What to do to get over having missed out on the social fun and thrills of college?

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Whats up WSO crew.

So I'll jump right to it. On paper, it seems like my life has come a long way since I first joined this forum. I went from working for barely anything and an unemployable major to securing a nice sales role that does not have me worrying about money as much.

I won't waste the whole thread giving the story to my college years other than they sucked socially and I missed out on a lot of the fun social shit (parties, lots of friends, hookups, sorority formals, list goes on).

Now I am in my mid-twenties and feel like I need to do something before I get too old in order to have at least some fun or social thrills. I have this strong urge to do something fun in my twenties so I have something great to look back on like most kids have an awesome college experience to look back on.

The only thing I can think of right now is trying to get a second job at a nightclub or bar, I know bartender is going to be a stretch but maybe nightclub promoter or something of the sort. These sorts of jobs were huge back at my university for anyone that wanted to be a part of the party scene.

I know it is a lot to do but current job has me working 40 to 50 hours and I am on a board full of bankers, you guys work 80 hours so my current work hours are a joke compared to what you guys are at. I am thinking fitting in that sort of a second job on top of my 9 to 5 will at least get me an additional source of income as well as some great experiences.

Trying to wonder what else I can do to redeem myself in my twenties. Would love some serious ideas for anyone that might have gone through this and come back.

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Jun 24, 2018

Not every college experience is filled with fun, parties, (..). But since you are still relatively young there are quite a few options
- do a part-time degree or additional classes to advance your skill set. you'd be part of the "college scene" while still in your 20s.
- if you don't want to study any longer, hang out in the typical college bars, clubs, movies, and restaurants. You'll eventually run into the sorority girls you didn't get to experience earlier in life. At around 25 you won't be super young, but not ancient either. I don't think you would have to work there to be part of the scene. If you make the right friends they'll take you along / invite you.
- if it is hookups you are after, there are the typical gyms, cafes, bars, hangout spots, beaches, rivers, lakes, etc where they will be. Just hang around these hot spots and with some game you'll be alright.
- do you have younger friends who are at the local college(s)? Ask them to invite you?
- If you studied at the local school try to engage with alumni groups and join activities, this is more "serious" and not "just fun", but at least you will be around younger folks.
- There are also jobs at the universities that can be part-time, depending on how much into academics you are or what skills you have. This is more of a long shot but I had jobs at colleges when I was younger and met quite a few students that way (this was after I started working).

Jun 24, 2018

Have a silver banana because you did give advice and I love that.

As for my goal, I feel like I need to get away from a college setting itself because it brings in too many bad memories and I do feel like 25 is kind of old to be around undergrads. I know I don't have to work at a bar to make friends but I feel like people are real picky about their friends and usually come with a crew anyways so working at a bar part time will help...

Jun 26, 2018

25 is not "kind of old to be around undergrads." You sound like you lack confidence. Going to need to change that if you want to have more of a social life now.

Jun 25, 2018

Did you do a Gumball?

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Jun 25, 2018

We did two - back in the day when nobody knew what a rally was! They were a lot cheaper as well (plus they allowed external sponsorships). Best time we ever had with cars, nothing else came even close.

Jun 25, 2018
Gumball3000:

We did two - back in the day when nobody knew what a rally was! They were a lot cheaper as well (plus they allowed external sponsorships). Best time we ever had with cars, nothing else came even close.

I'm jealous. I watched the Mischief/Teckademics documentary back in the early 2000s of the Gumball3000 and was amazed at all the crazy fun they had.

Oh to be young, wild, and daring again...I used to have a juiced up coupe and now I drive an SUV dubbed by my coworker as "Soccer Mom."

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Jun 25, 2018

I met Dado, Dustin, Reza and the other guys! they are the real dtmpower OGs! they are so much more fun in person, it was unbelievable.
Also, GB3000 charged next to nothing for the rally because they didn't have the same celebrity appeal back then (driving and owning a car as a whole hobby was cheaper as well). The entire tuning culture and car hobby ballooned because of the internet and, recently, social media.
edit: Luckily I never left the car scene, I still collect, build, tune and drive cars as a hobby. But with a lot less time and dedication of course.

Quote 2018 T&Cs:
5. Entry Fee
5.1 The "Entry Fee" for the Event is 60,000 (sixty thousand GBP) for New Entrants (see clause 5.2 below), per vehicle containing two (2) named entrants for the full rally from London to Tokyo.

Jun 25, 2018

Oh the questions I have!

I'll stop with this one. How many infractions did you get? I ask because the documentary I saw showed people getting 5-9 tickets a day. Was the whole event really just a big juiced up Rally whipping across the US at triple digit speeds?

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Jun 26, 2018

I had no tickets at all. One thing the videos and youtube won't tell you is that only the "extreme" moments and arrests are shown. When you drive 3000+ mls there are so many events not worth capturing.
The highest amount of tickets typically go to the folks who constantly speed (and these were millionaires or billionaires who didn't care about the money or legal issues) or people who got lost, crashed and then had to make up time.
So one trick to avoid tickets would be: prepare, plan, don't get completely wasted, start every day early and you should be alright. Generally, planning such a rally as a participant starts about 6 months before the event.

The whole rally is a massive event: about 140 cars. 2 drivers each. about 100+ support cars (staffed with 2-3 people each), then the staff (hundreds per location), personal security (for the VIPs), traveling staff, Max and his team, promo and external vendors and VIP guests, former racers, and so on! There are about or more than 1,000 people traveling for 3,000 mls and there is NO way you can meet or talk to all of them in 7 days. Like with everything in life, there will be cliques, groups and people with similar interests (there will be the athletes, the old school dot com guys, the car dealers, the young tech entrepreneurs, the promo models,, wifes & girlfriends, ..). One big aspect is that most participants are men and a little bit older, say 45+ years of age. It is unlikely a young man in his 20s can expend north of 75K $US for a 7 day vacation.

