Working in IB was always a dream of mine, but after my girlfriend started making $7000+ over a month by selling her feet/cosplay pictures I feel depressed and lost.

The girl I've been dating for the last 3 years started her OnlyFans a year ago to have extra money. She promised me not to make any NSFW pictures, or porn type of thing so I said, sure. For the last year, she has been selling her feet pics along with her pictures in cosplay without any nudity. In the first month, she made around 200$, and I was suprised that she made that much. But, literally she doubled that money every month, and in December, she made more than $7000. There's literally no nudity, just feet pics and hot pics in cosplay. I didn't say anything to her but I'm really depressed about this.
I've interned at a BB IB last year and worked more than 12 hours every day. She is just spending 30-60 minutes to take pictures with the cosplay she bought from Walmart or another cheap-ass store or 60 seconds to take a picture of her feet. She doesn't even need to do advertising or do anything on her social media. Because the guys are literally paying her to moderate her social media to ''help her''. I'm studying hours and hours to keep my GPA over 3.5 while she is studying art-history and making $7000 month with couple of pictures. I also have acces to her account, and I'm seeing guys sending her $100, $500 and so much more money for weird pictures (hold a pickle between your toes, cover your feet with peanut butter etc.) So many guys are offering thousands of dollars for her used panties/socks/fishnets. I literally can't understand this either. Why ?? You can probably get the best hooker in any city with that type of money, but you're offering to buy someone's socks/panties ? Like, wtf ??
It's so fucking unfair. I don't know what to do. I'm angry, sad, depressed and to be honest jealous too. She didn't expect this type of attention and money too. I feel like everything I'm working for is meaningless while people who have no skills or intelligence are making this kind of money. How can I cope with this ?

 
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go to a clinic -> tell them you're a woman >>> ask for hormones -> change your pronouns -> start using your hormones -> get laser hair removal -> put trans flag on your name -> burn everything in your wardrobe -> buy women's clothing -> change your name -> join to SJW/ANTIFA cult -> become bitter -> get the surgery -> now you're a woman -> start selling ur pictures because it's not unfair anymore -> if you fail -> now you can also apply to any job as diversity hire -> you're welcome -> not a medical advice

 

I think you're tweaking a little bit bro.. if I was in your position I'd consider myself lucky, that's a solid side hustle and if anything you should be helping her capitalize off those neck beards paying thousands for a minute of attention. I understand why you'd be jealous or have Ill feelings towards it(I would too), but the fact that she doesn't post any nude content tells me that she still respects you and the relationship, why not be happy for her ? Girls make jokes about this shit all the time but not many find success like this without even posting any nude content. I'd milk it if I were you.

Additionally it's not like she'll be doing this forever, no idea how long onlyfans will be around for but as long as she doesn't fall deeper into the rabbit hole, what's the issue here ? Your ego is hurting? There's males on OnlyFans making the same amount of money she is so you can't really compare yourself like that, girls have it much easier since they don't necessarily need a Calvin Klein model body to gain traction. Accept that and it'll help you sleep at night.

if she does want to eventually post nude content or thinks it will make her more money , you guys can fuck and post videos of that, keep your faces out or whatever but sounds to me like you got a goldmine , quit bitching.Ofcourse if she goes down the wrong rabbit hole you gotta dip but if it's under control it's under control. I understand some people would just rather avoid all this drama altogether but I think there's some good boundaries here and glad she's sticking by them.

 

say the onlyfans trend dies at some point (or they outright ban porn like they once did), what happens to all of these creators then? unemployed for over a year, background checks will probably see their onlyfans history, etc. you have to see long term my friend.

 

Sources say it sticks on your tax records, which may very well come up in background checks

 

wait what? I honestly was about to start an OnlyFans after this post but I just saw your comment. Does OnlyFan actually come up on your records? Can't you use VPN and other sophisticated methods to dodge it? Or for example, post on a separate phone on public WiFi

 

Think about it in the long-term. Obviously she is making bank, but so are you (probably). Personally, I think people are not only responsible for what they do, but also for what they could have achieved (i.e. unrealized potential). You maximized your potential, got a high-paying gig in an industry many people would cut their left hand off to get a shot at. Is selling feetpics really an aspirational goal or the way to maximize your potential? Idk, you tell me. We've seen OnlyFans wanting to ban porn once before, maybe it will happen again --> then what?

