What’s a CRITICALLY Important Concept That Most People Get Wrong?

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I saw this on twitter and I thought damn that's a good question.

Someone else said "That time has far more value than money."

I answered "still waters run deep"

Someone's calm or quiet nature does not reflect their level of depth, likability, or intelligence. I think this is very important since it applies a lot to me! I am a rather quiet girl at first- always like to feel people out- and sometimes I hear what people say and the feedback baffles me..

Some say I am standoffish or arrogant bc I don't contribute, others say I am shy, and others say I am mysterious/too reserved. It's an overall mix (of negatives mostly), but this quote goes to show someones initial outer nature is not a reflection of them as a person.

What is one that you think others should know? Is it representative of you?

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Aug 15, 2019

weird flex but ok

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Aug 15, 2019

not a flex lmao!!! actually bothers me that ppl see me as arrogant when I am a shy/introverted person. it results in making me more shy since i am judged

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Aug 15, 2019

That doesn't even sound like a flex ....

Anyway mine would be that "it takes TWO to tango"

Hate that people don't take ownership of something even when it involves them. Just own up to the mistake and move on. You aren't fooling anyone!

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Aug 16, 2019

It seems to cause a lack of trust from others. How far along are you in your career?

Don't quit!
Aug 15, 2019

Blood is thicker than water

In the nontraditional sense. Your biological family can suck sometimes, so I apply this to friends that I consider my family. The blood and relationship we share is deeper than anything I can get with a bunch of coworkers or people who try to use you

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Aug 15, 2019

definitely agree with you on the non traditional sense. i have some "blood" family that this definitely does not apply to hahah

Aug 15, 2019

Definitely always went with the Biblical interpretation in that "blood is thicker than water" meaning that your word with people meant more and had more weight than your blood relation to them.

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Aug 15, 2019

Not sure this counts but "don't beat around the bush". I am the type to get straight to the point and don't appreciate when people suggest you are too delicate for the hard truth

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Aug 15, 2019

Yeah! It doesn't have to be an idiom but I can relate to that one hardcore. Never thought about it in the sense that someone "sees me as to delicate" to be honest. More like they think that I am oblivious hah

Aug 19, 2019
anotheronett:

Not sure this counts but "don't beat around the bush". I am the type to get straight to the point and don't appreciate when people suggest you are too delicate for the hard truth

Yeah, every wannabe hardo says this, and just about every single one is wrong. We're at our worst when evaluating ourselves and especially our own psychological makeup.

I mean, here you are, claiming to be someone who can handle the hard truth without flinching, and yet, you are already taking exception to someone presenting information in a way you don't like. You're taking offense because you don't like the way others phrase information/requests/questions... perhaps those people have a particular way of speaking? Or personal/private reasons for not coming straight out and saying something to you.

If I had to guess, I'd imagine there is one single action/comment/episode in your life that you'd be uncomfortable having bruited about your office or community. If that's so, take your nonsense "give me the direct, hard truth every time" nonsense out of here

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Aug 19, 2019

good psychological break down hahaha

Aug 19, 2019

the only triggered one here is you.... you can't make a "hardo" analogy of someone just bc they don't like to beat around the bush? I could take what you said and spin it around and say maybe I have a 'private reason' to NOT want to be lied/messed around with? just throw MS and go

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Aug 15, 2019

Cross that bridge when you come to it

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Aug 15, 2019

I can definitely benefit from listening to this once in a while lol

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Aug 15, 2019

I think 99% of people can...

Aug 15, 2019

"Don't reinvent the wheel."

It is a critically important concept for efficiency. However, some people misinterpret this as an excuse to be lazy. What it really means is that you should make sure whether there is any existing best practice out there, and build thoughts on top of that.

If you're going to design a car, focus on what's making that car unique rather than going back to basics. Similarly for analysis, you should be leveraging the best research and information out there, as well as technological tools and algorithms, to avoid having to re-invent what somebody else has already perfected.

Personally I have had to remind myself of this, as I like to jump in and start tinkering and analyzing immediately. But you can produce a better and faster (and harder and stronger) work product if you take time to collect thoughts first.

