My ex boss at a BB

Seeing a recent post about harsh bosses reminds me of one particular boss I had at the previous bank I worked at. Working under him got to be some of the worst days of my life, as in so bad that I entered a really dark and depressive state because of him. He was hired shortly after I joined from another BB and I was quickly put under him in a dual role where I was supporting both him and a related but separate desk.  

Some highlights:  
1. In the first week, after everyone else on the desk left he told me that I had to understand that:
a. "You are now my bitch. Anything I want you to do, you do. If I tell you to eat shit, you do it with a smile."
b. "I am your daddy, whenever people on this desk are not around, you are going to call me 'daddy'"
c. "I will decide your bonus, if you shut up and do the work I will make sure you get paid, and you will thank your 'daddy"

  1. He loved bragging about how he loved being an asshole to people at his previous bank:
    a. He once came out of a client meeting with Sales and told her that "If you're not going to contribute to the meeting with clients when we have them at least lose some weight and stop being a fatass so that you at least look good"
    b. On his last day at his old firm, he conducted over 100 in-and-out unauthorized trades in his personal account so that his now ex-boss had to personally review each and every trade he did due to compliance flags.

  2. He enjoyed actively encouraging the rest of the desk to shit on me:
    a. I made a mistake once taking out a client to a dinner in which the sommelier pushed a bottle upon us that cost double the dinner and blew through the meal allowance. He spent every day the next 3 months cracking at least 3-4 jokes a day about how I screwed that up. Whenever I managed to get a trade done or otherwise he would always relate the PNL to the cost of the bottle of wine.
    b. He would spend every single evening after everyone had left reiterating how shit he thought I was, and how he thought I was disgusting.
    c. Somewhere along the line, he came up with the idea that I was overweight, and then started asking me every time I ate food if I was "sure" I should eat that, given my weight.
    d. Despite being of the same ethnicity as myself, he enjoyed egging on people to mispronounce my name to one that was phonetically similar but a clear woman's name.
    e. Any time I made a mistake, he would proudly announce that I made one to the rest of the desk making sure to get each and every other person's opinion on my mistake.

These are just some of the highlights, there were some other things that I left out because they're not meant for polite company and a bit too dark.
P.S.: Despite all that he said about having control over my bonus and that he would make sure I got a good one if I did the work, I got a really shitty bonus.

 

If only you had some of this recorded, the pay day would have made up for your bonus

 

How long did you tolerate this guy? Can't imagine that you didn't get out there quick. And did you ever consider going to HR? Or figure that would have made it worse?  

 

Asshats will be asshats - i'm sure deep down you knew he was going to screw you over with bonus, should have had a come back plan mate

 

i normally don't advocate bringing HR into things (only because Wall St is a small place and you don't want someone to try and blackmail you for the rest of your career). But in this instance, he totally deserved it (if half of this is true). 

 
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b. "I am your daddy, whenever people on this desk are not around, you are going to call me 'daddy'"

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Wtf. Invest in Apple Watch and voice memo the next time you have a boss like this. The lawsuit will be worth it.

Or alternatively, if you’re his “bitch” you probably know his route well. Pick a nice isolated location he regularly visits, then make sure he spends the rest of his life with a limp and veneers. It’ll cost you  

I can’t imagine a boss saying he’s my daddy. People are way too insulated from the physical consequences of their actions.

 

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