Spending money on others makes me happy

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I always grew up wanting to be rich. It wasn't because I was poor or anything like that, but I had a normal middle class class upbringing in a 4 person family (mom, dad, little sister and me). Growing up my parents made sure I never wanted for anything. They always pushed me to participate in sports such as ice hockey which is a regular part of any Canadian kid's upbringing. For those who don't know, Ice hockey is a fucking expensive sport to enroll your kids in. My parents never truly "struggled" financially, but they both had normal 9-5 jobs. They worked away to put me through private schools, and then footed my entire college bill!

Fast forward to now and I am in my mid-20s. I am finally making good money, but I find the most enjoyment in treating my parents, family and close friends to things. In college I'd look forward to the day I get my first big boy bonus and buying something stupid like a Rolex or something flashy. That day came... I bought a rolex and I felt... nothing. I barely even wear the stupid thing because it doesn't match how I was brought up. It's too flashy and I feel embarrassed/weird wearing it around my friends and family. Now I don't mind wearing it to work because all my "work bros" won't judge me, but they aren't my real friends.

I just was wondering if anybody else feels this way? Specifically, I mean growing up poor or middle class and then coming across some money only to realize that you don't really care about material things. To me, money is only a way to ensure that my family will never be in trouble and if any expenses were to arise... we'd be okay. To me money is just a means to make sure my family is happy and healthy.

I remember footing the bill for a big family dinner at a diner and that was way more fulfilling than buying a fucking rolex!

EDIT: A couple people asking for money. If you are female please PM feet pics with red nail polish & we can chat about me wiring some funds your way. Cheers

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Jul 26, 2020 - 10:34pm

Similar to you, I was fortunate to grow up with incredible parents who both worked non-stop to make myself and siblings happy. I played competitive hockey from the time I was 9, which means 4-5 times a week all over the city for 8 months per year, for 9 years. They never complained once. I hope when I start making good money I can reward them the same way you have for yours.

 
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Jul 27, 2020 - 8:34am

Good for you. I think money can be part of it, but time is your most valuable asset--and it's giving your time to those you love that will sustain that relationship. I'm a simple kid though, I still get excited going to the Olive Garden with mom.

 
  • Intern in IB - Gen
Jul 28, 2020 - 10:33am

I definitely agree. Obviously I enjoy good food, nice clothing, but at a point you realize you're going be hungry 6 hours later and that a nice shirt for $50 does the same job as a nice shirt that was $150

I have multiple friends who grew up "upper class" (parents are doctors, partners at NYC law firms making more than 1mm a year, drove audi's and the like in high school) and all have agreed with your sentiments above

 
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Aug 13, 2020 - 8:18pm

I was awwwwwing so hard when you were talking about your family because I feel the same way but then I read abut your foot fetish and ummmmmm.............I can assure you that it's mostly dudes who're asking you for money

 
Aug 15, 2020 - 6:57pm

I read your title but skipped the whole middle because threads like these are usually just humble brags about how u went from rags (overexaggerated) to riches (overexaggerated) doing it all on your own (exaggerated) sprinkled with the "awe" of doing good to counter-act the former. If that's not whats in the body then ignore this.

But yeah it's nice spending money on close ones.

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Aug 16, 2020 - 8:32pm

Hmm,

no - just curious to see who else can relate. There's a lot of d-baggery on this site.

I clearly said "my parents never struggled financially". The question I am trying to pose is has anybody else grown up with dreams of being "rich" and then one day they come across some money (which i also said I don't make an absurd amount of) only to realize that it wasn't all that great. You still feel the same as you did before getting that big bonus even after buying some nice things. You realize it's all material and that while money enables happiness in some ways, it also doesn't mean shit in the long run.

I'd rather be somebody that's "poor", but is very happy than someone who's "rich" and miserable and materialistic.

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