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Aug 15, 2019

Surprised I've never heard that one but I will definitely use it. A lot of entrepreneurs need to hear it

Aug 15, 2019

Just thought of "don't cry over spilt milk" and I really like that one too

Aug 15, 2019

Major statistical concepts like the bell curve/normal distribution, statistical significance, use of p-values, standard deviation, and so, so importantly, sample sizes and the difference between sample vs. population.

I didn't know anything about this until I started trying to invest in biotech companies and wanted to understand data releases for myself, but it has largely changed how I approach lots of common problems these days.

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Aug 16, 2019

People pay far less attention to you than you think

I think many people these days are obsessed with what other people think of them. But the truth is the vast majority of people don't have you on their mind at all. You may think you are in an embarrassing situation on the street, and you may think you are very conspicuous, but the truth is most people don't even notice you. Everyone is focusing on their own desires, worries, and problems.

Stop worrying about what other people are thinking and do what you truly want.

Aug 16, 2019

100% true. I also want to b able to be a good leader though so I worry - in a work sense - to make sure all employees feel comfortable with me. But as far as everyone else I've definitely been slowly but surely adopting this mentality

Aug 16, 2019

I back this 100%. Constantly reminding myself and those around me of this.

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Aug 16, 2019

"You wouldn't care what people thought of you, if you knew how seldom they do"

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Sep 11, 2019

Love this one too

Aug 16, 2019

Definitely agree man. The spotlight effect is real for sure. Also, if people don't like you that's their problem. If you let it bother you, then it becomes your problem. You can't control what other people think of you but you can control your own feelings of either confidence or doubt.

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Aug 16, 2019

Hi @isa2130953
I personally feel that other's opinion on our outbound career doesn't matter unless we seem to do something dangerous. If you are a quiet or introvert kind of person, it's who you are and nobody can't change it. You will speak up for yourself when the time comes for you. There is nothing to be ashamed of what other people say!

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Aug 16, 2019

I agree and really appreciate the feedback. I get into conflict though because I want to be a good leader and I feel that people should more comfortable around me but I also can't change myself. Just want to make their work experience positive!

Aug 16, 2019

Personally I have had to remind myself of this, as I like to jump in and start tinkering and analyzing immediately. But you can produce a better and faster (and harder and stronger) work product if you take time to collect thoughts first.

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Aug 16, 2019

I didn't know anything about this until I started trying to invest in biotech companies and wanted to understand data releases for myself, but it has largely changed how I approach lots of common problems these days.

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Aug 16, 2019

So you took the last sentence of my response and just posted it under your own account?

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Aug 16, 2019

1) In most finance careers you'll hit a wall relying solely on skill or intellect. Knowing how to quarterback a team effort is the quickest way to get promoted to a real leadership position.

2) Sign yourself up for everything, and then learn how to do it later.

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Aug 16, 2019

I've been making a lot of efforts to do that for sure! Attending and hosting lots of events for my firm definitely helps with strangers. Now I just have to work on it with coworkers

Aug 16, 2019

Not quite as pithy an aphorism as "still water runs deep" or "time is more valuable than money," but for me it always comes back to the "so what" question.

This, I find, is something that applies to a lot of people across functions and, surprisingly, at all levels of seniority (although, admittedly, less often at the tippy-top rungs). By "so what," I'm referring to the fact that often people present an opinion or provide some evidence in a business context and then fail to tie it directly to the task / project at hand, explaining why it's worthy of consideration / action. If you can always contextualise whatever information it is you're presenting, your perceived value-add by those around you will be a material level higher.

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Aug 16, 2019

On a less profound level, I do also admittedly get some kicks from shooting down arrogant colleagues whenever they present some allegedly "paradigm-shifting" bit of intel that's actually incredibly banal by then retorting with a deadpan, "So what?".

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Aug 16, 2019

Lmao I have to start using that more

Aug 27, 2019

Hahahaha. That's great -- you just described this douchey first year in my analyst class. Thinks he can run a process by himself and regularly badmouths associates/VP's.

