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At what point in your life did you find your calling? We were talking about this in class today and I found it very interesting. I feel like we all have that one thing we REALLY want to do but it's just not for us and we weren't built for it. I feel like me being in college I don't want to pigeonhole myself in a career/goal but rather discover new fields that may interest me. How long did it take you? Was it during or after college you found out what you were really meant to do?

Just a thought :)

 

It depends on where you start. A little composed resistance seems like it would be a good thing. But, it'll still hurt until you have results and you look back, and recognize everything you were working for. Resisting too much is I think what leads to heavy drug use and a prostitution dependency. It's like the gym. Patience goes a long way, although it takes a lot of heavy resistance to get results, and pain to go along with it. Without patience and control, people turn to steroids and that makes your penis small.

 
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It depends on where you start. A little composed resistance seems like it would be a good thing. But, it'll still hurt until you have results and you look back, and recognize everything you were working for. Resisting too much is I think what leads to heavy drug use and a prostitution dependency. It's like the gym. Patience goes a long way, although it takes a lot of heavy resistance to get results, and pain to go along with it. Without patience and control, people turn to steroids and that makes your penis small.

I'm going to be completely honest I can't comprehend that. Are you sayin I should go with the flow?

 
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I'm saying life isn't pretty. I feel like the only people who have a pretty life are losers (because they settle) or those born in families that are already on the top (because they don't need to offer resistance to the flow, since they just pay to change everything). I was just reading about the Japanese richest man who is a $3.5B porn company owner. Yeah, he started out in porn, people generally don't like him, but he's been able to accumulate a $3.5B net worth and now Bloomberg is writing positive articles on him.

The only reason that he's rich is that he went with the flow, though, and when the flow changed he changed. Being a porn owner is painful, unless you're head over heels for it, no pun. I'm sure he's gone through some stuff, because he was even quoted saying he would let his daughter make her own decision about being in porn, and the business comes with a ton of risks.

If he was the guy to double or even triple down on porn, rather than go for a diversified empire, he probably would not have made it this far. I've heard margins in the porn industry are really slim. As well, he would never be able to stop the onslaught of hate that inevitably comes with the industry.

I'm not saying go into the business of lewd adult entertainment, but it's an example of how you never know where the break will come, and what your life will be like if you patiently prepare today as if that opportunity will come down the line. The guy started in porn, but the money he earned from it was invested into more profitable things that led to his fortune.

 
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At what point in your life did you find your calling? We were talking about this in class today and I found it very interesting. I feel like we all have that one thing we REALLY want to do but it's just not for us and we weren't built for it. I feel like me being in college I don't want to pigeonhole myself in a career/goal but rather discover new fields that may interest me. How long did it take you? Was it during or after college you found out what you were really meant to do?

Just a thought :)

I don't think it's that easy or black and white, really. At different points in life you'll be into, or excel at, different things.

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We're inculcated from the very beginning with the notion that our occupation needs to define us. Notice how the question "What do you want to be when you're older?" is not normally phrased as "What do you to do when you're older?" or in even more prosaic terms "What job do you want to have when you're older?".

The sooner you can decouple your occupation from your sense of self the less you'll obsess over it. Decide what you want to get out of life, then figure out the price and pay it.

If its material success as defined by things like wealth and power, well it may come at the expense of relationships, leisure, and laughs. If your passion is traveling, socializing, and writing that's fine too but it might preclude your ability to amass a fortune.

Your purpose and passion in life doesn't need to overlap with your occupation. It's ideal when it does, but often doesn't. The good news is that there are plenty of ways to fill in the gaps.

 

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