Need help on how to fit in as a nerdy person (serious)Subscribe
I'm currently a first year analyst at a mid-tier BB in NYC for training. Simply put, I feel like I don't fit into the culture of investment banking (more on this below) and I was hoping to hear your guys' perspectives and advice on how I could fit in better.
I'm an Indian American male, went to a top 10 university, and double majored in Math and Statistics while there. I recruited full time for IB and feel like I only got an offer because I went to a decent university and nailed the technical questions in the superday. My whole life, I've been rather shy and quiet, and I feel as if I've only found success because I worked hard and studied a lot. In college, I barely went to any parties and instead hung out with other STEM majors who were also "nerdy" and quiet. I've never been in a relationship before and have zero experience with girls.
Coming to analyst training, I feel a bit alienated and realize that I don't fit into the culture well. Many of the other analysts in my class seem very confident and type-A, and I can't participate in the "bro talk" that many of the other analysts seem to enjoy — conversations about partying, drinking, girls, sports, and music festivals. I have literally done none of these things and feel very left out of conversations and have made zero friends so far. I do want to join my fellow analyst in their weekend trips to bars and parties, but I feel like I'd just be standing awkwardly there without anyone to talk to.
Any advice on how I seriously might be able to improve and change? Any advice on how I might become more socially adept and less awkward around female analysts? This might seem like a trivial issue to some, but I'm feeling anxious and even lonely throughout training, and I'm afraid that things won't get any better once I start on the desk. Any help is much appreciated.
Thanks so much to everyone!