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Aug 16, 2019

"Honesty is an expensive gift. Don't expect it from cheap people."

I know Buffett has said that but not sure if he borrowed it from someone else.

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Aug 16, 2019

Love that!!

Aug 16, 2019

I believe that people should learn how to professionally say "no". As an example, I used to work for a Director in IB who would have his junior team create pie-in-the-sky analyses for models or diligence requests that would require a ton of sweat and labor, and based on the information available could never be right. Then when we would share the information with the client before sending along to the investor, the client would say "none of this is right, why didn't you just ask for this report that we could've pulled off the shelf for you"? As I grew in my role I learned that politely and professionally pushing back on requests is a skillset people should have and should be comfortable with. The key is that you have to be able to intelligently justify it, too.

Along a similar line is having the ability and confidence to say "I don't know". When I was still in college (ages ago) I was surprisingly chosen to lead a student organization I was a part of. When I had my first meeting in the leadership role with the faculty member who ran the club he said one of my best traits was that I was the only person who ever answered questions "I don't know, but I'll find out and get back to you" rather than lying or making something up.

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Aug 16, 2019

Yeah that's definitely not a problem for me hahahha but it drives me nuts when I work with people who are too scared to ask a boss a question or mention something more efficient. Especially when your boss is very chill

Aug 17, 2019

You raise a good point. Saying no to tasks that are extraneous is a valuable skill but ppl early on in their careers struggle with this for fear of coming across lazy or incompetent. I was one of those too and in retrospect, I am still not sure what'd been the best way to tackle it.
I will say tho that once I'd established my credibility in my IB group, I could push back on stuff that I deemed a waste of time. By then the VPs knew I wasn't a slacker and would support me

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Aug 16, 2019

That most important decisions are won and decided outside of the firm-wide IC meeting that is held to discuss and decide.

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Aug 16, 2019

Stay. Aware.

You know why life seems to accelerate as you get older? Why it seems like BOOM it's been 3-5 years and you haven't gotten to that one thing you wanted to pursue yet? It's because most people around you live on autopilot.

Routines are amazing and effective but it's essentially a tool of mental leverage. What you put in those routines matter and it's important to stay aware so that you can be conscious of what your routines are doing to you. Garbage in, garbage out.

For me, the biggest benefits of staying actively aware of my surroundings is that (1) I'm more opportunistic, especially in regards to social situations and (2) I get out of my head which does WONDERS for my mental health

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Aug 16, 2019

Love this. So true! I am early 20s but I know people who haven't gotten a job or anything and expect to leave college and get a crazy job with no experience. I can already tell in a few years those habits will carry over and they will most likely wait for life to happen

Aug 16, 2019

realizing that you're not as smart as you think you are, you're not good at forecasting the future, you don't know "what's really going on," and most importantly, not that many people are interested in what you have to say.

if only every journalist would believe what I just wrote, but alas...

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Aug 18, 2019

I love humbling reality checks like that. Ppl always say I don't accept compliments but really I don't like to brush my ego when Ik there r ppl out there who have a lot to teach me

Aug 16, 2019

All my past employers used to say to me:
"What more can you offer to get that promotion?"

Aug 18, 2019

Wrong and stupid question. That's terrible

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Aug 16, 2019

Time Value of Money

Not necessarily from an investing context, but more so with life in general.

Many people from my home town think they are saving money by paying cheaper rent and commuting 45-60 mins into the city.

Not only is there hidden financial costs to driving/public transport but they are wasting an incredible amount of their life.

Aug 17, 2019

So true. I believe one should know how to spend money to earn money.
2, The way you carry yourself and so not cutting cost from the things that may lower your life quality.

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Aug 16, 2019

Everything that you care about can be taken away from you in a single moment. If you're not enjoying what you're doing in the moment, you're absolutely wasting your time.

