Sometimes I Feel Gay but I’m Not.

I guess this isn’t the place but I’ve come to WSO for validation/advice since high school. I’ve only ever been attracted to girls, until one day I was having a conversation with some buddies and the conversation turned to who we’d be willing to have sex with - I realized I wouldn’t mind some form of intimacy with certain guys. I can’t imagine full on anal sex with them but like everything else seems okay and something I’d be down for. I’m not gay (girls are still preferred over the hottest guy) but perhaps I have some bisexual tendencies? I’m not ashamed either, just putting it out there to see what others think, maybe someone else feels the same.

 

Sexuality is a spectrum. Ultimately most people will settle for one person who may check some boxes and not check others. Everyone is a little bit different.

Not to drag this conversation too far into practicality, but for one thing, definitely apply to companies through their LGBTQIA programs as you certainly qualify and those programs help people a lot.

 

You wouldn’t suck cock? Bro let me get this straight, if your MD told you you have to suck him wouldn’t do it? Your dream job 7 inches away and you’d say no?

 

Lmao no I’ve had them since before I knew what I wanted to be, I’ve suppressed them a lot and now in lockdown, being alone, they’ve come up again and stronger. Btw I’m not doing IB, lowly RE is what I want.

 

I don’t thinks it’s full gay either, but I’ve never had sex with a guy in any form, never kissed a guy. These thoughts are very strong though, like I said above they’ve become stronger while I’m stuck at home. Maybe I should get Grindr and see for real.

 

Ha never been hit on by a gay guy, but def looked over and said ‘damn he’s hot’ but it’s never enough for me to go up and actually do something about it. Like there really strong thoughts but it’s strange - I dont mind the big dick in porn but would never choose it over a girl. It’s strange lmao, it’s so strange I’m not gay but I am haha.

 

I get hit on by gay guys a lot and I'm 100% straight. It's not an insult at all, but some of us give off the gay signal. The problem is, we give it off to both men and women and women are evolutionarily sensitive to homosexuality--for romantic partnerships, it's a huge turnoff to them. I can't speak for the other guy, but for me, many, many women have thought I'm gay and are not impressed by my love for small dogs, my nice clothes, nice apartment, nice car, and obsession with my youthful skin. The association with "feminine" is a huge turnoff to them. My position, however, is that if it's wrong to love wiener dogs then I don't wanna be right.

Array
 

consluttant

how the fuck could you interpret getting hit on by gay dudes as anything but a complement

You really need to get some form of mental health intervention if you genuinely believe this. 

You realise that unwanted attention is sexual harassment, and same-sex harassment is a  fact in law.

You realise that unwanted physical contact is a sexual assault, and same-sex assault is a fact in law.

It's not a fucking compliment. Get over yourself. Not above the law just because  you're  gay ffs. 

I predict within the next 10 years there's going to be a wave of #Me Too from Men who have been sexually harassed/assaulted by homosexuals under the guise of 'just try it you won't know' or 'you're being homophobic' or 'take it as a compliment' or whatever manipulative, predatory BS they are spewing.

A friend of mine had a lesbian colleague constantly stare at her while she used to get changed in the office gym, put her hands round her waist and say how tiny she was on the office floor, send WhatsApp messages about the 'connection'  she thought they had. My friend doesn't give off any' gay vibe', she is just an attractive, polite girl who was easy prey for predators.  In the end my friend took legal action against her for voyeurism and harassment and WON. As I understand, her colleagues supported her in taking such action. It is just the beginning I feel as more and more gain awareness of the protections the law has in place for everyone, not just minority groups.

If any guy/girl  has experienced same-sex harrassment/assault at work or otherwise, you should  absolutely  seek legal advice because you have a case.

 

Brooo, I feel you so much, I hate myself for being so deranged when drunk, but I just can´t help myself sometimes and then I fap to some really gay shit and feel horrible afterwards. On a 5-point Kinsey scale I`m probably a 2, but I can´t imagine having a relationship with a guy. Weird, I really want to have a relationship with a good girl but go absolutely diamonds for Mrs. Daddy-issues and twinks. FML. And since I quit Reddit cold turkey, I can´t even talk to people about shit like that.

