Was not afforded good opportunity and parents fucked up my life--am i perpetually fucked for life?

am I

i work at a shit company and make shit salary of 56K. 27 years old. i i take adhd drugs which helps a lot.

the thing is: parents sent me to shit college even though they are so rich. forced me to live at home and i became very depressed. no friends. i worked hard in high school to get into top school and i got into a few top schools--not allowed to go.

parents force me to major in bio--very bad at it. have shite gpa.

so i wanted to go to law school and get job at wachtell. got very good mcat score. can get into harvrd law IF I HAD A GOOD FUCKING GPA. but parents messed it up

ON TOP OF THAT I DID NOT GET ADHD TREATMENT UNTILL AFTER COLLEGE.

messed up a master program gpa also, my lfie is fucked.

 

Hey dude. I saw in your other posts you had like a 99% MCAT score, maybe you can do the same on the LSAT and leverage that into an opportunity. After you leverage it you can spin those scores in an interview showing intellect. GPA reflects work ethic and test scores reflect intelligence and Wachtell like intelligent people. I had a 3.7 GPA in HS taking AP classes but got a 1050 on my SAT. I'm dumb but have a great work ethic. Just spin it into a good story.

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Hey JoblessJoe I just got off the phone with my parents, who have been loving and supportive my whole life. I don't think I would have made it to where I am now without their sacrifices and guidance. I am very thankful for what they've done for me.

"Son, life is hard. But it's harder if you're stupid." - my dad
 

Remember that Bobby Axelrod went to Hofstra. Also, if you like chicken, remember the guy of KFC founded it at 60.

Seriously, though, don't worry. Just do what you think it's best for you. The markets don't care about your background as long as you know how to work them. Also, develop a tough skin. People in finance can be pretty harsh, but it's pretty much all a test to see if you're cut out for the job. Don't react so badly (don't tell people you want them to get cancer, even if they are being cruel, dishonest or whatever, show them you are better through your work). You sound like very intelligent person, and as long as you keep working hard, you'll get where you want to be. Be relentless. Be a fucking phone terrorist (sorry, the moment called for a Belfort quote).

Also, sorry if you're vegetarian.

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Many people get into Wall Street because of books and movies like The Wolf's. Even though most Wall Streeters aren't brokers, we like to keep the fucking telephone terrorist feeling/facade.

“I’m into, uh, well, murders and executions, mostly.”
 
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Be a fucking phone terrorist (sorry, the moment called for a Belfort quote).
Its a "telephone terrorist", the alliteration is important.

Yes, sorry. I said that from memory, should've made my research.

“I’m into, uh, well, murders and executions, mostly.”
 

I might get shit for saying this, but man up a little dude. Yeah sure our parents have some input on our lives but at some point you have to start making your own decisions. If they don't want to pay for your school, go to the school you want anyways if it means that much to you. You get to choose your major so I'm not going to be sympathetic towards that either. You're 27 and still letting your mom control your life, I think its time you take a little more responsibility man. If you keep making excuses for everything you're never going to get anywhere, but regardless I wish you the best of luck.

 

Hi OP,

I have the same exact story as you, almost an identical one with some slight variation. Parents forced me to stay at home during my couple years of college, were overly intrusive (dad even got the email password for my school email and would check my email, often creating a fuss around the house about it), and often didn't let me do a thing by myself to the point were I was behind the other kids in regards to growth.

Most of all, I too was forced into the gruesome life sciences major and constantly told that it is either "doctor or bum" from my family. Would not listen to any reasoning on my behalf no matter how rational it was, constantly said I was being unreasonable. Then when I would point out the wrong things they did, they would get loud, violent, and deny it.

College (transferred after 2 years) was miserable and life shortly after it was by definition hell. I ended up graduating with a Bio degree and more or less working for free for cranky college professors. My grades were horrible, Bio is a tough major and college was depressing.

I remember working for pennies after college, having IB aspirations, and then having this site chew me alive lol.

But here is the reality of the situation, it can be turned around, yet certain actions need to be taken. At 27 you are kind of on the older end OP but change is possible.

  1. Get away from your parents and tell them to fuck off, I did that and I am happier now than ever. Tell your parents to get lost. I understand some parents are just good people but in our case, our parents are just narcissists who need to be told to get lost. Don't expect them to take it well, expect them to resort to a lot of name calling and violence if it comes to it, use more guilt trips than anything, but you have to make that jump. Do this before you do anything else.

If therapy is needed, get it, nothing embarrassing about it though I haven't done it myself.

  1. Drill down on where you want to go, maybe you can get a decent MBA (you might be on the older end though) after you destroy the GMAT. I say have a plan and work backwards from where you ideally want to be.

IB? Will likely need a top 20 MBA.

How to get top 20 MBA? Top tier gmat score and good resume outside of GPA.

  1. You simply don't have much time, no more zero days! Make the most of every day and do as much as possible. Every day should be progress towards your end goal, you have to make the most of it.

You might not have it as easy as a rich kid with good parents but you still have a chance, fight for it and make every day count!

 

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