How many of you live the banker sex life?

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Xzas22 - Certified Professional
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One of the common themes of wall street movies/stories is these guys make all this money and blow it on toys, drugs, and escorts/hookers. I've seen the toys, I've seen the drugs, but the escorts is something I have yet to see first hand.

Now, I don't have many seasoned friends in banking, but I do know someone high up in consulting, and he swears by the escort life style. Essentially, with the hours he works and all the traveling, the hassle of a committed relationship (the checking in, the time commitment, the locked-in-ness) don't appeal to him. Apparently, for $X/hr, he finds himself a nice companion (read: perfect 10) a few nights a month, gets what he wants out of it, and grinds back to work.

Obviously, with age I imagine love and connection take over as the major drivers of relationships, but I am curious if anyone on this forum subscribes to his way of life. In your experiences, is it more myth or common practice?

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Comments (9)

Aug 18, 2017

This is sad, a human being shouldn't be able to kill to himself or ruin personal happiness/relationships over a paycheck.

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Aug 18, 2017

Usually it's the not-so-well performers who end up desperately having sex with escorts. From what I've noted, most of my superiors have stable family relationships with kids and everything - or they make a good show of it. As for some who do call escorts, they're usually those who might call them to satisfy kinks that they otherwise wouldn't be able to - I'm assuming here.

It's more common in consulting to sleep around with colleagues, and I've heard varying opinions of this. I had a friend who was caught sleeping around in an MBB office, and she was let go. I've also heard that MBB is more lenient when it comes to dealing with this, so I don't know which one is which.

GoldenCinderblock: "I keep spending all my money on exotic fish so my armor sucks. Is it possible to romance multiple females? I got with the blue chick so far but I am also interested in the electronic chick and the face mask chick."

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Aug 17, 2017

That's been my experience also, all the senior bankers I know have a wife and kids, all be it most are on their second or third wife.

Interesting observation on consulting. I suppose spending all that time in hotel rooms with different colleagues has a certain potential to create opportunity.

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Aug 18, 2017

Every single man I admire is in a loving marriage with children.

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

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Aug 18, 2017
GoldenCinderblock:

Every single man I admire is in a loving marriage with children.

Had to read this four or five times. I thought you were talking about men who are single at first and got confused.

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Aug 19, 2017
GoldenCinderblock:

Every single man I admire is in a loving marriage with children.

Importance of marriage - from "The Departed"

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Aug 18, 2017

Most people want a relationship. Not perfect and hard with time, but something deeper than a hooker is necessary. When you're stressed out, working all the time, you need someone to enjoy some non-transactional intimate time, and someone just to go to dinner with and talk about something other than work.

For senior guys, families are 100% the norm. Can't tell you how happy all of them are with their wives, certainly plenty have affairs, but settling down and having a stable home and children is key to retaining sanity and living a meaningful life. Plus, when you retire, you actually have a family to spend time with, instead of just a load of cash and arthritis.

I do know people who like hookers, and that's their prerogative, but most of them do it is a casual thing when they're between relationships or want to do something kinky or have a night. They don't sit down and determine that their long-term sex life is going to be hookers and that's it.

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Aug 19, 2017

uhhhh why not just go to a bar and use some social skills to pick up a little something to poke on? saves money time and pride

Aug 19, 2017