 

Scary that not more people on comments agree on this and instead are talking about how they synergize perfectly, etc. lmao

 

This is so true. This post in itself is an insane red flag. Any high quality / high-performing woman who is building an impactful professional career will never resort to OnlyFans as their primary income / career. OP please leave before you get trapped in the relationship. There are so many beautiful and quality women out there who are building great careers in various different fields and giving positive impact to the world.

 

100%. I'm surprised people haven't pick up on this, it's a huge red flag for your GF to be doing an OF

Good for her on making money on it, but I wouldn't want to be anywhere near a girl who has one (unless it's just a hookup)

 
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Please break up with her immediately. She deserves better than some insecure loser who struggles to maintain a 3.5 GPA and is literally envious of his girlfriend.

 
 

get that this is meant to be satirical but as someone who goes to UPenn, the wharton classes are literally curved so that the median is a 3.7. A 3.5 gpa at wharton/non stem at Penn is considered bad (diff story for upenn engineering tho)

 

Am I the only one who sees some real synergies between your respective strengths?

 

Am I the only one who doesn't see anything wrong with what she's doing?

I mean $7k for sfw pics is a literal killing. She never would've made that much with her degree.

As for OP, long term income scalability is tipped in your favor....i.e. imagine exiting to running your own startup or literally ending up as a CEO of a F500. It's possible.

OF definitely has an income ceiling for non-celeb content creators. 

Long term income scalability might be in your favor, but your shitty attitude is not. I'd be thrilled AF if my gf could pull in $7K for essentially free, heck I'd take the pics for her lol, maybe I could get a cut of the earnings....

 

I have a good friend and he has had a "colorful" past with all kinds of business activities. He turned me on to the notion that a lot of those accounts are really just fronts for money laundering. When you think about it end-to-end, it kind of makes sense. Maybe not for large scale operations, but for a girl and a drug-dealing boyfriend or three, they can move the money through crap like OF with relative ease. 

 
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The absolute state of American society when he:

1) didn't dump her when she started asking about the OnlyFans

2) didn't dump her when she decided to pull through with it

3) didn't dump her when she actually started doing it

4) still hasn't dumped her and goes on a finance forum to ask what he should do, but still doesn't realize why it's wrong but instead blames it on some abstract economic contrast, as if that's what's wrong here.

This is probably a troll, but Jesus Christ do men need to learn how to get a grip on their women. This is just sad.

 

I would agree with you, but her OnlyFans has no nudity. She asked OP for permission, honored his wishes, and also gave access to him so he can check. I don't think he should dump her for this.

 

What's so depressing about this situation is how you and many others actually think that what's wrong with this whole ordeal is built upon some technicality, i.e. that she is running an OnlyFans without nudity. Not that she's doing OnlyFans at all. Digital prostitution is still prostitution. Sure, women's independence and western liberalism, go crazy. But let's call a spade a spade, as they say, any legitimate, long term relationship that has even a slight chance of lasting has to be built upon fidelity and practical loyalty. Do you get what I mean by practical loyalty? I mean a relationship where there isn't questioning in terms of loyalty and there isn't envy or jealousy that goes beyond the amount that is considered healthy.

Like I said before, American men need to get a grip on their women, because it's honestly just pathetic. And no, you're not modern nor a feminist for supporting your girlfriend in a pursuit like this, you're just a pathetic cuck pushover who lost his spine, very, very long ago. It's seriously worrying when most men in American society aren't having sex consistently and the few that are, have relationships like OP's. Not my personal concern nor problem, I'm well removed and most bankers end up marrying 'elite tier' women, but in the long run this a seriously detrimental trajectory to be on as a whole.

But hey, at least she's independent and he's not sexist (or something like that).

