRA/Planned Parenthood or other organization for which you have distain. 

Holy shit man. Evil genius

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Oct 26, 2020 - 6:06pm

 

Make it a hard and fast rule that you talk to every single attractive girl you see. Grocery store, yoga, walking the dog, wherever. Just go talk to them - don't go ask everyone out or for their number. This alone will put you in the red zone more often. Also, to make it painful for you if you don't approach - donate $20+/- to the DNC/GOP/NRA/Planned Parenthood or other organization for which you have distain. 

that. sounds. exhausting.

i feel like it would be more efficient, if we're out here making and following rules, to make some silly kissy lips shit at every hot chick you see. if you're attractive, i bet you like 5-10% of them escalate back. maybe not. i dont know. but it would be fun to see what happens.

i dont got shit to say though bro let that bitch say some shit

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/
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Oct 26, 2020 - 3:54pm

You know another place you can meet nice girls sometimes is just driving down the street in certain neighborhoods. There's often time some super friendly girls on the side of the road/on certain street corners. They seem like fun since they're always talking about "having a good time", so I think they like bowling or going to Dave N' Busters.

 
  • Intern in Consulting
Oct 28, 2020 - 8:22am

Just go out when you can and talk to girls you find attractive. If you're a normal guy you're bound to have a few enjoyable conversations, and if you feel a connection ask for their numbers.

 
Oct 29, 2020 - 9:14pm

Not seeing a ton of girls on on this thread which checks out for WSO...sorry for the passive aggressiveness ;)

I would just talk to girls when you see them (can be on the street or wherever obviously within reason). We are people too and we like to be noticed. I am still in college and I love when guys approach me at bars. Not sure what you are looking for, but most guys here seem to want to date girls around my age and I want to date someone older. 

Obviously this is super general, but I need more specific info for more helpful advice. Are you on the east coast or west cost? How successful have you been in the past with girls? Would you actually approach a girl in a social situation? Feel free to pm me.

 
Oct 29, 2020 - 10:01pm

I like it when girls say they have that WAP (wings and pizza) 

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"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

 
Oct 29, 2020 - 10:24pm

Midwest, Chicago (hopefully people won't find out my identity with such detailed info). 

Late 20's. Semi-target education. Employed with nice work life balance. Asian-American. 5'9.  Was lean, but WFH and closed gyms have added a few pounds haha. Prior to COVID-19, did quite well for myself with the opposite sex. I'm no Tom Cruise, but I've been told I'm very approachable (both ways). 

How about you? Why don't you slide into my PM? Ha!

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