 

Same can’t imagine having a full relationship but would be down for a one night stand - not sure about anal though (girls are fine idk about guys) so I guess it’s not ‘real sex’ but like give each other hand jobs, make out...perhaps oral. I’ve never fapped to gay porn, I’ve controlled myself in that regard but it doesn’t bother me either like some guys. As for you liking girls with daddy issues and shit, I wish you all the best.

edit: I don’t drink and still feel this way. I’m not lying one of my earliest memories is having oral sex with someone I won’t say who but I was 3/4 and they a little older and a girl.

 

Yes. A little bit. But then we're all a little gay aren't we?

 

I once stumbled on a whole culture on Reddit of dudes that (I believe) are genuinely not gay but they get together to "lend a hand" for each other. I forgot what it's called and surprisingly not easy to Google without seeing a TON of content I do not want to see, but this thing exists. Good for you finding a way to get it out there and talk about it. Clearly, you are not alone in these curiosities.

 

Thanks for the suggestion, that just about describes what I feel, not gay but if the right guy were to cross paths with me, perhaps something would happen. 

 

Nothing wrong with it either way dude, being gay vs bi. You should just commit to finding out and suck a few dicks. Quit pussyfooting around, get some meat in your mouth, and discover what gets you off!

 

Don’t actually feel like going out to find a guy to have sex with, just thoughts, maybe I’m like 10% gay, but girls is what I still like. Never have done anything with a guy and I’m not planning on it. BUT if something were to happen randomly I wouldn’t be against it tbh. 

 

Haha yeah, surprised some of these guys feel similarly, although they may be trolling. Still, it’s nice to get off my chest. Nobody knows and my brother thought I was joking and just called me a fag and hung up.

 

Meh I don’t care really, it doesn’t bother me tbh, girls still get me harder than any guy ever could, these thoughts in my head are a mere curiosity of what it may be like to feel intimacy (just for a night) with a man. I’ve never ‘fallen in love’ with a man, just want to see what it’ll be like. Guess I’m just curious, like 90/10 straight/gay.

 

I have embraced it, like I said in the op I’m not ashamed, just curious. Don’t really care to have sex with guy or tranny for that matter, but if it were to happen somewhere down the line maybe I would go through with it.

as per your second question, fluoride when I brush my teeth, and soy very little.

 

Don't force yourself to be something you are not then. Fyi I don't think that this kind of feeling is uncommon - is still quite stigmatised, and most guys won't admit it.

Re: point 2 - there is a lot of fluoride in the water, some may say this causes hormonal imbalances, some may not

 
Controversial

Before you go and ruin your life at the encouragement of some of the frankly predatory homosexual comments here let me tell you definitively as a 24-year-old female, no decent woman is going to be interested in you if you go down this path. I literally now understand why so many guys on here have issues finding long-term relationships with decent girls. We can sense this deviance and stay well clear. It's your choice how you want your life to go but as a woman this is my view and many others. I also feel like you should 'imagine' healthier things instead of filling your head with filth. you guys watch too much weird porn it seems

 

We can sense this deviance and stay well clear. It's your choice how you want your life to go but as a woman this is my view and many others. I also feel like you should 'imagine' healthier things instead of filling your head with filth. you guys watch too much weird porn it seems

Speak for yourself not all women are homophobic like you

 

  its the truth. look all around you to see the evidence. stop brainwashing, manipulating and misleading a kid. 

 

We can sense this deviance (...) filling your head with filth.

Yikes

 

These “decent women” are only after men for their money anyway so don’t waste your time worrying about impressing them. Focus on finding yourself and what makes you happy.

 

You sound like my mom.

Also, I actually agree with you to some extent, never had a relationship with a guy, not planning on it but I understand why women would be weirded out by it. No one knows about it either, it doesn’t bother even bother me like that. If you ever decide to get a sex change and become a man dm me. then I could see if I was gay but be like ‘no homo’ cause you were a girl.
 

jk... I should stop filling my head with filth.