 

Talent acquisition company (ie pimp with extra steps)

I just walked into Reddit a few days ago to rant about mortal Kombat XI and some porn stuff here and there featured a girl that looked really familiar. I remembered this girl was literally just an Instagram model 2 years ago. She made ads for clothes and whatever, but according to an AMA she did, she joined a talent acquisition company that paved the way for her porn career. This does seem like the logical next step when they're overrun by new market entrants (see 16 y/o girls on tiktok saying they can't wait to become 18 to open OF) and are in the slowing growth/shakeout stage.

It's like a public listing. Everyone gets a share, no dilution & the girl retains the money stream.

 

7 large/month and she's not even showing just a little titty??? And you believed her??? No. Just plain no. You said it yourself, you know what hookers cost. This is a "when there is doubt there is no doubt" scenario. She's NSFW. Period. 

For that kind of money I guarantee you she has found a way around whatever controls/agreements you (not her) think you have with her and her "job". 

 

I have acces to her account so I'm able to see every message/picture she sends. A week ago, a guy sent her $500 to hold a pickle between her toes. It's hard to believe but it's the truth.

 

Hey, I get it; guys do stupid stuff with their money. But $500 is pretty far from $7000 and these are only the things that you are privy to. I guarantee you there's others you don't know about as much I guarantee you she's NSFW. 

 

Dude she could easily have a side account / have a side email with which she sends pics / sends on her phone / etc. The possibilities are endless...

This is not a marriage material girl...get out and find a health relationship with an actual decent girl 

 

I don't know what to tell you dude....life is unfair. Part of becoming an adult and maturing is realizing this inevitable fact, being happy for your girlfriend's success, and moving on. You should only be focusing on yourself and how you can move up the career ladder anyway. 

Think about it. Some 16 year old girl like Charli D'Amelio gets to do some stupid ass ten second dance and make 4 mil in a single year, invited to all sorts of high-class social events, meet all these influential celebrities, and more. Meanwhile I grinded my ass off for years, sacrificed my social life, spending time with my family, relaxing, etc. just to barely make a 20th of that, sitting in my room coding all day and drinking coffee like a maniac. It is what it is.

But there is a silver lining to all of this, that a lot of people fail to consider or mention....life is about fulfillment. I'm not saying investment banking is the most wonderful job in the world. But you get to make an actual impact to corporations, and by extent, to people. And yeah it might suck now, but once you exit to high finance shit just gets better and better for you. Would you really want your life to amount to selling some feet pics to mentally ill weirdos and dressing up in whacko costumes?? Idk dude, that doesn't sound like a very gratifying existence to me...

 

But there is a silver lining to all of this, that a lot of people fail to consider or mention....life is about fulfillment. I'm not saying investment banking is the most wonderful job in the world. But you get to make an actual impact to corporations, and by extent, to people. 

Don't you work in tech? For the entry level finance analyst the work is far from having a meaningful impact on corporations. 95-99+% of what you do isn't seen by anyone outside of your group and 90+% doesn't get past your associate/vp (tons of iterations).  

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Yeah it's wild and pretty sad how the newest generations have ended up normalizing this, as if quality girls are found on OF / IG. Doesn't affect me much as I scroll past these girls (though arguably the pool of girls degrades over time as stuff like this becomes 'normal to do') but even so it's a huge negative for society 

 

A few things to help you cope.

1 - Prostitution is the oldest job in civilization, but is not prestigious due to the low barrier to entry. It is an unskilled, blue-collar job. Console yourself with the knowledge that history books shall carve your name and legacy in stone, if you choose to leverage your impressive alma mater and high finance ivory tower career path into the ivory and golden towers of politics, like I have.


2 - Nobody will tremble in fear before a prostitute. Men tremble in fear before my due to my exalted alma maters (Oxford and Wharton), my work experience (CVP, PJT, MBB, PE MF) and my soft power (My office within the parliament grants me command over a black ops unit that recieves ~£170,000,000 of funding annually and including reserve units, numbers around 6,500. Virtually an army with multiple armored vehicles, UAVs and artillery pieces.

3 - Her earning power shall fade as she withers and rots in appearance. Yours will not. In fact, it will increase with age.

