What's your dating strategy?

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I want to hear stories of pick up artistry, streaks (of success or droughts), or even just unexpected love stories. Mine is, I usually do a lot of sitting by the bar with some staring, drooling, and wimpering like a sad and needy puppy.

Edit: for those not convinced this topic is somewhat complex, consider this chart:

There's a 10 point gap between men and women in share not having sex at all. And women tend to abstain by choice for seeking the "perfect man", whereas men tend to have no choice because they can't find willing partners.

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Apr 4, 2019

my strategy: never ask a girl out

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Apr 4, 2019

the jawdropping results: never go on a date

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Apr 5, 2019

On the bright side your wallet must be extra thicc

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Apr 10, 2019
famejranc:

the jawdropping results: never go on a date

To quote Homer Simpson, "Never try, never fail"

Apr 4, 2019

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Apr 4, 2019

Long brunettes, short blondes.
Long tall girls, short short girls.
Long girls from developed economies, short EM.

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Apr 4, 2019

Long short girls man, I ain't dating no 6ft bish!

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Apr 4, 2019

found the manlet

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Apr 4, 2019

Man check a recent post it said you had to be 6ft2 at least to be in finance.

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Apr 4, 2019

I pay them about PS100/hour.

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Apr 4, 2019

Be attractive.
Don't be unattractive.

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Apr 4, 2019
DoomerZoomer:

Be attractive.
Don't be unattractive.

That's probably a good one, how's that working out for ya?

Apr 4, 2019

He probably goes on dates and wears dress shirts with flames on them lmao

Have you ever thought of investing in real estate?

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Apr 4, 2019

Classic doomer

Apr 4, 2019

That's why 30s boomers are cleaning up

Apr 4, 2019

Act richer than I am, make sure I get an opportunity to mention I'm an investment banker. Works like a charm.

FIG plebs make sure to leave the FIG element out.

Apr 4, 2019

I tell girls I trade.

Jokes on them, I'm nearly a mod over at reddit.com/r/wallstreetbets

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Jun 11, 2019

Ayyyy MD ;)

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Apr 4, 2019

1) Screen candidates
2) Focus on the ones who are more interested in you than you are them

Chat up as many women as you can (without actually hitting on them) and screen for interest. Is she engaged? Smiling/laughing? Leaning into the convo? Ignoring opportunities to walk off? If yes, close her.

You'll minimize time wasted and build up a solid book of business/rotation. You will also be outcome independent, so won't have to worry about pressure setting in or any disappointment over rejection. The idea is to zero in on the ones who are either DTF or just happen to like you, and drift off from the ones who'll give you a hard time.

I think the most consistent mistake guys make (certainly I've made it) is chasing the girls who are only "sort of" interested. She gives him the slightest opening-either out of boredom or for the free drink, and the guy goes off in hot pursuit and gets strung along/ghosted. Those women will require too much work and are just a pain to deal with. Like you don't have enough headaches throughout your day.

Apr 7, 2019

Username checks out.

Extra marks for abundance mentality.

Absolute truths don't exist... celebrated opinions do.

Jun 11, 2019

Thanks Owen/Tyler

Apr 4, 2019

find a girl that actually likes working, camping, mountain biking, rock climbing, back packing, saving money, then marry her. Works 10/10

Apr 4, 2019

Find the fun girl who also can hold down a legit job. I snagged one. It can be tiring, but there's always things happening. I'm much happier with a significant other who is more extroverted than I am. I gravitate towards introverts, which can be quite boring in the long term.

Find what's right for you, but it takes some trial and error. I dated this absolutely smokeshow for a year in college, but I always got my way.... and it got so boring/tedious. Had some fun but then broke it off "due to needing to focus on myself." She ended up with "the one" next, so I'm glad it all worked out. I like someone who at least has an opinion...

Anyways, you don't have to marry the fun girl, but you can at least get into the rotation and included when she does things. :D

Apr 4, 2019

You dumped a smokeshow who always let you get your way? Man that might have been the holy grail you let go of there.

Apr 5, 2019

False. Really gets annoying after 12-24 months. It's nice to have someone challenge your viewpoints forcing you to grow and see things from a different perspective on a daily basis. I thought the alternative sounded better. Ended up cheating on her more times than I can count (not proud of it just reiterating the fact it wasn't best for me). With someone now who holds her own and is more down to Earth, and I'm immeasurably more happy. Not saying current isn't attractive by any means, far from it, but last was on TFMgirls more than a couple times and kinda blew everything out of the water.

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Jun 11, 2019

I dated this absolutely smokeshow for a year in college, but I always got my way.... and it got so boring/tedious.

Do you think she liked this? I'm not sure this relationship would've lasted very long...do you think you were being too selfish? I'm trying to see this from her perspective because if she was a smokeshow she was getting hit on all the time, how much longer do you think she was going to put up with you?

Jun 11, 2019

To be fair, she never complained and was happy with our relationship. It was healthy beyond the whole getting boring thing. I know how to treat women. I was raised in the South and work hard to make them feel loved.

Honestly, she wanted to get married, but we just weren't compatible beyond having fun. She got hit on a lot but was very loyal. I mean I would do just about anything for her whenever (reasonably), and she was from the South as well. So loyalty is just baked into us down there. It's a big deal. It worked out for both of us in the end.

Apr 4, 2019

There were other factors like religion and compatibility long term that weren't going to allow for a marriage, but let me tell you, I had a fucking blast.

