Nothing wows me?
I've always had few interests, but recently I've started realizing that nothing ever really wows me - is something wrong with me? There are many things that I look forward to when I imagine them, but when they really happen they always just feel so 'real' and, well, expected.
The dream vacation? Meh. Having sex? Meh. Graduating? Meh. Making baller dollars? Meh (ok I'm only A1 but my family is poor so fuck you). A once in a century pandemic? Meh. I'd also become nonchalant the first week into any college course that seemed vaguely interesting beforehand. It's not like I don't appreciate these things, but they just never strike me as amazing when I actually experience them.
Does anyone else experience this at all?
Edit: I don't mean being disinterested in anything and everything. I enjoy all the above things (not the pandemic), but they just never overwhelm me to the extent that it makes me think "wow"
You probably have mild depression.
Agreed. Sounds like it. Symptoms include lack of interest in anything. Go speak to a therapist perhaps
Lmao. OP here. This made me laugh probably more than you intended it to. I mean, there are plenty of things that I enjoy, it's just that they don't overwhelm me per se.
I know you're not asking about this, but it seems like you'd make a good Venture Capitalist. Not so wow'd by the "revolutionary technology" that you become biased and blind when making decisions and analyzing the information.
In terms of the personality, it could be a slight depression as the person above mentioned or it could just be that none of those things really excite you and maybe you have different values and desires than the "traditional" perspective. For example, it seems like you're not that big into material things or big, extravagant experiences. Instead, perhaps what excites you is accomplishing a personal goal or adding value in some way.
My advice would be to do a bit of deep, self-reflection to think about the last times you were really excited/wow'd even as a kid and think about what kinds of things made you feel that way.
Wow this is actually really spot on (lol the irony). I agree that my values aren't really oriented toward grand or material things, although if you ask what they are aligned to I wouldn't be able to say either. Introspection seems like a good place to start. Thanks, this is helpful!
Also good to know about VC haha, started becoming interested in the past few months
As someone in VC I don't think this is a solid reason for joining VC lol
I did a little stint in VC as well. Obviously its not the sole reason, but it is an added benefit if you're already interested. Being able to filter through the bullshit when a tech kid comes in with the "next big idea" is a valuable skill.
It's a well known syndrome called the Bateman Syndrome, after its most famous sufferer Mr. P. Bateman.
look at how perfect his audiophile sound collection is - this movie is legendary
Huey Lewis and the News is the best album to listen when you have to wear a raincoat with bunch of newspapers covering the floor. You know... Cuz you have a dog and you don't want it to pee all over the god damn place.
On a serious note, I've been exactly like you since high school. You either are mildly depressed or just turning into your true self.
Do you find yourself much more rational and calm than ever? I'm a very emotionally tranquil person. I almost never feel burst of emotion. It's not like I don't feel anything, but I just feel much less so. It's kind of annoying sometimes because I can't enjoy certain things as much, but I'm mostly fine with it. It's just the way some people are. Maybe my pre-frontal cortex is unusually active or something (and maybe yours too?)...
Another possibility is your diet. I rarely eat red meat, I probably don't eat as much carbs as I should (for someone who runs 15-20 miles a week), etc... But when I do eat a lot of red meat and bunch of carbs, I feel much more emotional for some reason. Another evidence of this being a real possibility is that I've started eating much less while exercising more during the quarantine, and my "calmness" seems to have increased even more so.
I'm not too sure it's an over time thing; when I first came to the states for school 5-6 years ago it also like "uh ok, so this is the US, cool." Then again, I don't remember things from back then too vividly.
It never crossed my mind that this could be biological lol, but the way you put it does make sense. I do feel it's to do with some tendency to quickly rationalize new experiences. Overall I'm not unhappy about it or anything, was just curious whether it indicates I don't leave my comfort zone - guess not?
Personally, I don't get super excited over small, day-to-day items (sex is great but it's not revolutionary) or things that I can't control (pandemic). Also, money doesn't do it for me. Sure, I have to work to make it but it wasn't challenging for me to just throw down for a vacation so it isn't hyper gratifying in my book.
However, the things that excite me are ones that take a long time to build up to and a lot of hard work. For example, I started doing jiu jitsu and the day I pulled off my first armbar submission was one of the best days I'd had in years. It took months of work and dedication to learn positioning, technique, etc. Do I get excited every day when I train? Nah, but those big moments do it for me. That sentiment applies to most of my life.
Interesting. That reminds me how I used to play competitive tennis is high school and would feel like I'm on cloud 9 after a big win. Unfortunately I don't play anymore so maybe that's why. But maybe as Milton mentioned above it's also a become more callous overtime thing.
Along that logic we'll see how I feel when I close my first deal in IB? Lol
Haha yea, your first closed deal in banking is actually pretty solid. You'll enjoy that one.
I'd recommend starting to play some tennis again (i'm sure you will enjoy the hobby) and then maybe look into something that you have no experience with but would love to learn / explore (could be learning a new language, playing an instrument, martial art / new sport, etc.). Something that you can sink yourself into and have some exciting payoffs as you reach milestones (playing your first full song, going into a more complicated song, maybe writing a composition, etc.).
So I’m not the only one. Sometimes I feel bad for not feeling emotion, even when I should. I remember when I was around 7 our dog got hit by a car and was killed. I felt nothing. Years later when my grandad got sick I felt nothing, when he passed, I felt worse about not feeling anything than I did about his death. It’s easy to laugh and for me to act with emotion around people but I don’t actually feel that bad or feel much of anything. In fact, at my grandads funeral, I was rather bored and was thinking about when I could back to doing what I wanted. I feel bad about that but can’t help it. At least I know how to fit in.