 

Quite sad to see posts like this on this forum often enough.  Be happy for her for making money while the getting is good.  I'd capitalize this opportunity to teach her opportunities to save what she has earned and perhaps this would allow her to go into a career she is passionate about and be comfortable.  There's a story/article about a dancer who is now an Associate at Kirkland & Ellis.  She went to University of Phoenix for an English degree, and went to law school.  Numerous stories about strippers going onto medical school and paid their tuition that way as well.

Consider the earnings as a tool to build a better future.  You gotta hustle while the hustl' is good.  

 
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Quite sad to see posts like this on this forum often enough.  Be happy for her for making money while the getting is good.  I'd capitalize this opportunity to teach her opportunities to save what she has earned and perhaps this would allow her to go into a career she is passionate about and be comfortable.  There's a story/article about a dancer who is now an Associate at Kirkland & Ellis.  She went to University of Phoenix for an English degree, and went to law school.  Numerous stories about strippers going onto medical school and paid their tuition that way as well.

Consider the earnings as a tool to build a better future.  You gotta hustle while the hustl' is good.  

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Former corporate lawyer here.  This is more common than you would think in a profession where gauges, nose rings, and spiked dyed hair are not uncommon.

Law schools, except for partially Yale, do not care about your undergrad degree.  An MIT BS in chemical engineering with a 3.0 is less desirable than a SNHU 4.0 in LGBTQ studies assuming they have the same LSAT.  You can walk into the test center, get a 170, and go to the T13 despite the train wreck of your life for the previous 25 years.  Law school is control alt delete on your non-existent career.

Even so, that stripper at Kirkland is dumb.  She should have taken the tuition and three years and bought up stripper housing like they have in Vegas/Atlantic City/near the Rez casinos.  Strippers from major cities fly or drive to these locations to work four days every two weeks and need short-term rentals.  Landlords for strippers make a killing, way more than big law associates if they are decent.

This is quite insightful.  I have heard about small coffee and restaurant owners making 100k+ yearly, literally serving coffee and other small foods (after wages are paid out).  I feel that the profession (law in general) would have had higher standards, but irrelevant given today's world.  

There are more ways to make a buck these days?

 

OP you are being a dragdown.

You want to make more money than her? Screw college. Learn to code, get involved in the eth community and make your own FEETCOIN.eth.

That will be the currency for your own market of her feet NFTs. If people want to buy her feet pictures then why wouldn't they want to buy their own personal digital original of her feet pictures? So while she sells a picture for 200$ to 12 people, you can sell the NFT of her picture for 0.5 eth, which today is worth a bit more than 1600$ but if everyone is buying, tomorrow it might be worth 30000$. Then as soon as the price start going up, everyone will join in and everyone will start making all sorts of fucking money. In no time, you'll be making 7 figures a year.

Never discuss with idiots, first they drag you at their level, then they beat you with experience.
 

Can't believe this wasn't posted sooner.

If you were truly a hustler and entrepreneurial you would think of how to scale this and reap bigger profits. But you're obviously a cuck so you choose to moan about it on WSO instead.

 

As I get older, I legit think the opposite. Why does it make you depressed? Because to you someone's willing to pay for stuff that "isn't important?" Or she hasn't really worked for it? We look at money as the end all be all of importance. Why is IB or PE important? Think about what you actually do - it's nonsense. I used to gasp at the thought of sex workers, strippers, etc. - now I just think any way someone can get $$, great. Not everyone has the patience or mental capacity to be in finance and it's not their fault. You'll see this a lot as you get older - people who you think are "lesser" making money. It doesn't matter, a lot of it is luck (from an early age), and you should focus in staying in your lane

 

 The point is that she has no problem doing custom individualized pics for each random stranger guy to appease their desires and is constant communication with these type  of guys through these digital  means. I think this is an important distinction and worse then a girl simply selling her beauty or being poorly clothed (which OP tries to equate as justification). This type of behavior is fundamental to a girl who has little sense of loyalty and can't be trusted in a serious relationship. 

To further illustrate my point which of the two would you think is more loyal?
The smokeshow IB intern who is well dressed but constantly flirts with every other male in the class, gets their phone # and texts each one outside of work, or the dancer who goes to the club does some predetermined routine that she's done for weeks if not months and comes home alone?