Edit: Let me also include that my fiancee is stunning as well. I punch way above my weight. Turns out that hot girl in my engineering classes just wanted a charismatic nerd.

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Apr 4, 2019

No loud bars or clubs, I'm too average looking for that. I'm funnier/smarter than I am good looking so I stick to bars where I can hold conversations/make jokes etc...

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Apr 4, 2019

for reals....whole foods

just google it...you're welcome

Apr 4, 2019

Reading a book isn't going to change your behavior big guy

Apr 4, 2019

Not sure people going to whole food read books these days - pretty sure they are on instagram looking at vegan dishes

Apr 5, 2019

i suggest you give it a try....unless you never learned how to read...its a free book

just google it...you're welcome

Apr 4, 2019

When we have awkward pause I like to speak about technological singularity, usually that helps her start new conversations afterwards.

Apr 4, 2019

Radiocarbon

Apr 5, 2019

Pretty much casually date about 6 guys at a time and just do process of elimination as time progresses

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Apr 5, 2019

this just means you haven't met somebody with amazing chemistry yet...because when you do...you become addicted to them very fast, and you won't want to date the others.

just google it...you're welcome

Apr 5, 2019

You're not wrong however sometimes things can be misread. There's been times I'll think there's chemistry but the guy wouldn't feel the same way and I'll get burned.

Apr 6, 2019
faceslappingcompilation:

this just means you haven't met somebody with amazing chemistry yet...because when you do...you become addicted to them very fast, and you won't want to date the others.

Agreed, when you become addicted to someone you even can't think about others

Apr 5, 2019
snm2018:

Pretty much casually date about 6 guys at a time and just do process of elimination as time progresses

I respect this. I think this is where things are and the reality men and women should come to terms with (especially men).

I do love the, "casually date" part, and that you're doing it 6x, which sounds exhausting, and not optimal at all.

Apr 5, 2019

It is exhausting but usually my deal breakers are shown sooner than later so 6 gets cut down to 2 or 3 within a week sadly haha. It's a sad process

Apr 5, 2019

you just also gotta realize those 6 guys are also casually dating other girls...

just google it...you're welcome

Apr 5, 2019

Long straddle on height, 5"6' strike.
Long blondes, will make a market on brunettes.
Buyer of Europe-US strip vs EM-Asian strip differential.

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Apr 5, 2019

Just talk to anyone with pussy without any fear and lower your standards and you will be fucking all the time. Work your way up from there if you care to.

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Apr 6, 2019

Chat up girls in settings where my best features can show, try and gauge their interest before making any sort of move, good chemistry plays a big part here. Text for a few days/ a week and eliminate girls that don't quite fit the bill, this would include girls that don't exercise regularly, live in undesirable/ far away parts of town without a good reason for it, etc. Girls have a strong survival instinct and so I try to keep her as comfortable as possible the first couple weeks (going to bars and restaurants in her neighborhood), which also makes it easier for her to invite you up to her place. And then to top it all off I try and keep it fun and do new things each time we see each other.

Honestly works pretty well, I think I've only been rejected twice for a second date in 4 or so years, every second one has turned into a multi month thing. I've got friends that try to shot gun approach it and can't figure out why going out on first dates with 20-50 girls a year doesn't ever lead to much.

I think the key takeaway is, show my best features at the start, make sure she's interested/ make sure I'm interested, keep her comfortable and it flows.

Also having a girl in your life is like having a cat, you can't force them to spend time with you and if you keep chasing they will run away, but if you mind your own business, they will want attention and come sit on your lap.

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Apr 8, 2019

Looks like you own a cat

Apr 13, 2019

Not personally, but all the women in my family are crazy cat ladies.

Apr 6, 2019

Updated to include interesting stat on dating dynamics today.

Apr 9, 2019

ibankedup about to go down the rabbit hole

Apr 9, 2019

i am the 28%, you could say to read up on how to interact with people but if you are at the point where you're getting the advice to read up on how to interact with people then you are probably already too far gone... hard to break years of conditioning. nobody good at interacting with people is good cause they read a bunch of books on how to do it lol

Apr 9, 2019

not true...everybody has to start somewhere.

-first you read a book that really speaks to you (you might have to read a few duds before you find that one that resonates)
i highly suggest Marni and Sinn
(both free at scribbed)
-then you watch some videos on youtube that show examples and have the same basic mentality
-then you go out into the world and practice, get feedback from other people, and practice some more.

Seriously, try reading those books..they are free...i've read them...and i think they are spot on.

just google it...you're welcome

Apr 8, 2019

I'm frankly pretty good looking, so I usually just go up to random girls in the club. Most girls will be willing to talk to me, but if they aren't making a lot of eye contact or their body language doesn't say they're into it then I move on to the next one. Also, if they seem like too much of a nice, wholesome girl, then I also move on to the next one because that's too much work. Usually by the third or fourth girl, I found someone who I dance with and end up taking home. Usually the girl is somewhere between a 6 and a 8. Sometimes, I get lucky with a 9, but girls who are 9s usually have so many options that they take a lot more work to impress, and usually the 9s that I bag are from Tinder, after going on dates, and not one night stands.

I've pretty much completely gotten over approach anxiety. The key is to not fear rejection, not take it personally, and realize that it's all a numbers game.

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Apr 10, 2019
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Apr 10, 2019
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Ty

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Apr 13, 2019
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The name of the game, moving the money from the client's pocket to your pocket