What do guys look for in a girlfriend?

What do you look for in a girlfriend or wife? And what would be the difference between a girl you just hook up with rather than date?

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  • Intern in IB - Gen
Jun 12, 2020 - 8:17pm

Easy, personality. I'd like to think I hook-up with/date women above a similar threshold of attractiveness but for me to consider them for a serious relationship they need to pass a far higher threshold of personality/lifestyle fit than a hookup.

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  • Intern in IB-M&A
Jun 12, 2020 - 8:47pm

None of us on this website get girls bro, our attraction to prestige and rankings far outweighs any sexual experience.

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Jun 15, 2020 - 12:51pm

I wouldn't expect her to know how to do a full A/D model or anything in practice, but demonstrating that she prepared (vault guide, etc) earns points in my book.

Dayman?
  • Intern in S&T - Other
Jun 12, 2020 - 10:14pm

Come girls should also ask "what you are looking for in BF/Husband" Don't let the guys do all the judging

  • Intern in IB - Gen
Jun 13, 2020 - 6:14pm

Will give an actual serious answer
1. hot 2. smart 3. same values
same values includes a lot of things but basically a girl that is not a thot and someone I would be proud to be public with. This last bit seems pretty hard to find nowadays and I know I will be judged for saying this.

Jun 14, 2020 - 12:16pm
Intern in IB - Gen:

1. hot 2. smart 3. same values

the only correct answer - in that exact order as well

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Jun 15, 2020 - 7:35am

you won't be judged.

to be judged, other people have to actually care what you have to say.

nobody gives a fuck about your useless opinions

therefore, you can't get judged

now shut the fuck up, okay nerd?

Jun 14, 2020 - 7:48am
bullsandbear:

Good lord what is happening to this site

I'm back on this site after having been a pretty regular member from about 2010-2014, and let me just assure you that it has quite literally always been like this.

“Millionaires don't use astrology, billionaires do”
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Jun 13, 2020 - 10:06pm
  1. Athletic
  2. Spiritual (monotheistic)
  3. Intelligent

I'm not asking for a lot here, just a few essentials.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Jun 13, 2020 - 11:04pm
Zarathustra9:

Whats up w/ monotheistic. What do you have against Hindus and Buddhists.

To be honest, it really doesn't have to be monotheistic as long as the person knows 'love'. I believe love is the answer and end all and be all.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

Jun 15, 2020 - 9:00am

I'm actually with Isaiah 53:5 on this. It's culturally way too different and I don't agree with many of the values in those religions.

I want someone who was raised with Christian/Jewish values and willing to discuss about the messianic issue (if we differ). Period. Not branching out.

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Jun 14, 2020 - 7:33pm

I welcome a theological debate from an SO if needed.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

Jun 13, 2020 - 10:58pm

So this is an i interesting question and if you are interested in knowing a girl's perspective who has been through banking and made it to the buyside lets just say if you seem like you dont care about the job at all but have amazing work product, girls are about it - be sly, nice, and carefree. Real advice, it works

  • Intern in IB-M&A
Jun 13, 2020 - 11:21pm

Great question, +1 SB. For me personally, I'm a pretty simple guy. I look for the basics in a potential long-term girlfriend:

1) great personality: charismatic, lively, ambitious, fun, sex freak.
2) intelligent: preferably received education from Harvard, though Yale wouldn't necessarily be a deal breaker.
3) career: ideally would be a brain surgeon, a lawyer at Cravath swaine moore, an MD at GS, and a CTO at Google all at the same time. Again, if she's not one of these, it's not necessarily a deal breaker, but it could be what separates a gf from a hook up.
4) must take care of the kids so i can do my job (stream fortnite on twitch) and fulfill my role as the breadwinner of the family.
5) must be a Michelin star chef - this one is not up for debate.
6) must come from a billionaire family.
7) not too concerned about looks. I'm not like these other dickheads. I see her for what she is on the inside. Although she shouldn't be below a 8.

Yeah, pretty simple if I'm being honest. Appreciate the question.

Jun 14, 2020 - 10:41am
  1. Good looking
  2. Smart
  3. Freak (no prude)

Interested in health tech, consulting, and entrepreneurship.

Jun 14, 2020 - 1:26pm
  1. Easy going, personable, and comfortable to be around.
  2. Not be complete morons when it comes to basic life skills. I once dated a girl that casually told me that she was over $200000 in credit card debt, because she'd let her cokehead ex use her CC, with no oversight whatsoever. She had no plans for how to handle the debt, and her mail was overflowing with letters from collection agencies.
  3. Matching levels of libido.
  4. Has ambitions and some plans for life. I've dated too many girls that were just coasting through life, with no goals - I don't care if I'm the breadwinner, but I need them to do something, I just don't want to be another provider.
  5. Independent, and not clingy. I need a lot of alone time, and often need a small break from people. I can't have a GF that gets all pissy because I need some hours of social time once a month etc.
  • Summer Associate in IB - Gen
Jun 14, 2020 - 2:36pm

make sure she's a model. hear me out boys. instead of 7 years, model this one out for 40 years. Make sure that top line is steady and increasing over time. you don't want her expenses to outweigh what she brings in, otherwise you'll have a negative time.

After that, add back all those non cash events. She nice? kind? what does she do for you? After a long days work, you want to make she she's the last spread-sheet you see.

Will she provide you dividends in a few years that you can watch grow up?

If she nets positive, invest.

Jun 14, 2020 - 7:33pm

number 1 criteria - she loves me and wants to be with me. That has actually helped a lot. As I've become gradually more annoying, being with a girl who was really into me at the beginning and thought my quirks were positive features has helped weather storms of time and annoyance.

I met my wife at work, and she kept thinking my erratic behavior was adorable. 13 years later (10 married) I still make her laugh all the time and she really, really loves me. That's got to count for something in this world.

Jun 16, 2020 - 12:43am

of course it's not the only criteria. I had a number of must-haves, and a number of nice to have's. Just pointing out that the number one thing is to be with someone who wants to be with you. That REALLY wants to be with you. Someone once gave me an anecdote about a wife who saw her husband roll up his dirty socks and put them on the coffee table absentmindedly. Before they were married she thought "oh, that's adorable. He's like a little child. I can take care of him." And later in life when he did the same thing the wife thought "What an inconsiderate bastard to leave rolled up dirty socks on the damn coffee table." So much of marriage is a matter of perspective and tolerance, so when my GF was nice to me, and seemed to really like my antics, it made it easier to see that she might be able to put up with me for the long-term.

Jun 17, 2020 - 2:49am

These posts makes me crave these amazing banana pancakes that I had in Sumbawa, Indonesia - looking at the waves break having these pancakes and thick Indonesian coffee in the morning before a surf session.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Jun 15, 2020 - 8:52pm

crab chiggins popping off in the comments rn, damn. it's not a popular WSO post without a bit of gatekeeping

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"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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