Aug 16, 2019

two in the pink , one in the stink

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Aug 17, 2019

I don't know if there is an idiom for this but I doubt it so I am just going to blurt it here: "communication skills matter the most"
Your ability to articulate complex concepts in a precise manner (limited umms / hmms) , employing a reasonable depth of vocabulary and doing so in a well-groomed English accent will leave an ever-lasting positive impression on people. I won't be wrong to say that people make split-second decisions on those they meet, and while this may not be something that someone will say to your face, checking off the box on all three will make you sound much smarter than you perhaps are...technical skills only matter up to a certain point in your career.

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Aug 17, 2019

Treat others how you want to be treated

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Aug 17, 2019

Helping others hurts you or your career in some way. Perhaps this applies more to hyper competitive fields like finance or consulting but I think this is dead wrong. Clearly, if you're on a super tight deadline spending a lot of time helping others can be detrimental and occasionally you'll come across leaches that take all your help but are ungrateful. I think for the majority of cases, being able to help someone get out of a tough situation or making a challenging task easier for them can only help. No one needs to be spoon fed everything, but a nudge in the right direction or showing someone a useful trick that makes their life easier can only be a positive thing. I saw this both at university where people actively sabotaged each other in order to be the top in the class despite ending up at similar firms with similar roles. Even on the job, the amount of help interns or new starters get from my colleagues is close to 0 - I made it my mission to put together a quick information package to show newbies the ropes. Juniors may not have much of a say in your performance reviews but senior pick these things up and they almost always work in your favour. Help people out more, be less selfish both in life and at work

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Aug 17, 2019

Compound investments apply to relationships as well.

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Aug 17, 2019
isa2130953:

What's A CRITICALLY Important Concept That Most People Get Wrong?

your vs you're

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Aug 18, 2019

Let's not forget lose vs loose

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Aug 19, 2019

they're vs their

I don't understand how these topics are not learned and people get them wrong for their whole life.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

Aug 18, 2019

Not everyone has the same perception that you do, relationships in work work off an inbalanced scale.

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Aug 18, 2019

I always have to remind myself of this bc it's so important. It def always helps to try and understand management rather than thinking something is unfair just from ur own, etc

Aug 18, 2019

A lot of people just don't take their time with things and go the extra mile to avoid super minor errors. Things as easy as printing a deck before sending it up the flagpole have been huge for me in making less dumb avoidable mistakes. A lot of people I've worked with don't seem to get this. A hasty cat gives birth to blind kittens.

Aug 19, 2019

too many people say that they have a "very untraditional background"

Aug 19, 2019

honestly thats bc those who used to be considered nontraditional can now have a diversity play so its used to an advantage. Not gonna lie I consider that I have one for sure but I try not to broadcast it anywhere unless someone asks me what my background is

Aug 19, 2019

Every group is made of members.

Too many people these days blame things on Corporations or the Government, etc when in reality those are just people. It's never Big Bad Corporations vs the poor people, it's people vs people, and in most low paying jobs that suck it's just mgmt or the shift lead that sucks.

Aug 20, 2019

Ockham's Razor. Make things simple as they can be but not simpler.

Aug 21, 2019
omegalul:

Ockham's Razor. Make things simple as they can be but not simpler.

Nice try. Einstein said that.

Occam's Razor specifically involves two opposing explanations for the same set of evidence. Our minds will naturally prefer the explanation that makes the fewest assumptions. The simplest answer is often correct.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Aug 21, 2019

True. Different concepts indeed.

Aug 26, 2019

That what you know is more important than who you know, despite the adage.

Aug 27, 2019

Did anyone else receive a completely different message from that quote she posted?

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/

Sep 11, 2019

That is the well known meaning though it can also mean that people who look calm can be crazy. IDK if that's what you were referencing but some people use it to define serial killers.

That was definitely NOT my angle hahaha

Sep 11, 2019

Anyone else stop reading the moment "bc" is used in place of "because"?

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/

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Sep 11, 2019

I'll remember that next time

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Sep 11, 2019

stop flirting it's off-putting

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/

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Sep 19, 2019

Nah, just you champ -- take a chill pill

Sep 11, 2019

OP seems pretty tapped

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Sep 11, 2019
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