CNN now promotes cuckoldry.

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CNN)In our current political climate, the term "cuck" -- short for "cuckservative" -- has become an insult of the so-called alt-right, aimed at men they view as spineless and emasculated. The slur has its roots in the concept of cuckolding, or having an adulterous partner.

But, according to a recent study by David Ley, Justin Lehmiller and the writer Dan Savage, acting on cuckolding fantasies can be a largely positive experience for many couples, and hardly a sign of weakness.
References to cuckolding appear in literature as early as the 13th century, usually in the form of male characters who fear that their child has been sired by another man during an act of infidelity. Today, however, cuckolding has become fetishized into a powerful sexual fantasy for some men, who get aroused by the idea of their romantic partner engaging in sexual activity with someone else. Women also share this fantasy, but less so than men.
"This fantasy has been around as long as marriage and sexuality," said Ley, whose book "Insatiable Wives" addresses cuckolding in heterosexual couples. "But we're hearing more and more about it these days, and more people are rejecting the social stigma against this fantasy."

ndeed, the numbers suggest that cuckolding, or at least thinking about it, is more common than you might imagine. For his forthcoming book, "Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help Improve Your Sex Life," Lehmiller surveyed thousands of Americans and found that 58% of men and about a third of women had fantasized about cuckolding.
"Men are more likely to fantasize about cuckolding, and they do it more often -- but there are a number of women who have these fantasies as well, which points to the need for more research focused on women's cuckolding desires," Lehmiller said.
Initially viewed as a heterosexual phenomenon, it's increasingly prevalent among gay men, too. "I'd long gotten letters from straight couples into cuckolding (usually initiated by the husband), but none from gay couples until after marriage equality began to gather steam," explained writer and activist Savage. To learn more, Savage joined with Lehmiller and Ley for a study of cuckolding fantasies and experiences in 580 gay men.
Their findings suggest that there are similarities between the way gay and straight men view cuckolding, but clear differences, too. Most notably, interracial and BDSM themes don't appear to be as common in gay men's cuckolding fantasies as they are among heterosexual men. The motivations behind these fantasies may also be different.
Part of what makes cuckolding arousing for heterosexual men is that they tend to view it as a taboo act. "In a society or culture that idealizes monogamy, the cuckold fantasy is a current narrative that is available to people to conceptualize their sexual fantasies," said Ley.

But that may not be an influence for everyone. "For gay men, cuckolding isn't quite as taboo because the norm of lifelong monogamy isn't so strong in the LGBT community; however, it can still be arousing for a number of other reasons," said Lehmiller. For instance, fantasies about voyeurism and group sex seem to overlap with those about cuckolding in these men. "It's a sexual desire that can be easily customized to meet a wide range of sexual needs and desires, whether it's taboo sex, novelty, voyeurism or something else," he told me.
And the emotions surrounding seeing your partner with someone else can add to the turn-on, explained Savage. "It's not cuckolding if there isn't an element of humiliation, degradation or denial," he said. "Our erotic imaginations have the ability to turn shame lemons into delicious kink lemonade."
As a sex therapist, one of the more intriguing findings from this study involves the impact of cuckolding on relationships.
"Overall, our research found that for the most part, cuckolding tends to be a positive fantasy and behavior," said Ley. "It doesn't appear to be evidence of disturbance, of an unhealthy relationship, or of disregard for one's partner." But there's an important caveat, added Lehmiller. "We found several personality factors that predict more positive experiences acting on cuckolding fantasies. For those who have a lot of relationship anxiety or abandonment issues, who lack intimacy and communication, and who aren't careful, detail-oriented planners, acting on a consensual non-monogamy fantasy could very well be a negative experience," he said. "In other words, not everyone who has a cuckolding fantasy should think about acting on it."

