okay to flirt while networking ?

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Rank: Senior Monkey | 75

Doing some networking before starting mba. Currently talking to bankers and colg alums in banking. Is it okay to try flirting and make it more persuasive or just keep it all professional? Lol. I like women in finance.

Not a hedge fund guy but neither a mutual fund too.

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Feb 6, 2020

Sounds like a flawless plan.

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Feb 6, 2020

Ohh btw talking about London. NY is cool but how's London culture ? More of saying 'your majesty' to every female banker? Lol

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  • Associate 2 in IB-M&A
Feb 6, 2020

Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to this. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

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Feb 6, 2020

Lol. Amen to that.

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Feb 6, 2020

Laughing at how all you hypocrites judging me rn.. lol. Stupidity and arrogance were the pillars of financial crisis. What's wrong fellas.

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  • Associate 3 in IB - Gen
Feb 6, 2020

Well, if you're shooting for stupidity and arrogance, you have succeeded but unfortunately you're about a decade late to the game for the financial crisis.

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Mar 25, 2020

I'll also have you know that OP has reportedly been admitted to the LBS MBA Class of '22...

  • Prospect in IB - Gen
Feb 6, 2020

What the actual fuck.

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Feb 6, 2020

I swear some of you are literally brain dead.

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Feb 6, 2020

Lol. What's wrong? Am asking what would be the right step..

Feb 7, 2020

Bro you just bit so hard on a transparent troll post. I think it is you who is brain dead.

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Feb 7, 2020

I'm fully aware it's a troll post. I still think OP is brain dead -- and likely you as well.

Feb 6, 2020

I would like to hire you. Please call me at 877-654-GIVE

Feb 6, 2020

Whomst analyst. Plz fix.

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Feb 7, 2020

go back to instagram, memelord

Thank you for your interest in the 2020 Investment Banking Full-time Analyst Programme (London) at JPMorgan Chase. After a thorough review of your application, we regret to inform you that we are unable to move forward with your candidacy at this time.

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Feb 6, 2020

Please update this community on your networking shenanigans.

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Feb 6, 2020

My pleasure. Lol

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  • Analyst 3+ in IB-M&A
Feb 6, 2020
sushiboy:

Hi guys
I am interested TO TRANSITION TO a career in IB. ( I am applying to top 5 MBA schools in US and Europe. (INSEAD, LBS, Cambridge etc).
About me:
Current job role: R&D and Product Management in Medical device firm for 3 years
Qualification: **Masters in Electrical from IIT Bombay (GPA - 9.6/10), Q50 in GMAT
**Post MBA Goal
- IB in Healthcare Industry group (M&A, LevFin) of a BB ( GS, MS, JPM, Citi etc) and then after 2-3 years transition to Healthcare PE.
Post MBA Location : London or NYC (but prefer London here)
No prior work experience in finance.

How can I transition from my current Tech/PM role to Investment banking. Please help!

can't take you serious bud. yea if you were a chad flirting it would be alright, but you're a call service boy from Bombay India. lets stick to being professional.

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Feb 6, 2020

Serious racism! Let's go! London innit!? Still better than non target flexes.
Lol wait for my dad to fuck you up in the department store and say thank you come again.

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Feb 8, 2020

show bob and vagene

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Feb 6, 2020

Waiting for some white dude to come out behind this so that I can show him my white gf. Lololol.

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Feb 7, 2020

1) If you're in a relationship why would you flirt with people you're networking with

2) show bobs n vagene

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Feb 7, 2020

You just made it worse for Indians when you ask dumb shit that perpetuates a stereotype instead of trying to defy stereotypes. Fucking clown

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Feb 7, 2020

Same it's always been with women, if they like you it works if they don't it's creepy or off putting. You think they will flirt back then do it , but it's a extra risk for sure

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  • Quant in HF - Other
Feb 7, 2020

Only in designated flirting street

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Feb 7, 2020

Guys here are mocking but we've all failed to realize that it is now 2020, the year India becomes a super power

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Feb 7, 2020

Nah. Just cut to the chase. Whip it out and smack it around during the meeting. Assert dominance.

