Question for the male bankers - would you be hesitant to date a female in the same industry & specifically in investment banking? I heard some of my peers say they are, but I wanted to learn the broad consensus and, if so, why?
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Probably not: (1) no free time, (2) IB Lifestyle will make her body turn into gravy (3) constant mental health issues caused by banking lifestyle (for vast majority of people in the long run), (4) high ego, tend to be narcissistic. (5) The money a woman makes is irrelevant in a relationship. Simps will disagree but most guys, even on this forum would prefer a woman making $50k who is fit, feminine, and loving versus a GS TMT analyst that looks like death.
100% agree with #5. Every guy I know including myself. Her income is irrelevant. As long as she is working and doing something with her life
I don't know where this idea of girls in finance being unattractive comes from. One of my friends from college went to GS TMT and she was a smokeshow. It's really not that hard to look keep looking good as long as you work out a couple times a week and don't eat like trash. In fact, there's strong correlations between education/wealth and fitness. People in finance are generally way more fit than the average American, and honestly, being fit at the end of the day is like nine-tenths of the way there to being attractive in our obese-AF country.
i always had the notion that finance females were hotter than those in say, tech, engineering or more "meritocratic"/quantitative fields
i think it comes from the fact that theres a lot of nepotism (rich caucasian females), as well as the fact that social skills and "polish" is needed for client facing roles, so usually only connected sorority (white) girls manage to break in
Disagree with points 2 and 5. Guys in finance around the city tend to be in better shape then randoms, I assume this holds for girls too. As for money, teachers, fitness trainers, nurses, etc. are attractive to me but I would not really want to date a girl who worked at McD's out of high school.
Interesting points. I disagree with points 2 and 5. I don't know any females in IB as of the moment who are fat shits - most of them have their shit together and that includes their physical body. Also in the long-term, your combined household income will be trash if you date a dumb broad that doesn't make good money.
just because they do not make 6 figures they are dumb? call me crazy but i would rather have a nice girl who isn't stressed or busy all the time and choose not to dedicate her life to work so if we have children she can actually raise them if we are going to be in the upper class anyway because of my income i am willing to make that trade for her to have those qualities. Not to mention most girls I have met that make that type of money seem aggressive and masculine vs on the more submissive side and feminine
good and refreshing take.
This is an honest take, very true
Though (2) might not be strictly true as they do keep in shape, but the IB lifestyle will affect detrimentally
I can probably be helpful as I have a family with a woman in PE. Hours as you get more senior tend to be easier and more flexible (though there's more of a sense of ownership and a need to always be responsive), so typically getting home at 6:30 isn't crazy, unless in the middle of closing a deal. Part of being with someone in this lifestyle is having someone motivated, so that means eating healthy, exercising and taking care of herself (regular visits to the derm), etc. As you get older, the "ego" part of it of who makes more and feeling good about ourselves providing becomes less important than being able to get nice things / do nice things as a fam and having financial flexibility. Unless you've made it at a hedge fund, having a family in the city is a financial strain until (maybe) you make it as an MD - having someone else carry the burden means you can do all the nice things and not have that strain much earlier in life. If what you want is a girl who's friends and family are impressed that you work at GS, then dating a girl in finance isn't for you (and TBH a lot of us value that more than we think). Also if you never plan on having kids, the "additional money" you make in finance doesn't really matter, yours or hers.
Nope. The personality required for a woman to be in finance is the opposite of what men want in their wives/girlfriends
Interesting - do you think they all have the same personality
No. But the ones who succeed in IB, PE almost all certainly do.
Yeah, let's be realistic. If you want to make it in finance, you need to be a type-A personality, low agreeableness, ultra-competitive, work-obsessed, aggressive etc. These qualities are fine (even attractive to some) in men but in women, it's usually repulsive to most men
Wasn’t there a thread about this like the other week? Anyway, yes I would or maybe I would not, it depends you know.
I'd love a sugar momma, so yes.
