I'm lost and desperately need help

Enjoy London!

why didn't you get rid of this dumb broad earlier?

Holy shit. Talk about dodging a massive bullet. I've been in your position before and it sucks, but you seriously got lucky with this happening, she's a huge drag and now you'll be able to find someone way more intelligent and attractive.

It may not feel like it now but......

You're going to be in a great spot, trust WSO on this, you've got your life together and dodged a serious bullet with that one.

Basically best case scenario on everything.

If you don't mind me asking, where are you from?

As someone not much older than you, I can say I know that this all seems like a big deal, but honestly you have a lot ahead of you. Your horizons will be so broad, this will be but a speck in the distance.

She has shown her true self, and its not nearly the best thing for you. You can do better, and you deserve better. Its time to cut your losses.

Everyone from the top to the bottom has problems. Problems make for better stories later, without them life would be pretty boring, and you would have little sense of accomplishment.

Whatever is wrong just get through it by accepting the challenge, focusing on what you have going for you and putting the past behind.

If you went to a non target, you would have the problem of thinking you were mediocre, now going to a target you have the problem of a girlfriend who was not the most happy that you went there whilst she got a GDE. I think I would take the second scenario. No matter what, life always comes at you and will be a bitch sometimes. If you’ve made it this far keep going and don’t let this hold you back

Thanks for all your comments! I felt a little bit better this morning ( after crying the whole night haha). She just called me and told me that both of them want to start a family (again they're 18 and 21), she just wanted to say sorry and told me that I'm a remarkable person and she's grateful for getting to know me etc. I got mad and screamed at her, she started crying and I hang up. Now I feel bad for doing this since this was probably the last time I was talking to her.

I'm also upset because I realized how much life has changed. I don't have contact with my old friends anymore. They're in rehab, jail or just work blue-collar jobs. She was the last person I knew from my childhood and old environment.

When I was still a teenager I never wanted to change. However, when I started uni I was interacting more with people from expensive boarding schools. Naturally, I changed and I don't know if I should be proud of this.

Again, thank you!

Not sure how anyone of this is a problem. The problem would be staying with her.

You're very young and your best years are still ahead of you. This will pass. And it sounds like you dodged a bullet anyway.

You just dodged a major bullet. Read “The Book of Pook” if you want to learn why and how this happened to you. Just google it, it’s online.

These hoes ain't loyal This is the best thing that could have happened to you, enjoy London You're about to have some of the best years of your life, trust me...

Since when do emo boys surf this forum?

That bitch did you a favor. Now grow some balls, have a successful career and date a real woman.

I predict he'll read this in one year and be like "damn wtf was I thinking?"

but not, getting ballbusted fucking sucks. you'll get through this bro, keep crushing the things you can control, and high quality mates will find their way to you

This was an interesting read. At the end of the day, just move on. She already has and the door is closed. People like you and on this board think they aren't supposed to take Ls. But everyone does in life. Just have to be comfortable with the Ls you take. I think this is one of those.

You made your choice. So has she. That's life. Time to live with it and make the next decisions that will further your life and contribute to the direction you want to go in. Don't think about her and decisions you made in your past too much. Think about what's happening currently. You'll be a lot better off because of it. I made that mistake and it's not worth it.

Bro I'm sorry I can't tell you how you should feel.

But OPEN your fucking eyes. You are so much better than that female it's sickening. Go get yourself a real woman who deserves you. (pause no homo)

Man you (1) are young, (2) have a great opportunity to move FT to London and leave probably a shitty European country.

London is full of beatiful girls from all over the globe that will make you forget your ex very soon so pack you things, stop crying and leave the country

She'll always be a part of your memory. At a certain time she was good for you, and then you simply grew apart. That is part of life for so many different things. Learn to engage in the now, appreciate the past for what it was, and plan for the future.

I highly recommend reading this book and adopting a Stoic philosophy: "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius, who was a legendary Emperor of Rome.

Reiterating what's already been said here, you are actually far better off knowing that you've outgrown a number of people in your life, that if you chose to keep them in your world, they would very likely hold you back and negatively impact your future.

If she wants a family today and you want to wait or you don't want children at all, this is rarely a topic where both parties can be made happy. Don't concern yourself with her choices, she's apparently already moved on and so should you.

Granted, when you are young, you often think that the friends you have now will always be your friends. The loss of the girlfriend and the friends sucks and I have no wish to belittle your feelings, but with time, you will feel differently about these losses.

As you gain more life experience, more work experience and start meeting, socializing and working with a more diverse group of people... you will look back on this quite differently than you do now, when the wound is fresh.

You have already accomplished a great deal, in regards to school and work. I hope that the London offer provides you with many amazing opportunities in work, life, love and play!

Keep us posted and good luck!

she sounds like a winner!

Alright,

Me and my ex are "on a break" which means its effectively over, but let me tell you I have never been more free. The amount of time that I had between studying for the CFA and working 60-70 hour weeks pretty much left all of my free time going straight to her.

I have time for myself now, build back old friendships that grew apart, watch that movie without trying to convince her it's entertaining and having her talk throughout it all, etc., its really nice. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed spending time with her, but if my career and ambitious are going to get in the way of it, then it just wasn't meant to be.

Looks like you're in a similar albeit excessive situation. Its a weird adjustment for sure, but you'll be better for it.

Seems like it wasn't meant to be. Sometimes, you're forced to sacrifice something, and eventually you'll have to make a choice. It might seem like the end of the world now but my guess is that pretty soon you'll get through this and find someone else who values your decisions.

Hey Guys,

I have my last final in 12 hours (last exam I need to pass before I can officially graduate) so I'll be quick. I still feel like shit, however, actually I can start with the analyst class in 2019. Therefore, I will be solo-backpacking in Asia and South America for the next 6/7 Months.

I'm going to join the circle-jerk, and say you dodged a bullet. Enjoy London mate

My guy - it's hard to believe us here now but if you keep focusing on your own goals/chase your dreams and she sees that you're happy and successful, she'll realize her life is a joke dating these deadbeats and end up regretting this decision.

Might not happen tomorrow or even a year from now, but you have to be a rock and not be swayed by things like this. Find people who fit around your priorities; don't change who you are for a woman - that will likely lead to demise.

As heard before and mostly true "time heals all wounds", don't apply this to every single situation. There is nothing wrong with wanting to go to a good school and be successful in the future. Realistically, would you want to be some girl who you have a family with who you can barely support or find someone who can hold their own. Some of the best advice I have ever heard is "work hard in silence, let success make the noise".

Jesus... I’m not saying this to be nice at all. But god damn! You dodged a bullet...

Shit I sounded like a puss. Anyway, ex-GF is a single mom now.

Don't know if anyone is still following. Through family I found out she is a prostitute now

Maybe ask her if she wants to be friends with benefits? 

Bruh, she did you a favor by breaking up with you.