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That doesn't seem to be OP's issue, his issue is more the existential dread that he thought what he was doing was "important" but his gf is making more doing something not as important. 

I agree with you, not everyone (and I don't blame them) is able to be with someone who's way of making money is individualized attention, whether prostitutes, strippers, etc. because it feels like disloyalty, don't want to share, etc. I'm fine with that concept. The discussion has really been about how it is "unfair" that those people can make a whole lot of money doing something "less valuable" while all the finance people are working hard, getting good grades, and can easily be surpassed in income

 

This world is so bizarre. Both genders are supposed to be equal at this point, yet countless girls choose to be servants of male gaze. I genuinely don't understand. Sex work has become obscenely normalised under the guise of "liberation" but the reality is that most of these girls are missing out on their true potentials and worth. They choose to not have any redeeming qualities even though it's easier to do so than ever before. They don't maximise their skills, they don't build up any self worth, and they don't contribute to society at all. It's so fucking bizarre. The world is literally at their disposal, they choose to live like pigs.

That's not to excuse the fucking coomers who keep the tide flowing. What kind of garbage do you have to be to just sit around all day jacking off to random girls and paying them for fucking feet pics?

 

That's not what I do wtf.

Being employed by the one of the largest asset managers in the world is fulfilling potential, believe it or not. Dedicating your body for the amusement of the scum of the earth is nothing comparable, sorry.

But you're still missing my point. A job in your twenties isn't about what you do per se, it's about what comes out of it. And I'm not really sure why you made it so personal, but fine I'll go along. At the very least I have respect for myself, I continue to walk tangent to a universe of knowledge and experience and skills. I'm multilingual and have made colleagues in 3 different continents impressed with me. I continue to build myself, hopefully palpable achievements will materialise someday. Fulfilling your potential is a process.

Do you seriously think girls who interact with porn sick retards all day are going to end up in a good place in life? Can you please just imagine the number of covert sex offenders and pedophiles who walk into their profiles every day? And "self employed" gotta be the shittiest fucking joke in the world lmao. Setting a $10.99 price on yourself speaks to internalised inferiority. If you are someone who has invested time and effort into themselves, trust me you wouldn't assign such degrading monetary value to yourself. If your self worth is $10.99 you're doing something wrong.

 

On the bright side, you’ll probably make more per year in just your salary and you won’t have to lie or be ashamed of what you do. But you’ll have to work a lot more.

I think I did this right
 

"I move logos around on powerpoint for a presentation that the eventual client doesn't look at and literally sit on my computer just waiting for a 26 year old to tell me to move a comma at 1am because it pays a lot of money" vs. "I spend 30 minutes a day taking pictures of my feet and selling them online so that I can see my friends." IDK, kind of a toss up

 

Think like a banker. Milk the transaction. You should be happy for her if you truly love her but heck cuz I'm an evil b@$tard, whats better than a gf who has so much cash & also hey, aren't you milking her yet? Wow just the thought of it man, fcking some1 with more money is a turn on xD

Think like a banker man, you gotta love money, you gotta love success. N you just started via internship. How sustainable is the media attention. New girls, new attention everyday. Im not jinx-ing your gf success rates, but if she does make it out as an instagram model, you ain't happy? COME ON. You'll be the BANKER WITH THE MODEL GF. LOL.

Everyday every1 dreams of that or works for that & you're pissed cuz u got 1 b4 the other? The only thing u should be worried about bro, is your own success & really making it out top. N yea +1 to the comments up there, world ain't fair buddy, but I don't see you complaining when the odds of *unfairness* are in your favour ;)

Get going bro. Get going.

 
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Life isn't fair I'm 31 doing my MBA now, I never got an opportunity during my undergrad years. You're awesome, just keep doing what you like, it doesn't matter if she makes money taking feet pics. There are people who make millions on youtube who review videos on youtube or review dish washers and pillows.  You spent a lot of time studying to get where you are, be grateful you can do what you like. Don't focus on what others are doing.  Keep your head up!

Cheers

 

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