Why did you leave your Ex?

What were your reasons for leaving your Ex in the dust?

For me personally, it was time management. We did great long distance. She was going to school in Providence, RI so I’d rent cars and head up there every other week. It was perfect, for me. Once she graduated and landed her gig in the city (fashion industry) I started to panic because I knew my time would be very limited. Baby girl insisted that we see each other 3x per wk min, that was impossible. Even if I did possess that much time, there were better things to do. I pulled the ol’ dick move and dismissed her through text after her first visit to my apt. Had a few drinks sum years later, reminisced during COVID, reached out and we rekindled the flame. I’m in the outskirts of Denver, WFHH her home she’s in sales with Patagonia. Any one needs some Patagucci merch?

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All jokes aside, I am in my first long-term relationship now and there are no problems at all. we just match and time management was only an issue pre-Covid when I was traveling a lot. Since travel is now blocked across the entire company for about 2-3 years, it is all good.

Personally I wouldn't leave someone for a job, but all my gfs were local and there weren't any issues.

 

Was in a SUPER toxic 5.5 year relationship that lasted from near end of high school through all of college (what a waste). Broke up with her the day before I started FT. Waited too long for a reason to rip the bandaid (should have just left but we lived together my senior year), found out she was potentially cheating and my brother and I moved all my stuff out the apartment and waited for her to get home and I dropped the bomb on her. Now a year later I'm in an amazing relationship with someone I truly click with. If anyone is in a similar situation, rip that mf bandaid. It's worth it.

 

Damn I really needed to see this. Same here, dated end of HS and all through college. Right now I'm pretty damn torn on what to do. 

 

Communication is and will always be key. For me, my problem was change. I despised change and I loved things in order with little movement. Leaving my only serious romantic relationship and jumping into the real world alone was the scariest thought. I was ready after 2 years to end things. Took me 3.5 extra just to do it, and I wish I had that time back.

If you guys have good communication, just gotta talk it out. I didn't have that, and I knew for a fact I couldn't marry this girl, so I said fuck it and just left. I have good support from friends and family which helped immensely. If you wanna talk more hit me up. This shit is harder than most people think. At the end of the day, you are the one who matters, and you gotta take care of yourself first. 

 
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I agree with the commenter above. Rip the band aid off and move on. It sucks but it’s worth it. 
 

Had a 3 year relationship that was really bad. Constant fighting, constant lying. I never truly knew what she did for work, some things just didn’t add up. I got tired of all the secrets, lying, gaslighting, and arguments. It was off and on for just shy of 3 years. One day I was just tired. Another morning I struggled to get out of bed because of staying up all night arguing over the phone. I just decided I’ve had enough. I left and didn’t look back. 
 

Fast forward some time I meet this other girl. We hit it off. Fast forward some more time and now we’re married, have had strong disagreements but never at each other’s throats arguments. Life is calm. Life is good. 

“The three most harmful addictions are heroin, carbohydrates, and a monthly salary.” - Nassim Taleb
 

I once moved in with a girl (after dating for a few years) and broke up with her about a month later. Things changed VERY quickly once we were living under the same roof and I just couldn't take it. I was also young and made the decision to move in with her somewhat hastily, so nothing against her as a person but it just wasn't a good fit together or a good time in my life to make that move. Ripping off the band-aid instead of dragging it along was 100% the right move and I was way happier not being in the relationship. I don't regret the decision one bit, but do think I could have went about it better.

 

One relationship I broke up with this chick in NYC at like 10pm at night and we were roommates and I went to sleep in my room and early in the morning, there was a knock on the door and she called her mom to take the red-eye / 5am flight to NYC from Sarasota Florida to convince me to get back together with her daughter. She closed me over breakfast and we were back together by lunch. She was a NYC PE executive recruiter. She clearly knew how to close and I was blindsided and breakfast was good. I didn't even know she was flying up, but woke up to her mom saying 'Lets go to breakfast'. I was thinking how the fuck did her mom get here?!? lol wow ok

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Nah we got back together for a bit then switched apartments broke up and then I had plans to go to Lake Como through a flight from Philly to Zurich and train to Lake Como and she met me at the airport (she took a bus from NYC to Philly) to stop me going to Italy, but then she wanted to hang out, but not be official so we broke up again. I'm still not sure why she stopped me at the airport. I hadn't seen her in a minute so breakup makeup sex was good and I had a hotel at the airport in Philly to take the morning Zurich flight and she asked me to come back with her to NYC - and I did, whereby we went down in flames even harder than before.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

She was from the west coast and wanted to be a flight attendant along with the desire to travel the world. Her dad was a pilot and her mom was a flight attendant too. I wanted to be an investment banker/hedge-fund manager and live in New York City the rest of my life. Just a recipe of different taste and aspirations. We don't talk anymore but I wish her the best. No wonder why I am single but I have really close friends who I speak to regularly that keep me in check and sane.

"It's okay, I'll see you on the other side"
 

Welcome to the club mate. All my friends are getting married and having babies. I'll most likely be the last guy to the alter. I'm only 25 but 35 is my ceiling. I've got a bro who just got out of a 5 year disaster with his fiance, soon to be wife. We hung out heavy for two straight weekends post-separation, he realized the dating scene isn't for him. Fucker left me hanging for another full blown relationship, I don't know how he does it tbh. I'm still trying to figure out if he's the strongest man I've ever met or the weakest man. Either way, he's contempt. 

 

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