I would summarize the event and subculture as an eccentric event for the gloal UHNI elite. They are also more diverse than any other luxury consumer group and all ethnicities/religions/nationalities are meshed with their common passion for cars. The friendships you make here will last a lifetime and there were several very successful ventures formed based on the Gumball events.

Since networking is often mentioned here on wso: People who join the rally are not only into cars, they are also very successful in what they do and the networking opportunities are endless.

The interesting aspect is that I almost never met anyone at GB who had a IBD or finance background. Same at work, almost nobody I meet at work is into cars, works on cars, ... - I guess entrepreneurs are the most likely group of people who can spend the time and money on these events. A regular employee at a bank wouldn't necessarily be able to afford it these days (unless older or in a niche income group).
(entry ticket + car + tuning/planing + travel + gadgets + expenses = 150K+ for 7 days)

Jun 24, 2018

This is what grad school is about.

Jun 24, 2018

You should be over all that loser nightlife shit by now...

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/

Jun 24, 2018

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"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

Jun 25, 2018
GoldenCinderblock:

You should be over all that loser nightlife shit by now...

This. Nightlife is not all models and bottles glam. You also missed out on blowing your money, hangovers, DUIs/DWIs, and tons of other problems.

That said, there is plenty of time. 22 and 25 are a moot point. You're far from old. Go ball at the local college bar and you'll see that you didn't miss much at all.

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Jun 30, 2018

Actually, it is a pretty big goal for my in my twenties to somehow get a chance at working at a nightclub or bar or being a part of that scene.

Jun 24, 2018
Postgradwonderer:

Trying to wonder what else I can do to redeem myself in my twenties. Would love some serious ideas for anyone that might have gone through this and come back.

Just move to NYC.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Jun 24, 2018

That is HUGE on my bucket list, hear that NYC is almost like college in your 20s. Worry is by the time I have had the options to get a nice gig there, I will be in my late 20s, hopefully I can still fit in.

Jun 25, 2018

I'm in the same boat as you. I am also in my mid-twenties, and for a while I felt frustrated that I was missing out on "all the cool experiences everyone else is having". I think most people are faking it, to a degree - social media and television/film are so pervasive and give a false impression that everyone else is having a better life than we are. For most of my life, older people have been telling me that life doesn't really start until your 30's and even 40's. So I decided that instead of living with regret and disappointment right now, I will use this time to advance my career and set myself up for a great future. People will still want to socialize and have fun later, so I want to maximize my potential and prepare for a life I can really call my own.

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Jun 30, 2018

My issue with people saying life doesn't really start until your 30s and even 40s is how are you supposed to find community at those ages? So many of your friends are married with kids and it feels strange being a single guy in your 30s. I am not saying you can't land a date or anything but everything is unfortunately so family oriented instead of fun like your twenties which is why I am having my quarter-life crisis.

Jun 25, 2018

The only thing I'd be worried about for you is that you can't go back and recreate relationships or alter college memories. You'll make friends if you keep putting yourself out there. But being worried about not having partied enough is just missing the point. The only thing important about having partied throughout college is if you come away with lasting friendships and memories. Plus, you're never too old to party if you think it's that important. Just look at Gianluca Vacchi. Fucker doesn't care if he has a heart attack

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Jun 30, 2018

I agree with you and that is my aim, but the ultimate aim is to have fun party friends for me which is so tough to do after college. Everyone already downed their alcohol in college and after college, everyone has "grown up". As someone who missed out on college, it is tough for me to relate to the "look I am so grown up now at the age of 25" crowd. That is why I am trying to see if I can get some sort of a gig in nightlife whether it is bartender or club promoter.

Jun 25, 2018

Go to the gym --> Get yoked --> Go on Tinder --> Smash

Jul 5, 2018

This helps a little but definitely isn't flawless

Jun 25, 2018

Get drunk, travel, pick up women (or men). I'm middle aged and have exponentially more fun than when I was younger.

The fact college is equated with partying is symbolic of the problem wit student loan debt in this country.

Jun 30, 2018

I rather keep it American although I will say that I have done what you said. Must say one thing, for being the "land of the free", my travels have shown me that Americans are extremely uptight about things like sex, drinking and partying. This thing is even worse in the south with all the morally self-righteous Bible thumpers.

Jun 25, 2018

One word: Travel. Go someplace where the dollar is strong. I'd recommend Thailand and the Full Moon Party. If that scene isn't your speed or cost isn't a big deal there's always Ibiza. Do a group tour and make some awesome friends. I prefer South America though as Brazil's nightlife is insane.

Try to stay at party hostels. You'll meet a ton of like minded internationals in the 20-26 age range, the hookups sort off fall into your lap (the girls are far away from home and have no peer set judging them), and you get to throw in some adventure as you go. I was able to extend the fun I had in undergrad another 5-6 years this way. The downside is my game in the states has become terrible. You won't have the patience any longer for entitled chicks back home.

The cherry on top is that it's also really nice to travel when you've no financial worries.

Jun 30, 2018

Now this I can get on board with, always want to find the fun party people and I feel like there is a lot of benefit to making some cool friends around my age at this point, especially in the future if I ever have to move abroad.

Jun 26, 2018

Pull a Rodney and Go Back to School.

Jun 26, 2018
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Jul 4, 2018
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Big bodacious goals will get us to another galaxy.