 

If you ever decide to get a sex change and become a man dm me. then I could see if I was gay but be like ‘no homo’ cause you were a girl.
 

I literally cannot  understand what on earth goes on in your head??!!  

You're right that I sound like your mum. I presume you're an adult ie over 18 therefore free to do whatever you want. I'm  giving you the other perspective, amongst everyone else's, so that you understand fully the consequences of your decision. Not everyones going to be ok with it in the real world and no one else is telling you that. Now go clean your room.

 

Oh nooo, if I mess around with my boys I can't date religious zealots and homophobes? Yeah I think I'll stick to suckin off my bros B^)

To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.
 

She isn’t completely wrong, many girls would not be okay with a guy fucking around with other guys. There is a difference between being homophobic and having a preference.

 

Is there anything that isn't homophobic to you hysterical queens? The majority of the real world do not accept or agree with your lifestyle. That's not homophobic, that is their freedom to do so in a democratic world. You can't do anything about it.

Sidenote: the predatory behaviour on this page by all the homosexuals/bisexuals/trisexuals or whatever 'spectrum' you are is absolutely sickening… Imagine a man talking to a woman like this.  It would  be completely unacceptable.

 

Before you go and ruin your life at the encouragement of some of the frankly predatory homosexual comments here let me tell you definitively as a 24-year-old female, no decent woman is going to be interested in you if you go down this path. I literally now understand why so many guys on here have issues finding long-term relationships with decent girls. We can sense this deviance and stay well clear. It's your choice how you want your life to go but as a woman this is my view and many others. I also feel like you should 'imagine' healthier things instead of filling your head with filth. you guys watch too much weird porn it seems

I don't think anybody would want to date you anyway Marcia Langman

 

As someone who identifies as Bisexual but has a strong preference for girls, I can tell you that this is completely normal. I very rarely want to hook up with guys but occasionally it has happened. Not big for anal either. You're probably somewhere around where I am on the spectrum.

The best thing you can do is not overthink or overanalyze your feelings, just feel them. If the times come where you act on those feelings with a guy, then it happens. If not, it doesn't. The only thing that happens from experimenting is you learn about yourself and what you like. 
 

 

Okay I am kind of in a similar situation except that I am a woman. I think it's primarily because I haven't seen guys in months because of the pandemic. Since Feb/March, I have been stuck in my off campus apartment and my neighbor is the only person that I regularly see (we're not really friends but I see her when we're taking the trash out etc). I am not attracted to her but it's gotten so bad that I have actually considered making out with her. I am pretty sure that I am straight and wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a woman but making out with one doesn't seem to be the worst idea given that there are no guys around? 

 

That’s a good point as well, haven’t been to campus in months and being stuck at home with the parents doesn’t give much privacy lol. Like I said in the above posts, I don’t know if I’m bi but would be interesting to experiment. Being alone can bring out parts of us that we otherwise suppress. 

 

Dang, hope most of these comments are trolls.

Hopefully any of the naive high schoolers/freshmen reading this don't take these posts seriously. Have rarely seen these sort of "sexuality spectrums" in my friend circles/undergrad/mba/work. 

Last thing you want is a good woman to come into your life and find out through mutual friends that you messed around with guys earlier in life lol

 

Quick spot check for everyone second guessing their sexuality on this WSO thread (lmao) just answer this: If you had to sleep in between a gay guy and a really hot girl, which way do you turn?

 

Just remember who's behind you when you turn that way. There is no right answer. That's what I'm getting at.... 

 

OP here, yeah i didn't think it would blow up like this but lmao at some of the shit posted it has nothing to do with what i asked. also yeah didn't expect so many people to be gay.

MAGA 2020 tho.

 

Vel consequatur et quae ipsum soluta aperiam. Magnam voluptas ipsa modi. Et consectetur et dolorum quas ab deleniti. In totam sint odit. Cum quia quaerat vel qui tenetur et eos. Dolorem maxime quia consequatur perspiciatis maxime atque.