Seriously dude? REALLY? FFS

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Feb 7, 2020

It is only ok if you call their desk line to ask them out. I mean, if it happens at work, it must be work appropriate, right?

Feb 7, 2020

only way to find out is to try

Feb 7, 2020

Rlly bruh...in 2020? Are you actively trying to get pegged by the #MeToo movement?

Feb 7, 2020

He's Indian. They're still going through the #BobsAndVagene movement.

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Feb 7, 2020

As an Indian we don't claim him, we pass him off to the MENA region

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Feb 8, 2020

Do it. Don't overuse it so no one will be envious after seeing you flirt with someone else. And don't f*** anyone even if your flirt goes very well! Just make them feel special for a glimpse. But train before, as most people in finance are not easily manipulated.

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Feb 8, 2020

I'm a woman in finance. My thought is, I'd really keep it very professional. Doesn't mean you cannot be friendly and outgoing if that's your personality. Some women (myself included) would find it amusing - really depends on age and demeanor. Many women in finance are very sensitive about "men acting creepy" and "bad vibes," There's really no benefit to flirting in this instance - it's better to be taken seriously and viewed as a viable candidate rather than someone who potentially will be a liability to a company or make female employees uncomfortable. I mentioned a funny story about a guy flirting with me at a company party, and the women at the table were appalled and told me I should have reported him, because one day he'll be in a position of authority and may behave inappropriately towards female subordinates who are afraid of reporting him. e.g. needs to be taught a lesson. I was like, how did you get to that level over this minor story? But other female finance professionals felt it was bad form to even flirt at a social gathering of the officemates.
Decades ago (yes, that old), I think it would have been taken much more lightly. But people, men and women, see sexuality in the workplace as a Risk, with a capital R. I get where you're coming from, and yes, if you are finding a womn attractive, you will already give subtle signs without actually flirting, that you find them attractive without flat out "flirting." That's really where you should draw the limit, though. To someone my age, I find it cute when a guy in his 20s is obviously giving me a "you're attractive to me" smile and says nothing more telling than that. But many women (of all ages) are extremely on guard about that and disagree with me. I recently met some female colleagues for drinks and found that attitude to be the prevalent one, that it's inappropriate/unpleasant, to have anything said, or be even given the slightest look that's flirtatious. Most women feel it does not belong in the workplace, period.
I personally have been quite amused with men flirting with me at work, but again, I think I'm the exception. So I'd tread extremely lightly here. It's not worth losing a solid networking opportunity, especially because I note that women are generally extremely interested in networking and helping other professionals. There are many other better places to flirt. I would not consider flirting to be persuasive at all. I would say you run a 90% chance of the woman being turned off, or even offended.
I wish it were still 1992 and you could get away with it. I think the complete neutering of the workplace is a bit much. And I don't blame you for liking women in finance - broadly (no pun intended) speaking, they're a bright, career-motivated yet empathetic, and attractive segment of the work force.
Good luck, Cowboy

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Feb 9, 2020

Geez people blew it out of proportions so much. There is a thing that lot of men don't know how to do healthy flirting. Exactly the reason why some men on the group despise that (coz they themselves can't do it) and also why some women whom you discussed with were appalled . Coz they have seen men going creepy as fuck and making life hell both personally and professionally. Well here's the thing I wrote that post after 2 cups of coffee finishing my option pricing lecture at 4 AM. Lol.

Anyways I meant healthy flirting which involves social and emotional calibration. Geez I don't want to be the dating coach. Lol. Peace out.

Thanks a lot for your opinion @shaynepunim. Must have enlightened lots of men out here. Always delighted to root for women to make it high in the workforce. In fact I would love to date a women in finance doing well in corporate life. I hope masculinity and femininity can both reach healthy levels in the world.

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  • Analyst 3+ in IB-M&A
Feb 9, 2020

lmao

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Feb 9, 2020

"Cause they can't flirt themselves." Yeah okay guy from India. Show us how it's done.

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Feb 9, 2020

Are you flirting with me? ; )

((laughing)) - all good - most of the time, everyone gets along just fine.

Mar 25, 2020

@sushiboy

Help me out, please! I beg you:

Were you really offered admission to the LBS MBA Program? (seriously)

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