Whats the happiest you've ever been?

Was recently at a bar in Midtown and had a conversation with a guy and we were talking about our saddest moments, the bartender jokingly tells us to stop bumming him out and I change the subject to 'Whats the happiest you've ever been' and everyone had to take a time out to think.

I find it fascinating that we can easily pinpoint and describe our saddest moments but thinking about the absolute happiest you've been seems to be a lot harder.

For me the happiest I've ever felt was getting a celebrity to post my podcast where he was a special guest. People always told me my idea was stupid and that he would be too ashamed to co sign it but he did anyway and it was a beautiful feeling seeing something you were teased for get a tiny tiny bit of recognition. I'll never forget it. 

 

Happiest moment of my life was meeting with my favourite singer. Met her in NY, traveled specifically to meet her, along with a friend I made online. This was in 2019 when she released an absolute masterpiece for an album. It was such a surreal experience, we talked for a bit and had some pictures together. She was so down to earth and extremely graceful with us. She asked us to send her these pictures and later she posted them on Instagram.

I don't really have exceptionally happy moments in my life so far but this was really fulfilling. She released another album this year and I can't wait to see her again.

 

When girls on a high school summer trip couldn't get enough of me (I was the comedic one of the group and everyone just gravitated towards me), and had a contest of who could sit on my lap (and basically give dry lap dances) the longest because they knew I was too shy and wouldn't ever make a move and wanted to "just play around". 

 
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I can’t think of some single event but the moments I was happiest were moments that weren’t all that special at the time. In high school, my friends and I would cut school on Friday afternoon sometime and hang out at this great local pizza place or drive around town going no place in particular. Bunch of other memories like that. Looking back on it I realize how happy and carefree I was, I definitely miss it. Especially because I haven’t seen some of those guys in years. That’s life I suppose.

 

I can't think of one single moment as being the happiest. But I can think of a few which would be vying for the title:

1. High school graduation. It's a special ceremony with a final Irish blessing sung to close out the occasion. It was such a happy, powerful moment to be surrounded by my best mates and experience that together.

2. I have one mate and when we can get together we always do some sort of outdoor adventure off the beaten track. The last one was a day long kayak through the river system in the area where we both grew up. Hard to explain why but this was a super happy moment and memory for me.

3. Getting my graduate offer for banking. I was pretty behind the 8 ball and was getting an onslaught of rejections, was starting to feel like I had let myself and my family down and would finish uni without a decent job. Was ecstatic when I finally received an offer.

Thinking about these moments, what really elevates something to be super happy is sharing the same moment with others, and having to overcome a significant challenge to get to that place. The valleys are what makes the mountain. 

 
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I have a genetic heart condition that sometimes results in sudden death (what Reggie Lewis had and what likely caused the Denmark soccer to go into cardiac arrest) and one day I was running and suddenly couldn't catch my breath and passed out. For what felt like a few seconds I had this weird dreamlike feeling of knowing what happened and thinking that was the end. After what I was later told was ~5min I woke up. I was gasping for air, confused, nauseous, but alive - greatest feeling of my life

 

Happiest moment was when I went to see Le Mans in person the first time. I'm a big fan of cars and Carroll Shelby is my hero. To get the full experience, I didn't just stay there only for the weekend- I went for the qualifying races too and ended up getting to know one of the managers of a top racing team. I was only 24 and super young. I saved / earned up some money from my analyst years in banking and bought myself some really nice / fancy dinners there. 

Everyday I was there, I got up in the morning to have a great breakfast watching the sunrise and then took the tram to the race track. I sat there and watched the race for 10+ hours everyday and I couldn't stop smiling to myself- it was like dream come true. 

Had a lot of this kind of adventures.  

 

Playing split-screen Nazi zombies in my uncle's basement with my cousins on Christmas break in middle school. The only time of year my mother would let us drink unlimited soda and eat unlimited McDonald's. It would snow and we were allowed to stay up as late as we wanted.

Peak lifestyle.

 
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As a Certified Old Guy on this forum, I can say that as you all get older you'll hear a lot of people mention key milestones as their happiest days. Getting engaged, wedding day, birth of a child, etc. And for some people that may be true - but for many others, they say that because they feel like they're supposed to and will get in trouble if they don't (or feel ashamed to feel differently).

Childbirth especially. There's a lot going on, and the emotions are very complex. I remember feeling almost in shock when my first child was born - you can watch all the childbirth videos you want (wouldn't recommend it unless you're preparing for it), but nothing on earth can prepare you for when it's YOUR child coming out of YOUR wife.

Back to the original question - the happiest I've ever been was when my child recognized me and smiled at me for the first time.

