Surviving as an antisocial guy that doesn't drink
Thanks a lot for the answers guys, I guess the general consensus is to go as much as I can without going too far out of my way.
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Just be true to yourself. But, make sure to attend at least part of the cocktail hours/networking events. They start early and you can just order a soda water and lime or something for appearances. You can go to bed early, but you can't skip the opportunity to meet and greet fellow members of your team.
I think at the end of the day I'm just going to attend most events and find an excuse to leave at like 11:00 or midnight. Have one or at most two drinks and start drinking water or making some stupid excuse like I have liver problems or something. This event is global meaning that most people I meet are people that I most likely will never see again (or see very very little of), but I completely understand the importance of letting people know who you are.
You can also always say you had family issues with drinking and you don't drink much or at all now. If you adhere to your moral code, your co-workers will most likely respect that and respect you for it.
Yeah, this is a textbook example of what not to do unless you wanna be the fucking group dunce. Nobody likes the guy with a cryptic backstory to everything. It's like the adult-version of the spaz in grade-school that's allergic to everything.
Just order a bourbon on the rocks to preserve what manhood you have left, drink a few sips, and let the ice melt til you finish it.
Talking to people is the best way expand you perspective and for you to maybe ... stop being anti-social. The world of business and finance is filled with baboons pitifully fighting over who speaks next. Being the guy that doesn't have to talk all the time in a social setting is very refreshing. You could just be that.
& Dont wear "Sleds" in public. Those are for the big boys
It's training so doubt you'll need to function at 100% throughout the week. Just suck it up and socialize late for one week. No point in alienating yourself from your colleagues.
Yeah, I'm gonna say you should probably go to the events, leave early if you need sleep, but definitely go. You need to mingle with your co-workers.
Be straight up with them. And take any shit they give you in good humor. People will respect that. I’ll also add that you should go to the events for at least part of the time. I’m not much of an extrovert either, but building relationships with coworkers matters.
What aspect of finance are you entering? Antisocial + lethargic are generally not good qualities for a lot of roles. Are you a quant? If you're a quant, you can be awkward as fuck, and no one will care. If you're in a client-facing role, you're going to need to work on socializing and the need for 8-9 hours of sleep per night.
Perhaps the culture here isn't so much drinking and a lot more working.
(On a side note, how do I get the Industry and Status Key next to my name to actually work? I've tried to edit it on my profile but I can't seem to find anything remotely related. No monkey basic, no settings to change, only asking me what my industry and year are.)
Yeah...good luck with that. I mean, I guess you don't have to go out with clients and you don't have to drink, but I honestly don't know a single salesman in the markets who doesn't party a little bit.
I do not think "antisocial" means what you think it means, i'd probably opt for using introvert going forwards
finally someone gets it. antisocial = psychopath, asocial = doesn't like to socialize
I think events like this are a good opportunity to try and push yourself a bit out of your comfort zone. That doesn't necessarily mean you have to drink a lot or stay out all night, but you should try and push yourself to meet new people and build your network. It may help you become less antisocial or more comfortable in situations like this.
why don't u drink?
I would certainly suggest you go to meet your coworkers and network because this is very important early on (especially in sales). Socializing is a big part of sales positions (at least from what I have seen). Don't sweat the late nights or drinking. I'm hardly out past 10-11pm ever for work events, and I am never the first person to leave.
Yeah, I don't trust people that don't drink. There was this oddball in High School that used to carry around an empty 40oz at every part but never drank it. So I kicked his nerd ass and banged his mom. That'll teach that GDI creep ass not to come 'round my house with that soft shit.
Seriously though.....I fucked her hard and took pictures.
More serious, it’s kind of weird not to drink. I would just start drinking and build up a tolerance so you don’t look like a huge pussy when you finally start to drink and it’s in a situation that matters.
While a bit over the top, I tend to agree. It's a natural mismatch to be introverted, feel awkward in social situations and dislike drinking while pursuing a career in sales. If I were naturally introverted, I would avoid a career in sales like the plague. There are going to be a lot of forced interactions in a sales career that if you don't enjoy will make your life more miserable than it needs to be. There are a lot of other roles in markets that don't require constant client interaction and relationship management which seem like a much more natural fit for someone who thinks alcohol takes yukky, needs to be in bed by 10 and doesn't like to socialize.
As for the socializing during training--go or don't go. It really doesn't matter. But realize that if you can't overcome your dislike of social situations, and you're already trying to think up excuses to avoid them before you even start in the business because you don't like loud, crowded rooms filled with people you don't know and talking to strangers, you're going to hate working on a trading floor especially in a sales role.
I only drink unsocially. As in, always in private, never in public. Most know me as someone who doesn't drink. Then again, I'm the guy who doesn't give a flying fuck what others think about me.
Same, I only drink when I'm alone taking a cold shower in the dark.
When a Russian mafia hands you a shot of vodka...
Kidding aside, just have a beer or two per night to build some level of tolerance. You will be fine.
"I'll have a water", turn to colleagues, "I really need a quick workout tonight"
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