Would/have you ever dumped the love of your life over career?

no, i would quit my job for sure. But it really depends on your age because you probably have not experienced enough to find " the love of your life" when you are only 24 or so

i've been with my gf for 4 years and when i go to ny to start work she's going to be in a diff city so...probably will break up with her

I did several times in college but the love only lasted 5 minutes.. okay two but whos counting

Fuck bitches, get money!

i broke up with my gf because i wanted to focus a lot of my time on my IB internship and on networking efforts

Was very close too. She ended up making the big sacrifice by moving with me. I am very glad she did.

Money can by things, but not happiness. If it's not the right person it's not the right person, but I know a lot of unhappy bankers.

Yes, I would have

i dont mean one nighters..id toss em in a sec..i mean THE ONE.

she's the best, and it kills me that i think she probly deserves someone who can actually spend the time she's worth, instead of a couple minutes or hour at best before bed. i know she feels neglected, but she's too damn nice despite her hotness to complain..FAAAKKKK why cant she a bitch so it would be easier to cut it off?

someone who's actually done it tell me the $X.Xm was worth it so i can move on once i do it.

again if this was a sloppy concubine, i could care less. this is the chick i plan(ned?) on being with. no emo.

Some of the answers in here are sad. It always shocks me that so many people who want this job are actually so mature and hollow.

If someone is that important to you, make it work. You need to try and find a balance as best you can.

But if shit really hit the fan, no, this job is not worth giving up someone you love.

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There was an associate in my friend's group that quit because his wife was diagnosed with cancer. He found a 9-5 job so that he could be with the woman that he loves. If she's REALLY the one, no job is worth it. But again, if she's really the one, you can make it work.

Depend's what her bra size is...

No way. If she is "THE ONE" then absolutely, no-way-in-hell no. Life is short and if ur in a plane that is going to crash in 2 min, u will never think about the $ in ur A/c but the people in ur life. Money can't buy anything of true value. U need it to be comfortable but thats it.

Ur comment about " why cant she a bitch so it would be easier to cut it off? " is lame and very shallow.

if shes the one for you and vice versa...she will understand...once you've made your money..you can give her all the time she wants....maybe even throw in a nice car or boat or sumtin! Just a matter of time.

Somebody needs to watch family man

Seen it and love it...

I'm pretty far from being at a point where I'm looking for "the one." While I hope my career gets a lot more interesting and involving in the future, there's no way it'll be more important than the love of my life, whenever she decides to show up.

hol3, situations are never as binary as they often appear. sure, IB is more demanding and time-consuming than your ordinary 9 to 5 job but in true relationships there is such a thing as compromise. i'm with TheKing - if you are serious about your relationship, you both have to find a way to make it work!

some of the answers on this thread are ridiculous, unnerving, and down right childish.

Just broke up with mine with whom I've been with for over 4 years haha. Although it wasn't directly related to career it was part of it. I'm only 22 though so I'm not considering her the love of my life although it feels like it right now haha

"You wanna be makin' moves on the Street? Have no attachments; allow nothing to be in your life that you cannot walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you spot the heat comin' around the corner." --Neil McCauley (DeNiro, Heat)

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I pity the fool who dumps his girlfriend of 4 years because of his career. Those are 4 years spent fucking the same woman while you could reasonably have had much more.

really glad someone started this topic. i'd be very interested to find out what percentage of analysts and associates in ibd have gf's. and also, what percentage of VPs and MDs are married and have families

should have put more effort in maintaining the relationship than worrying about what my dickhead VP thought about my comps set.

got dumped at the end of my first year after being with the girl for 5 years.

she got married about a year and half later. C'est La Vie.

as one of the above posters mentioned - at the end of a someone's life, no one is going to wish they spent more time at the office.

I'm making it up as I go along.

It's interesting because you hear the story so much. The same thing happeend to me, I was dating a girl for a while and we pretty much broke up over the hours - other reasons there as well but the job was most of it. Has anyone actually made it work in this job?

Lasted two years of long distance while I was a banker. Almost all of my peers broke up with their girlfriends/boyfriends. It's more up to your significant other to make it work than you because you've got work to distract you, they have nothing.

~~~~~~~~~~~ CompBanker

Or, get a banker chick fresh out of college. Albeit not as good looking as her non-banker chick counterpart, she will at least appreciate the hours that you keep. I'm certain her mindset will be almost exact to yours also, ie. get home from work at an ungodly hour of the morning, screw, then go to bed and do it all over again. Not a bad compromise.

Cheer up, Bateman. What's the matter? No shiatsu this morning?

I guarantee no female bankers would think twice about sacrificing a relationship for their career.

Good point

she_monkey:

yes some manage to have 4-5 year relationships going by ~22, but a lot of the times couples stayed together for that long mostly out of habit and comfort.. they've dated for so long and they stay together because they fear not being together (because they haven't done that for a while).

I'm making it up as I go along.

I call bullshit on the "she deserves better" reason for breaking up with her. There's most likely a real underlying reason which this guy doesn't want to admit. Most likely they're prob fighting a lot as a result of never spending any time together and its stressing him out, or she's accepted his absence and has alot of other things going on and doesn't feel like dropping everything when he's actually available.

hol3, have you stuck it in her butt?

Reason I mention this is because timing is everything.

I'm going to break up with my gf but my birthday is coming up in December. So I'm hoping to stick it in her butt(which she hasn't let me do yet but promised she would for my bday) and maybe getting an IWC or something cool in the process. Then I'll probably dump her.

It works out exceedingly well since my birthday is a few weeks before xmas and her's is in late Jan... so I essentially bail before the xmas/bday/v-day/anniversary bloodbath.

A friend recently told me: "There are a lot of great jobs and great careers. There aren't that many great wives out there."

I think he's right. If you find the right girl, make it work. As you get older, it becomes a lot harder to find a non-gold digger, especially in NY.

2 yrs and counting. It can work guys, as long as she understands and you keep feeding her money to splurge. It's only a 2-3 yr sacrifice anyway, after that, you can decide whether to get a more stable 9-5 job.

this is a sad post. My friend did this. She dumped her bf of 7 months to go take a job in Cali/PIMCO. She is still really depressed about leaving her bf. He's 30 and she just turned 25. He was cool though and told her to go chase her dreams. I think they are just friends now but trying extra hard to be nice to each other

So what did u end up doing op ?

You lose a lot of money chasing girls, but you won't lose girls chasing money ;)

Find a Mrs. Ari Gold who understands the importance of work.

Interesting post, you need to define "the one". Ideally you would manage expectations, and if you are really deeply in love and she knew what you were getting into with the career then she accept that.

Now if you did not do proper expectation management the burdens on you.

On happiness, the research done shows that religion/greater meaning in life are more fulfilling than anything else, very close relationships coming second. So if Ur goal in life is to maximize happiness go become a social worker or a monk. Finance has its benefits, happiness is not its USP tough.

people change. how can you be so sure that she/he is the love of your life not until the last minute of your life?

well, i'm only in love with my career right now. maybe one day when i find "the one", i would quit my job but i would never give up my dream to be successful. after all, i love myself the most.

This thread is so retarded

Ideally, my girlfriend would understand my ambition and to be honest, I hope she has some ambition as well.

But I don't currently have a girl, so..

I would never do such thing. Money & career are not as important in my opinion in keeping the relationship with the love of your life going. You don't want to be the lonely, grumpy, old guy sitting in the park on sundays feeding ducks.