"Son, life is hard. But it's harder if you're stupid." - my dad
 

Cried at my wedding walking down the aisle

Scuba diving on honeymoon in Thailand

Baby learning how to walk and walking toward me from the couch (really I could have put 99% of experiences with my child)

Be excellent to each other, and party on, dudes.
 

This may have happened for you already, but the first time you get home from work and your kid goes "DADDY!" and runs to you and hugs your leg - that's pretty special.

Unconditional love is a hell of a drug, guys.

"Son, life is hard. But it's harder if you're stupid." - my dad
 

Not really a happiest moment in time per se, but more of a period I look back on. When my future wife and I began dating towards the end of college. It just felt so natural and right at the time and I knew she was the one in those first 2-3 months. I don't there's anything better than that feeling of falling for "the one" and knowing you've found your match. My answer will probably be different when we have kids tho. 

 
  1.  The morning after quitting my analyst job. Walked downstairs and realized I didn't have to respond to a bunch of meaningless emails and do bullshit tasks all day. It was summer so I hopped on my motorcycle and just rode down to the ocean and just sat there in the warm air. Sounds cheesy, but it was pure bliss. Also made me realize how much this industry blows.
  2. Getting off the plane when I moved abroad for a semester. Didn't know anyone and was in a beautiful third world country. Such an exciting and happy feeling
 

1. Have been in a few passionate relationships, all with great sex, so a lot of those moments are up there but kinda merged together. 

2. Used to be addicted to WoW when I was a kid with zero responsibilities. Was really into the competitive PvP scene and had some decent success; a lot of fun moments in that game. And don't regret at all all the time I spent on it. 

3. Partying on the beach during summers in high school. 

4. And most lately, moving to my dream city with a new job, girlfriend, and just whole new future ahead of me. Feels good. 

 

When I was a pro wrestler and won a championship title. Granted it’s pre determined but winning a title is validation in your abilities. At the time I needed that.

 

When I did shrooms at the top of a mountain, around ~12k ft., amazing views, with my high school friends, a few weeks before we all left for our freshman year of college at different schools.  

 

Summer 2016. I did some lawn mowing on the side so I had a bit of money, but no one in the whole friend group worked so we met to chill together and play soccer every single day. I was also freshly 18 yo so I could finally buy alcohol. All of us were also single which made it even better.

It was the first time in my life I had a whole squad of friends who really felt like family and it was the best few months of my life. I still see them every week or two and obviously love them to death, but now everyone’s working or going to school so it’s tough to reproduce the same feeling.

 

Last time I was truly happy was the summer of 2018. Those days are far gone though. Haven't been in a decent relationship nor had good sex since then, I really miss it.

 

I'm the polar opposite. School has been the most depressing time of my life so far. I interned in Corporate Banking this summer and because I finally had money to invest in my music and art career part time, I was beyond happy. I can't wait to go back next year and funnel money from my salary into new songs, music videos, art supplies and podcasting gear. Currently going through a slight depression though because my MFin is so quant heavy, my background is in accounting and I am worried I might lose my return offer if i fail. 

 

Hard to say when I was happiest, but I remember the first time I was extremely happy.

First few years of elementary school I didn't have friends from school that I hung out with.

One day, one kid asked if I wanted to hang out. We did so many fun activities going back and forth to each other's houses throughout the day. I don't even remember what the activities were (and we were playing for maybe 5-6 hours), but I just remembered how happy I felt to have a friend.

 

No specific moment, but happiest period was summer 2018. Got my car, lost my virginity (more than sex, was happy a woman actually loved me enough to choose me and want to be with me. There is no greater compliment).

Made a new close friend, hung out everyday with the homies, working out, running, etc. Found a job in finance/Accounting after freshman year and worked 70 hours a week, making great money.

Found some party promoters and went to parties every weekend. Developed socially a lot.

Was just a fantastic summer.

 

craig.owenWas recently at a bar in Midtown and had a conversation with a guy and we were talking about our saddest moments, the bartender jokingly tells us to stop bumming him out and I change the subject to 'Whats the happiest you've ever been' and everyone had to take a time out to think.I find it fascinating that we can easily pinpoint and describe our saddest moments but thinking about the absolute happiest you've been seems to be a lot harder.For me the happiest I've ever felt was getting a celebrity to post my podcast where he was a special guest. People always told me my idea was stupid and that he would be too ashamed to co sign it but he did anyway and it was a beautiful feeling seeing something you were teased for get a tiny tiny bit of recognition. I'll never forget it. The moment I got to the point when I could confidently look a person in the eye and tell them the truth. I have been happy ever since. I was five years old when my level of courage kicked in.

