To those in their mid to late 20s approaching 30, why are you living alone?
If your in your mid to late 20s or even in their 30s, do you live alone? Why? How do you like living alone? Do you get lonely sometimes? Or do you enjoy it? Do you wish you had someone to live with? Where do you see yourself in the next few years?
I am at the moment and its driving me crazy. the quietness is weirding me out. but I do have a lodger coming shortly. and hopefully another one soon after.
Are they people you know, like your friends ?
yeah I forgot to say I bought a house, one friend moving in shortly, the other guy is a friend from a diff friend group, should fill the other spare room. they are quiet guys but will be good to have people around.
edit: I'd quite like to get a girl in one of the rooms as they definitely add a feminine touch. plus they actually clean the skids off the toilet bowl.
Do most people live with friends from college after graduation?
not where I'm from anyway
In my city in the US. Out of about 20 of closer friends, only 3 live on their own.
Sorry :)
Asking the real questions. Depending on the space, it might not be all that bad if it's a studio or 1 bedroom, don't have to deal with random roommates or even your friends. Living with roommates is always a negotiation and you'll inevitably get on each other's nerves. Imo the best is within the context of a relationship since you could be seeing things eye to eye on a lot of issues, but the girl I'm seeing has her own place too actually, some of my friends are in similar situations in that they don't split a lease/mortgage but have 2 places.
After living through college with roommates I realized having your own space is awesome. If it feels empty just get a pet.
Is that what you do?
Agreed, I went to boarding school from aged 12 and have flatmates in uni, always looked forward to just living alone. After uni i stopped having flatmates all together and have been living alone since.
Except for a few years while dating someone, I have lived alone for nearly 15 years. It is amazing. I would never, ever want roommates again. Obviously it comes down to personal preference, but it is so nice to have the ability to escape from everything and not have to deal with another human if I don't choose. Think of all the little compromises you have to make when you have roommates. Are they using the bathroom? Did they make a mess? Are they taking the good spot on the couch? Using the TV? Eating your food? Making noise when you're trying to sleep or preventing you from making noise when they are trying to sleep? Do they have annoying habits?
I don't see material upside in having roommates other than the financial savings. If i want to see my friends, I go see my friends, or they can come to my place. And very importantly, as you get older women will start to judge you depending on your living situation. Even if your perfect girl is one that can 'hang with the boys,' you'll want alone time with her that goes beyond closing the bedroom door.
What if you have a girlfriend ? Then what will you do? What if she wants to move in with you?
Move in with her, of course, if you feel the relationship has reached that point. I'm not suggesting you live separately from your partner, I'm talking about roommates. Relationships are a very different thing.
I'm 5'4" and Hispanic. Live alone, never had a gf or any hook ups. I don't exist in the dating market at my height and color. So I've given up on the women and got a cat. Will most likely live alone going forward. Tbh I like living alone, the peace and quiet is relaxing, I can go or do whatever I want constantly, don't have to share decisions on where to eat, travel, etc. Part that sucks is not being able to share experiences with someone I love and get no action/affection ever. I work out, run, keep my weight in check, drive a bimmer but nothing works. Overall living alone is my only option but waking up to peace and quiet and then halo infinite for the whole day works. It's sad but I cant change what women like so it is what it is.
Maybe put yourself out there more? Someone's out there for you my man
"Putting yourself out there" is a fucking meme
"I don't exist in the dating market at my height and color."
I think the attitude is what's keeping you out of the market.
I saw it was the D and thought you were Drumpfy
***You don’t exist in the upper echelons of the dating market.
Set your sights lower. You’re right, no average height+ white girl in financial services will look at you, unless you’re worth mid-8 figs+. But they’re not the entire pool, or even close. You’re going to have to flex a bit (/lot) on looks and or status.
Ever considered moving to Miami?
How would that help
Not with that attitude you don't.
