Ten Years Later and I'm Still Sad.

Hello all,

Today is a very special day for me: it is my Nana's birthday. However, today is one of the unhappiest days of my year as well, as my Nana is no longer with us, and has been taken to Heaven (devout Catholic) where she belongs. Each year, I find it more difficult to part with my sorrow, and this year is especially difficult because it has been ten years since Nana passed on. I know that some of you may not have had close relationships with your grandparents, or that some of you have lost relatives of your own. Do any of you have any advice about how to overcome the feelings of loss? And, if you feel like sharing any stories about your relatives, I will try to provide insight as well.

Thank you all.

 

...if you are a Catholic, shouldn´t you be at peace that she is in a better place now? Like, she watches over you in Eternity and one day you may meet her again, so why are you sad? The good memories don´t go away, her love for you doesn´t go away. Sounds to me like you had unfinished business with her.

...and the Truth shall set you free
 

You make a good point, and I do feel happy that she is in a better place. However, my personal life has changed immensely since she passed away; I have certain problems that I refuse to speak about, and since she has passed on, they have transferred into my family life, rather than where they were before. More than anything, I miss having the love of someone who truly cared about me, someone who understood me. It is truly difficult to be happy any longer.

 
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I have certain problems that I refuse to speak about

I'm devoutly Catholic too, but if these are issues that are going to affect you and your loved ones negatively, I hope you're able to find healthy ways to relieve that pressure. I myself have had personal issues, and am actively trying still to work through things. Hope you're doing ok.

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Thank you for your post. When I stated that my problems affected my family and I, they were not in reference to the passing of my late grandmother; rather, I have struggled with issues of mental health since childhood, and my grandmother was the person that I could always count on for support. Aside from that, I appreciate your advice. Thank you again.

 

Every time you think of her or feel sadness, you can call to her spirit. She is still here in spirit. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

I appreciate the fact that you shared your story, and I send my condolences for your loss. I'm glad that you've been feeling better for the last few years, too, so perhaps I will be able to feel the same way about my grandmother. Thank you for your post.

 

Well my friend, first of all may your loved one rest in peace. As you said, you are a religious person. It means you believe in heaven and hell. As you know, the world where we live in isn't a sweet place to be. We desire, we achieve, we lose, we become happy, and we become sad. Most of us seen many non-sweet things in our life. To sum up, this world is not a sweet place. The world where your relative went is far better than this one. So, that person is much more happy there. And that person will wait you there, and once you are there, you will be asked about your life. What will you say? I became weak and miserable? Or I became strong? Be strong my friend, death is not the end of life, it is beginning of the new one.

 

Thank you very much, my friend. You have truly made me feel more at ease. Thank you for your heartfelt post, and may your day be as blessed as it can be.

 

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