Should I leave IB for my girlfriend, who I want to marry and have a family with?Subscribe
I am going to preface this by saying I drank an entire bottle of wine before posting this, as it's hard for me to talk about this stuff in a super serious manner otherwise.
I have known my girlfriend since the 7th grade. I had a huge crush on her the moment I saw her; obviously that was just infatuation at the time, but we got together in high school and have been together since. I don’t mean to sound all sappy, but I really really lover her, and I am 100% certain I want to spend the rest of my life with her.
Ironically, I also found out about IB while I was in 7th grade, and I wanted to do it since then. I was just really interested in finance and markets. The problem is, with IB, I can't spend as much time as I want to with her. Honestly, I want to move to the suburbs, buy a house, and have kids and all of that kind of cheesy things with her, but I also really enjoy my career in IB. I would also be lying if I said I wasn't loving the money. I made 400k as a first year assc. at an EB last year (inclusive of promotion bonus).
So I guess my question is, what would you guys do in this situation? Would you exit to corp fin/dev and never make more than 200k for the rest of your life (for reference, my girlfriend is a school teacher), or would you stay in IB and try to somehow make this relationship work with the killer hours? I guess at the most basic level, I'm asking if you would choose your relationship or money/lifestyle? The sucky part is my parents made 700k a year when I was growing up, and my brother who is a doctor makes 350k a year. I just feel inferior if I exit to corp stuff, esp. because 1) my parents were poor savers and I will not get much of an inheritance, and 2) when I asked my bro about this, he was a jerk and told me that I would be a loser if I made less than him.
I'm sorry if I sound like an idiot in this. Please keep in mind that I am drunk. Also please don't make fun of me for not being able to confront my problems without alcohol. And if you're name is Richard, fuck off and don't respond to this. As a note, I did not proof read this either.
Thanks in advance for any helpful advice.