The only right answer
I want to get my CS PhD and I don’t want to think about money. I wish I had a sugar momma, but hey guess I’ll settle for big tits
I prefer a firm B cup over a saggy C or D. Just sayin’. Big tits overbought, firm tits are the value play
Agree with this.
Yeah. It’s a lot easier to date someone who’s aligned with your values. Chances are if you’re into fin, a girl in finance is also likely to be extremely hard-working, competitive, and someone that can push you to be better. That sounds a lot better to deal with than someone who thinks your evil and greedy or whatever lol.
I guess my answer is I wouldn’t date a girl in finance, I’d marry one.
Right because only girls in finance have the qualities you outlined. Forget lady doctors, nurses, teachers...
I mean yeah but the question was would you date a girl in finance
Beautiful!
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I agree - generalizing the personalities of all women in finance makes no sense
I've seen some absolute baddies in VC, HF and consulting, so yeah sure I would. Finding the time and right fit is another question.
Now Sales that's a WHOLEEE nother story...
I just swiped right on three tech sale shawtys
Not a chance in hell, wouldn't date someone in law either. The personalities of women who enter those fields (along with the job lifestyles) is terrible & not at all conducive with a healthy, LT relationship
facts
No. Day 1 of investments was about diversification.
The personality of girls going into Investment Banking and motivations are the same as yours -- work hard, get an ROI on your hardwork, go into the best jobs ($$ and exit opps) and live the best life you can. I am baffled at how much speculation and unfounded generalization there is about their personality.
ewww hard pass, why would you ever want a long-term career in finance if you're an attractive woman?
Um why not, offers great pay and you gain lots of experience.
experience for what? it's fine if she did banking or pe in her past life but if she's 30+ trying to do high finance ewww. she's gonna be cucked by work til she dies. as long as my partner makes low sixs which is basically everyone in tech/upper mid level any industry we are gucci
Looks fade, cash money never dies
Why not though ?
IMO there's a distinction to be made between a junior banker in IB using the role as a stepping stone vs a career banker. A lot of these negative stereotypes only seem to hold true for the career bankers, i.e. the women that want to make IBD Director / MD. I know quite a few cool / feminine / dateable women who used an IB analyst stint to go into a smaller VC fund / tech corp dev / strategy / sales roles that work very normal hours and have lots of time for relationships.
100% agree
Justine Tobin.
If i enter a relationship with someone who isn't in finance I can use all the fancy jargon and make my work sound important (and me sound smart).
If she's in finance she'll know the truth...
This. This is the most accurate comment of all of them
Depends on the firm. I’d have to be more elite or a peer.
I would want a nurse/doctor wife
Why? Nurses have to travel or work nights to usually make a lot of money and Doctors work just as much.
I know its not all about the money, but often I find their work to be just as boring.
I would rather date a girl outside of IB and I expect a lot of guys would agree. Girls in STEM, tech, even consulting are interesting because I don't have to talk about finance with her. It's so necessary to have a break from the industry. If she's attractive she doesn't have to make a killing anyway, she just needs something to keep her busy during the day.
STEM is the answer, but they are absolute unicorns. Married a STEM baddie who was pulling 6 figures on like 40 hours a week straight out of college.
That's great. Yeah I was seeing a quantum researcher for a bit. Rare but smart as hell (at least smarter than me). STEM girls man...
NO NIGGA
just set up two dates with IBD analysts earlier. this thread has got me shook
Date, yes. You could have a lot in common and fun to hang out. Committed relationship, less likely. Will be tough to meet up consistently. If her hours are better than yours, she’ll think you’re being cheap with your time.
Met my wife when she was in PE (directly after her IBD stint)… out of all the available options, I would take a smart/hardworking women who knows the industry (but is also beautiful and nurturing) everyday of the week. Are there thousands out there? …No. Would a teacher or EA also work well? Of course. There is no one-size-fits-all.
Once matched a girl on tinder and she opened with " walk me through a dcf "
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