I can relate to some extent, although I suppose for me it's more numbness towards things that are positive rather than negative. Like, I can remember the last time I felt sad about something, but not the last time I was ecstatic about anything.
I guess in the end we are who we are. Appreciate you sharing though
So you’re actually Squidward from Spongebob?
dial back the masturbation
Chill bro
Get your HR up - you can't feel too 'meh' if you're running your heart out, and at that point you will begin to see more inner truths in your life after these high HR sessions.
Challenge yourself, in work and life. Set goals - exceed the goals. Repeat.
When you feel nothing your HR does not matter. You know, I've never had an erection before in my whole life. I went through puberty and felt myself change but just couldn't get excited enough over a girl (or anyone) to get one. I have no idea whats wrong with me. All my relationships are built on lies, no one has any idea who I am in reality.
Sounds like low T
I assure you holding max HR matters - every breath matters
Schedule an appointment with a male general practitioner ASAP my man. Not having a libido and/or erection indicates serious hormonal issues even worse the younger you are.
Seriously not tomorrow, not next week, not next week, schedule an appointment ASAP.
While you're not wrong, this is just a band-aid. Exercise is great but is never a fix to many issues. I'd bet my whole bank account 8/10 people inside of a gym or those runnner/marathon people all have some form of eating disorders or body dysmorphia.
I'd bet against you on 80% odds - that's crazy. 80% of gymgoers don't have eating disorders. I'm sorry dude, but I think I've met more gym people than you and know their eating habits.
8/10 seems kinda high. I don't think there is anything wrong with the majority of people inside gyms
Stop looking at porn and jerking off and try exercising regularly.
Nothing wows me more than March Madness, the Olympics, and College football..... what a year it has been... 2021 will be better
Had very similar feelings throughout my life. What has been working for me as of late is not focusing solely on the experiences but more on the people that I’m doing the activities with. I took a lot of time to develop organic real relationships and that drastically change the way I view future experiences. I now look forward to family events, excited for happy hours when I hang out with good friends and cool co-interns/workers, and trying those new food spots with my girlfriend who makes every outdoor experience a laugh fest. Surround yourself with people who truly make you happy and the feelings will surface/return.
I knew this guy in college that claimed he wasn't sexually attracted to guys or girls. But, he was the introverted boring type and I wouldn't see any reason why anyone would be attracted to him either.
He had a shitty body, zero hobbies and not much interest in anything in life. I bet he had endocrinology problems too.
This is me, unfortunately. I stayed at home and took classes at a satellite school to save money. Grant it I got my money in control, killer body, my internships, and a couple hobbies I'm proud of BUT seeing how socially developed people in my class are compared to me was the biggest slap in the face. It pretty much gives me minor panic attacks when I think of how much I missed out on, and that those four years I'll never get back as well as how crucial they are to your development. Plus when you transfer to a school everyone already has their social cliques and you can't really find roommates or rush a frat. I even match with tons of of 7/10+ girls who message me on Tinder but since I'm off campus I can't make any moves which is such a ballbuster. Makes me wonder how much I'd slay had I just been a normal dude and moved out. SMFH
You'll be alright, once you do move out you'll "catch up." I also stayed home and went to a satellite campus, everything else is going good but that college experience is something I wish I went after. Currently, it feels more like high school 2.0. There are also other things that have changed dramatically over the last three years that make me regret it more, it is what it is. I'm not that old, still have time. This isn't to say I'm not as socially developed as other people around me, I have a fairly large group of friends, easy for me to meet people, girls are not much of a problem. Though, it is harder to get away with certain things when you're at home vs at campus, that is the thing I regret the most - I wished I was more independent than I am now. Yet, that time will come too in the next couple years. Don't mean to ramble, just do what you're doing if it's right, try and change what isn't right and you can't really get lost time back, so make better choices in the future.
Try coke
coke just gets him to normal lol
Yes this is me to a T.
I've been grinding hard, stacking these dollars, and my life seems to be going great on paper. But I still feel hella empty all the time, nothing really excites me, I can buy myself pretty much anything I want, and I still just have this feeling of existential dread all the time.
How do stay motivated if nothing excites you? You already know whatever you achieve won’t feel all that great, so how, or rather why do you keep going? Figuring that out might help.
Raise a family. You’d make a good parent most likely.
Go on a camping trip or to the beach and take ecstasy if you are looking to feel something
I went out one night in NYC and this chick said 'lets do Molly' and I thought she was talking about some threesome and so I was like 'ok'. Then she gave me some Molly and I took it without realizing what was going on and we started in Manhattan and went to this DJ's house and also had weed edibles and shrooms. We ended up at some club in Brooklyn walking out at 10am squinting... what a fucking night.
I have the exact same shit going on with me. Positive emotions tend to be neutralized quickly, while negative emotions are either "chilled" out if I can or become pain in the ass for a while until I finally get over it. I do not get too thrilled for things, even when I finally achieve something I have been working so hard for so long. But I almost always feel like things are not too bad when it comes to severe situations as well. Sometimes I can clearly sense that I am unhappy or depressed.
I do not recall exactly when I turned into this. I have perfectly normal bobbies and friends, enjoy the same good shits as most people out there do, and are crazy for competitive sports and exercise almost on a daily basis. I trust the grind and consider myself motivated. Honestly, this shit has started bothering me. I feel like my daily happiness has dropped significantly over the past few years. And as a result of the good emotions being neutralized, any negative ones become more troublesome.
3.5g of shrooms -> then 5MeO DMT
Yeah don't lol
Sky dive?
That might work actually
Bump testроо
You should try some physical activities where you struggle like crazy. I used to be like you until I found out about weight lifting and martial art. In the moment when you have 200lb on top of you or having some gorilla trying to strangle you, shit get real fast.
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