VP Added Me on Facebook - Do I Accept the Friend Request?

I'm a student recruiting for internships, so I networked with a VP at a bank, and a couple days later he sent me a friend request on Facebook. It's been a day since then and I don't know what to do. This guy is about 30 years old and I have a "clean" Facebook account, but why is he doing this? I can't really decline the friend request can I?

I haven't even interviewed with the bank yet. Is he going to look at all my photos?

 

It's a bit strange. If your profile is private, you can ignore it and keep networking with him, claiming that you don't go on FB much these days so you didn't see his invite.

The situation is outside of norms for professional decorum, but if you think you could form a relationship with him beyond "hey I need a job!" then it doesn't hurt anything. Did you guys discuss any common interests that might lead to a friendship?

 

One alternative is the VP wants to make sure the individual applying will fit in or isn't a weirdo. Depending on how great their resume is, there could be a concern over social skills if they forgot to make an effort to highlight that on their resume somehow. I come from a non-target, so I see a lot of my peers trying to cram every professional/academic experience they can into their resume in an effort to differentiate themselves, but then forget an interests section that would humanize them and make someone WANT to work beside you for a grueling amount of time. Or OP is a girl..

 

Maybe you two had great rapport and he actually sees you as a friend? Anyhow, the whole point of networking is establishing relationships, and this is a pretty good indicative of that, so unless you upload not-so appropriate stuff on your Facebook, I don't see a problem.

To infinity... and beyond!
 

best strategy on FB right here. I have about 15 people in purgatory right now, from randoms who found me via linkedin shares, high school idiots, family members I don't want seeing pics, and so on.

the alternative is you accept the request but then quickly go in and make him a restricted friend, so he gets a very very limited look at your profile.

if it were me though, I'd just leave him in purgatory.

by the way, lots of people find incriminating pics via friends of friends (who aren't as strict on their FB privacy), so make sure your friend list is set to private as well.

 

Ok so an update on this: I accepted his friend request, and he made it even more awkward. The VP liked one of my photos - it's a picture of me eating food at a restaurant.

I must admit I counter-creeped on him and looked at his photos. This guy has hundreds of pictures of himself on Facebook, and multiple albums of him doing "normal" things.

Would it be awkward to bring this up in a conversation and say, "Hey, I saw that you liked my photo on Facebook"? Because then he knows that I know that he's been looking at my photos...

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Yeah he wants to fuck you, and I'm not talking about the Friday 5pm "Hey can you do this pitch for me?" type of fuck, I'm talking about the Saturday 2am "u up?" type of fuck.

We're not lawyers. We're investment bankers. We didn't go to Harvard. We Went to Wharton!
 

If this request was sexual in nature you could leverage this to your advantage.

  • Screenshot the request, any messages or emails you receive, and the times they liked your picture. Lead them on for as long as you can.

This is what I'll call supporting the proposal. In a takeover the buyer will have a special committee meet to determine preliminary steps to be taken before deciding if they need additional financial sponsors. Get all your NDA's in order and meet with the Investment Committee.

(This is where you are right now. I will send you an invoice shortly.)

  • Identify people of note on their linkedin or facebook.

This is your due diligence process. Many deals fall apart because due diligence wasn't done properly and some partner sends you new numbers to update everything last second. If the numbers change there is no point in meeting the sponsor so make sure it is all correct.

  • Compile this into a list of email addresses. Find as many email addresses as you can.

Usually at this point you check on the status of any internal operating models. That means don't skimp on the details. You'll need this in your Final Investment Memorandum so you might as well do as much due diligence as you can now,

  • Choose a method of response. I recommend using the information you find to send a chain email to the VP's group for maximum amusement so everyone can see VP has no game whatsoever.

You need to assess your strategic alternatives and explore all synergistic opportunities. What would KKR do? Whatever it is you probably can't afford it so instead do the opposite. Are you hot enough for blackmail? What does your market research say? This might be a good time to hire a third party to do an independent valuation before the deal proceeds. Maybe you would rather a different offer and consideration.

  • Make contact with the takeover target.

This is where you let VP know they can buy their way out. This is your Non-binding Letter of Intent and Final Investment Memorandum in one. Consider it the first and last round because you probably can't meet the maintenance margin on something requiring more leverage.

  • Profit.

This is the buyside, screw them over since they already knew the rules of the game. Take the money and shitpost anyway. You'll probably get some bananas. If you are lucky maybe one day a sexy news anchor on CNBC will do a story about how millennials like you are using technology to disrupt the traditional private equity market.

 

Not in today's day and urge where one rude comment can result dozens of pissed off netizens with nothing better to do writing your employer about how you need to be fired.

Not a hypothetical. One YouTuber who made some great videos for one of my hobbies had to shut down his store after internet people got pissed off at him using the word "retarded" in a video......which if you ask me is fucking retarded.

 

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