Remember that sometimes just sharing a sexy thought can be arousing enough -- you don't have to follow through. If you are thinking about acting on a cuckolding fantasy, it's worth stepping back first and making sure your relationship is in a good place and that you have strong sexual communication skills.
"For men and couples considering the issue of cuckolding, it's important there be honesty, integrity, communication, mutuality and shared values," advised Ley. "I've seen men who try to trick their wives into cuckolding them, and this never, ever ends up well."
For couples who do decide to move forward, it's important to take things slow. "The reality of watching your spouse have sex with someone else -- or knowing they're doing it, if you're not there -- is often very different than the fantasy. It can dredge up powerful emotions, so take baby steps and keep talking and communicating," said Savage. "That said, the rewards can be amazing, according to couples who have successfully folded cuckold play into their relationships."

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Yep. Not a joke, not the Onion, it's progressive America alright and don't let anyone tell you this isn't great.

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Jan 25, 2018

What is it with the media's current obsession over chipping away at traditional relationship standards? Every day in the Snapchat news there's a different article from Buzzfeed or something talking about some type of non-traditional non-monogamous relationship.

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Jan 25, 2018

Who do you think has the most stable relationships with similar values? Probably the Christian/Conservative. The left isn't trying to whittle away at them, they are aiming at their children to reduce the number that think the same as their parents. It's working.

I will honestly be surprised if my vote counts for anything past 2020. I am a Christian Conservative. Going to be an independent consultant soon. Expecting to get fucked by the left in the future.

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Jan 25, 2018

Demographically speaking, liberals have the least kids of everyone, possibly because indeed they promote such lifestyle.

The main issue is that the youth tends to be more liberal but that is sort of changing.

Jan 25, 2018

social engineering

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Jan 25, 2018

This is too hillarious. Turkey is killing Kurds in Syria and our joke of a news channel is talking about dudes watching their wives get banged haha.

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Jan 25, 2018

And there's a document circulating in congress which alleges collusion between the intelligence agencies and the democrats to undermine the election of our president. A document that the Democrats are fighting to brush under the rug. How clear could it possibly be that the media in the country is an absolute joke?

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Jan 25, 2018
Esuric:

And there's a document circulating in congress which alleges collusion between the intelligence agencies and the democrats to undermine the election of our president. A document that the Democrats are fighting to brush under the rug. How clear could it possibly be that the media in the country is an absolute joke?

Nunes's memo may very well have as much merit as other brilliant conservative conspiracy theories such as Pizzagate. Meanwhile it was written by Nunes and his staff and as far as I'm aware nobody in the Senate or the executive branch even knows what's in it. But I mean it doesn't surprise me that you already fully believe in Pizzagate '18 since it just confirms your belief that the Democrats are the spawn of satan. I'm all for releasing the memo and supporting evidence but the reality is its contents are as much of an unknown to us as the current Russia investigation. I get it though: Obama and Hillary are the devil and have caused every problem in this country going back 100 years. Can you come up with something original for once?

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Jan 26, 2018
Esuric:

And there's a document circulating in congress which alleges collusion between the intelligence agencies and the democrats to undermine the election of our president. A document that the Democrats are fighting to brush under the rug. How clear could it possibly be that the media in the country is an absolute joke?

Hold up. Are people not aware that the DOJ retrieved the 50K missing texts sent between Strzok and Page during the 5-month period which began a month after Trump's election and ended on the day that Mueller was appointed special counsel? And that those texts reveal unambiguously that Strzok, who was the deputy head of counter-intelligence at the FBI (not some low ranking agent), said that they should go easy on Hillary during the investigation and wrap it up as soon as possible?

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Jan 25, 2018

A who cares CNN report on a study ,buried in the health section of the website, turns into a conservative whine session, conspiracies included. This is WSO 2018, beautiful.

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Jan 25, 2018

Don't you have like impairment assessments or something to worry about? You spend a lot of time on this "new WSO" for someone in the middle of busy season. Don't lose your job over your extremely nutty left-wing bias.

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Jan 25, 2018

Currently working on an external 820 actually, not that my job should matter this much to you... or has anything to do with anything... but now you know.

Jan 25, 2018

It's 2018! Progress can't be stopped. We are here, not queer, get used to it!

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