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"TIFU by looking up my school bully

So a little back story, my family moved to a whole new country were we didn't speak the language when I was 12 years old and they put me in a normal school and told me to just deal with it. I struggled like hell because I didn't speak a single word of English. The school they put me in was also rated one of the worst schools in the country, not just because of academic performance but also due to crime statistics (two separate stabbings happened on school premises while I was there). Anyway, I tried my hardest to ingratiate myself in the culture, the people and the language. One guy just completely hated my guts from day one. No idea why or what I did to him but he just absolutely hated me and showed it. he was your typical delinquent, stealing, ruining people's property, skipping school, drugs fighting, gang related activities you name it he's probably been involved in it. So that's he kind of person I'm talking about, he would beat me up with his friends in tow, constantly taking the piss out of my accent and my English in class, in front of the teachers and all. There was a couple of occasions where they pushed me into a puddle of mud just before school started, or would follow me into the toilet while I was pissing and try to choke me out from behind. I naturally had to find ways to survive by knowing which toilets to use and when. When to leave school and which exist to use. Where to sit in class etc. Once this failed and him and his friends found me outside of school and beat the brakes off of me. Literally couldn't do anything there was like 20+ boys and some men who came after to school to meet him. I just curled up and tried my best to protect my head. The only thing that kept me sane that entire time was the knowledge that none of this would matter when we grow up. I would have a family, a job be an upstanding member of society and he would be in prison or at the very least not doing well. Karma has to work right? The world can't be that unfair.

Fast forward 15 years. I haven't kept in contact with anyone from that school. I didn't make any friends and I didn't develop Stockholm's. I looked him up on Facebook.

He owns a very successful business he has a beautiful wife and two young kids. He lives in the best part of town, he owns a huge house and a few very expensive cars. He is doing incredibly well as opposed to me, not married, no kids, no job and back living with my parents. This has completely fucked me up for the past 5 days and I just can't get over the bullshit I was fed, karma will get him for you. I think karma missed.

TLDR: looked up my school bully and he is doing way better than I ever will."


Sounds like this guy had a rough go, and the bully may have had a hand in this guy's lack of success, but his failures are his fucking fault. I don't get why people don't just get over shit like this. There's probably a good reason he was bullied.

 
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Maybe because you said "There's probably a good reason he was bullied"? Idk unless you count being a general outcast in a rough school who doesn't even speak the language, then I'm just not seeing it. I tend to think that there are no good reasons for stuff like that. It's not like they both were assholes and the one guy just fucked him up for it. There was a hatian kid at my school that got bullied a ton by pretty much every ethnic and social group there, and I honestly felt really bad. I don't keep in touch and weren't friends by any meansbut he thanked me for being one of the few people who wer decent to him. Was he doing something wrong for being from another country and having a tough accent? If this is true, is it fair what happened to that kid?

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Can't post links so here's it pasted in here:

"TIFU by looking up my school bully

So a little back story, my family moved to a whole new country were we didn't speak the language when I was 12 years old and they put me in a normal school and told me to just deal with it. I struggled like hell because I didn't speak a single word of English. The school they put me in was also rated one of the worst schools in the country, not just because of academic performance but also due to crime statistics (two separate stabbings happened on school premises while I was there). Anyway, I tried my hardest to ingratiate myself in the culture, the people and the language. One guy just completely hated my guts from day one. No idea why or what I did to him but he just absolutely hated me and showed it. he was your typical delinquent, stealing, ruining people's property, skipping school, drugs fighting, gang related activities you name it he's probably been involved in it. So that's he kind of person I'm talking about, he would beat me up with his friends in tow, constantly taking the piss out of my accent and my English in class, in front of the teachers and all. There was a couple of occasions where they pushed me into a puddle of mud just before school started, or would follow me into the toilet while I was pissing and try to choke me out from behind. I naturally had to find ways to survive by knowing which toilets to use and when. When to leave school and which exist to use. Where to sit in class etc. Once this failed and him and his friends found me outside of school and beat the brakes off of me. Literally couldn't do anything there was like 20+ boys and some men who came after to school to meet him. I just curled up and tried my best to protect my head. The only thing that kept me sane that entire time was the knowledge that none of this would matter when we grow up. I would have a family, a job be an upstanding member of society and he would be in prison or at the very least not doing well. Karma has to work right? The world can't be that unfair.

Fast forward 15 years. I haven't kept in contact with anyone from that school. I didn't make any friends and I didn't develop Stockholm's. I looked him up on Facebook.

He owns a very successful business he has a beautiful wife and two young kids. He lives in the best part of town, he owns a huge house and a few very expensive cars. He is doing incredibly well as opposed to me, not married, no kids, no job and back living with my parents. This has completely fucked me up for the past 5 days and I just can't get over the bullshit I was fed, karma will get him for you. I think karma missed.

TLDR: looked up my school bully and he is doing way better than I ever will."


Sounds like this guy had a rough go, and the bully may have had a hand in this guy's lack of success, but his failures are his fucking fault. I don't get why people don't just get over shit like this. There's probably a good reason he was bullied.

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But for real though I follow that sub. It's a funny sub Fuck that bitch ass OP. These fucking "nice kids" always feel entitled to shit. Entitled to acceptance, to a girl's affection, to success. Life's not fair and you're weak. Tough titties. And that's coming from someone who was bullied relentlessly from the time I set foot in this country. Did OP learn martial arts after getting bullied? Nah he didn't How'd that bully get rich? Probably adding value. How'd he get a hot wife? Probably being a valuable human. How come you ain't got none of that shit? I thought you were an upstanding member of this mumbo jumbo? Fuck those soft fucks. That bully was going that kid a favor. Trying to harden him up. Like yo kid, this is just a taste of life. Here's some very small shit for you to overcome. You gonna try to overcome or you gonna crumble? Crumblie ass bitches love to cry and complain. They haven't been through shit. That whining is the height of their discomfort in this life. Let them cry. And we'll hope they're faced with some real adversity one day and they can grow from it.

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My family moved to another country when I was 3, and stayed there until I was 7 - It was just long enough that I had developed a peculiar accent in my first language, as I had been growing up and speaking another language in my formative years.

When we moved back home, I was bullied because of this - and it lasted for around 3 years. It all ended when I beat the living shit out of one of the bullies. Noone ever talked shit to me again, so I guess setting an example worked for me. (Interestingly enough, me and the bully I beat up actually became very good friends later on).

But as far as school bullies go, I'd say that the majority of them are just insecure people, or have otherwise shitty lives, which in turn makes them act out on other people. This is something I've seen so, so many times; Both in kids and adults.

Then you have a minority of stone cold sociopaths and psychopaths, but there's not much you can do with them, unfortunately.

Bullying is terrible though, and it's sad that kids get bullied for the most ridiculous and trivial things. It can do lasting damage on ones self-esteem, which is vital for adult development. And at the same time, some bullies do clean up, and become respectable adults. But unfortunately you also have those that carry it into adulthood

 

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