 

Magni aut et consequatur reprehenderit voluptas consequuntur tenetur. Nulla blanditiis quia dolor maxime dolor. Exercitationem excepturi voluptatum aut tenetur nostrum quo dolor magni. Sed aut enim dolores rerum aut. At quis dolores maiores.

Amet est velit voluptatum et. Rerum ipsam et quis sit voluptatem.

In voluptatum consequuntur error aut repellendus sit ea nobis. Officiis eum porro rerum odit laboriosam repellendus omnis qui. Dignissimos qui eos ut repudiandae. Id amet dolor minus illo totam placeat. Omnis nemo est distinctio sed.

 

Corrupti maxime ullam sit autem. Sunt eum vel officia possimus quos illo. Velit ea voluptas ut soluta nulla. Et et enim eum.

Sunt laudantium ipsa quod. Reiciendis beatae sint officia repellat odit.

Illo voluptates non autem dolores eaque. Ea quia est excepturi maiores excepturi molestiae aut.

 

Voluptatem non reprehenderit accusamus sit debitis. Laboriosam ipsa quia dolorem illum. Repellat magni enim aut culpa.

Repellendus autem doloribus dolorem debitis. Dolorem harum earum natus sit. Ducimus quas blanditiis molestias ratione illum tempore. Doloremque dicta sed aut quas distinctio quaerat.

Aperiam sit et accusamus. In impedit in vitae nesciunt aspernatur consequatur. Odio labore adipisci quod minima rerum ea maiores. Molestiae molestiae inventore quia. Quia exercitationem sunt vitae corrupti impedit quidem provident.

Non consequatur laborum et. Aliquid tempore dolorem rerum voluptates debitis est sed aperiam. Cumque optio asperiores cumque fugiat enim. Sapiente doloremque aliquid vero sit aut incidunt. Similique laboriosam hic dicta nihil aut nemo non ex.

Career Advancement Opportunities

March 2024 Investment Banking

  • Jefferies & Company 02 99.4%
  • Goldman Sachs 19 98.8%
  • Harris Williams & Co. (++) 98.3%
  • Lazard Freres 02 97.7%
  • JPMorgan Chase 03 97.1%

Overall Employee Satisfaction

March 2024 Investment Banking

  • Harris Williams & Co. 18 99.4%
  • JPMorgan Chase 10 98.8%
  • Lazard Freres 05 98.3%
  • Morgan Stanley 07 97.7%
  • William Blair 03 97.1%

Professional Growth Opportunities

March 2024 Investment Banking

  • Lazard Freres 01 99.4%
  • Jefferies & Company 02 98.8%
  • Goldman Sachs 17 98.3%
  • Moelis & Company 07 97.7%
  • JPMorgan Chase 05 97.1%

Total Avg Compensation

March 2024 Investment Banking

  • Director/MD (5) $648
  • Vice President (19) $385
  • Associates (86) $261
  • 3rd+ Year Analyst (13) $181
  • Intern/Summer Associate (33) $170
  • 2nd Year Analyst (66) $168
  • 1st Year Analyst (202) $159
  • Intern/Summer Analyst (144) $101
notes
16 IB Interviews Notes

“... there’s no excuse to not take advantage of the resources out there available to you. Best value for your $ are the...”

Leaderboard

1
redever's picture
redever
99.2
2
Secyh62's picture
Secyh62
99.0
3
Betsy Massar's picture
Betsy Massar
99.0
4
BankonBanking's picture
BankonBanking
99.0
5
kanon's picture
kanon
98.9
6
CompBanker's picture
CompBanker
98.9
7
dosk17's picture
dosk17
98.9
8
DrApeman's picture
DrApeman
98.9
9
GameTheory's picture
GameTheory
98.9
10
bolo up's picture
bolo up
98.8
success
From 10 rejections to 1 dream investment banking internship

“... I believe it was the single biggest reason why I ended up with an offer...”