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I Went on a road trip down south to Cali with my guys some number of years ago. We left Santa Monica our last morning to bum around the city all day, and ended up around burbank before we decided to ditch LA completely. The socal haze, the music, the friends and THC all created this energy that felt so perfect in the moment. Leaving that soulless city to head up the winding canyon roads into the mountains was like a breath of fresh air, and by the time we got to the top of the peak we camped at that night, the sun was setting over the Mojave. The colors bled into the landscape of the desert, and I could see out for miles and miles past palmdale. I’ve never felt anything quite like that since, and I don’t know if I ever will.

 

Happiest moment - inheriting 25m at age 30. riiiiiight

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Post grad Europe trip a few years back (I am 5 years in not an AN1), me and my friends were in Nice right before prime tourist season starts (mid June) so it was relatively empty just sitting on the promenade eating fresh made gelato at 2am talking about life and what we wanted to do. Quite honestly have not had any moment come anywhere close to topping that and how happy and joyous I was feeling to be around people who I loved. We have since made an effort to do a Europe trip yearly. 

 

Been considering this, but I am pretty sure I would literally go insane as I have lost my mind once and had visions too much for me to handle when I had a really bad case of malaria. Don't want to see those visions again and i'm pretty sure any psychoactive substance would trigger it.

 

I had a ton of fun in college, but looking back the times that made me happiest were Saturdays in the late fall when it was too cold to do anything, so my friends and I would just sit around our place watching college football and shooting the shit for hours. We had 4 TVs and a bunch of couches, and all our other friends would come by and we'd all be cracking jokes and laughing about some stupid shit someone did the night before. Everything was so carefree.

 

Might not be the happiest moment, but a real standout one was coming down on MDMA, getting an hour long massage from a friend who was a professional masseuse and then having sex with her.

 

1) when I backpacked across Europe for 3 months with friends post college, and 2) When I was in between jobs...but already had the new one lined up with a 4 month start delay and I went traveling through Central America completely stress free because had money and a job lined up, which was an amazing feeling to not have any lingering thoughts what so ever. 

 

Lots of happy moments but I'll share a unique one that stuck out to me:

Was very stressed and overthinking things for much of high school. I had a ton of confusion about who I was and what life was about and I just felt very dark and isolated for a long time. One time I was driving in my car alone and it all suddenly sort of clicked for me that none of it really matters that much (not to be trite or unoriginal, but I was like 17 at the time...) Life just seemed very surreal and didn't have to be so serious or morbid. I just started laughing and lost the stress and floored my car to 100mph for a while on an empty road. 

Went home and just felt a huge wave of relief and relaxed about everything. Not sure how I connected the dots but it was nice to let go and not be so serious about it all. I still remember it even years and years later. 

 

Got an opportunity to be a paid dance performer for all 3 days at EDC in Vegas. EDC was the last festival on my bucket list and I always wanted to do a truly professional gig with my dance hobby so this knocked 2 birds with 1 stone. Also helped validate my skill level in dance to be at least semi-pro despite being 5 years into a demanding professional career, not to mention I had VIP access to all parts of the festival  

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I grew up on a lake in the Southeast so it got hot very early in the year and stayed that way until pretty late. In HS from ages 16-18 me and my buddies would wake up at like 5 and go wakeboard just about every day before school once the weather got warm enough in the spring. Crazy how at that age I could wake up at 5, wakeboard for two hours, go to school, work out, hit soccer practice after, do my HW and then wake up and immediately do it again the next day. But being up and wakeboarding with the sunrise with my boys was so much damn fun. Miss it a lot.

 

Took molly for the first time and played beer pong with my best friends right before going to a party in college. Kinda sad that this was the happiest I have ever felt but it is what it is

 

Posted already but saw this and I'm faded atm. I don't think that's sad, man. Perhaps aided by the foreign chemicals... in those moments you probably realized how much you love your friends. The events that tilt us into this realization don't have to be cinematic and they're usually unpredictable. It's similar to when you hear people describe when they "knew" they were going to spend the rest of their life with their SO. Some people Hallmark the fuck out of it and talk about a sunset in Santorini or something but most of the time it's really an event thats incredibly benign like the time their SO dropped a funny movie reference in the back of some Uber at 2am (likely drunk). Realizing you enjoy the company of your friends and that you care about them, agnostic to the activity at hand, is a perfectly good candidate for happiest moment. Also, consider how many dudes in their 50s always wish they could go back to those college pre-game moments .Why? Because they were happy then.  Not sure if that made any sense

 

Was living in a foreign city for work. At one point, fell completely in love, mutually, with this girl I met there. Started integrating our lives quite a bit, traveled together, our social circles gelled well. Also really liked my boss and the work I was doing. Was a few months of perfection, unfortunately my company pulled the rug out from under me and I had to leave the country

 

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