Jesus was around your height so don’t even sweat it my friend. Agree with other posters, try Houston or Miami. Louisiana also has shorter people in general due to the Italian and French heritage. You seem to have a lot going for you.
I got you, don't even trip like that. How old are you?
Agreed with others on this thread, time to put yourself out there. There’s no doubt someone out there for you and your cat, when you’re ready. 👊🏻
Living alone is one of life's greatest pleasures.
Yeah I’ve lived alone for 7 years now, it has been pretty sweet.
Don't do you have a side-chick and main-chick though?
Cant imagine living with roomates by late 20s, especially early 30s - unless you live in a place culturally where it's normal (NYC, SF). At a certain point it definitely is weird, and becomes VERY annoying in dating life if you pull tail frequently.
It's key having friends that you can see when you want but have that time off when you get home. Other than that sharing a space with friends gets old pretty fast
I grew up as an only child and have had a 1br/studio since senior year of college. Before that I did a 3br with 6 guys (2 per room) and it was an exhausting few years. When I want to see friends now I go see them. I have people over for dinner parties or pregames when I feel like it. When people show up unannounced my doorman stops them. If I want absolute mayhem, I can simply step outside (midtown Manhattan) and when I want tranquility I just go home. I think it comes down to the people you live with, but I have no interest in having less “exciting” friends, even if it means we can’t live together. A tough-love compromise.
so I can:
1) bring girls
2) have privacy and decide what I do and when (if I wanna stay up all night, I can; if I wanna sleep during the day, I can; etc.).
I am actually considering moving together with my girlfriend, but she snores, and I am a light sleeper, so I'm not sure. And probably won't be able to bring other girls then as well.
If snoring is a huge issue now, do you expect to be married and live together separately?
Also if the reason she snores is a weight issue... get her to the gym lol
I'm thinking we could have 2 bedrooms and sleep separately.
Nah, it's not weight. She's super fit.
Late 20's pretty much lived with roommates until now (years after undergrad and grad school), I definitely prefer to live alone, I'll never get another roommate unless I'm dating her.
What parts do you like best in living alone?
I can watch TV whenever I want (which is actually a pretty big deal for me, I watch a lot of movies and often very spur of the moment), not having to be social when I'm off of work, don't have to worry about noise/music (either from other people or my own concern about bother a roommate), I get to hang my art on the walls, etc.
Mid/late twenties here and living alone is the best. Sometimes I think about all the money I could save with a roommate, but that is the only pro I see. I lived with roommates all through college and for a year after. Then had a girlfriend move in for 3 years. Now being single in a new city I wouldn't have it any other way.
What parts do you like best in living alone?
If you can afford it, I’d highly recommend living alone (or with a romantic partner). Otherwise, you have to make sure the other person is clean, respectful, responsible, etc. If you’re craving interaction outside of work, meet up with friends, join a gym/club, get a pet, or pick up a hobby.
Never going back. Ended up very good friends with my last set of roommates two years ago but Im considering two bedrooms if/when I shack up with someone. Sleep is important and scare at times, I don’t want that messed with. Obviously I’m introverted, if I get lonely I can see friends/get dinner/go out (aka I feel good about my social support system) but the the freedom to do whatever I want is great.
Are you in your late 20's if I may ask? What if you eventually want to settle down?
Having roommates is awesome in college, good-to-decent your first year or two out, then a pain any time thereafter
So what do you do now?
Have a one-bedroom.
24 now and about to move in to my own place in a few weeks. Have lived with roommates and after college for 3 years. It's nice having people constantly around but honestly in a way different place in life then my roommates. Have known each other for years but they are still living the frat days and it is kind of exhausting to be around. On top of that a clean person and our house always gets trashed.
Been starting to wonder if it is going to be extremely lonely/if I am isolating myself from my friends by choosing to go and live on my own. To counter that though I am always fine with driving whatever distance to see friends or do things so it should not be that much of an issue. Really looking forward to having my own space where I can call my own and be able to setup the layout the way I want.
How far from your friends will you be?
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