What do you do when you lose all motivation?
I feel like everything
I do nowadays isn't about working to good things but just away from bad things.
I exercise and control my diet not to shape my body but just to avoid getting fat.
I go to school not because I like the subject matter or have professional goals but to avoid poverty.
I play videogames not to enjoy them or get better at them but to avoid boredom.
You pretty much get the picture. Pretty much the only thing I'm motivated to do is eat. Apart from that, I don't really look forward to doing anything. Even if I set goals I have no motivation to meet them because there i just see no reason to. I have no drive to.
Have you considered seeing a therapist?
I probably should, shouldn't I?
This sounds like dysphoria or depression. Nothing wrong about having it except that it is terrible to suffer through. I’d look up the books “Man’s Search for Meaning” and “Feeling Good.”
Thx I'll give those a look
Was not expecting to see a Holocaust survivor's book mentioned here but honestly, great rec. OP def check out Men's Search for Meaning.
Yeah - Man's Search for Meaning.
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Yeah just friends and parents
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I personally don’t think why I do things. I just do it. To stay motivated, I like to use the law of attraction. I visualize what I want to happen, and it happens exactly as I visualize it. What gives me a sense of purpose is doing volunteering in which I help someone (can’t say why I help them bc I need to keep it confidential). That and I donate money to family members that are going through a tough time because of COVID. I have been for the majority agnostic, but I think developing a sense of spirituality is important. Even though I am not sure God exists, and I am currently considering going to traditional Latin catholic mass. Tomorrow I will start praying a novena (a prayer of 9 days for a specific intention. Novenas have worked so perfectly in the past which I found insane). I think the concept of God just makes moral frameworks make more sense. I find happiness in following moral frameworks in my work and personal life. And the possibility of Gods existence just makes it more meaningful I guess, though not necessary for a meaningful life. I have to say though, my volunteer work makes me much more happier, even though I don’t get paid for volunteer work, than my real job. Finding a hobby and possibly doing volunteer work will help you find more purpose on why you do things. Don’t depend on just a job and exercise to make you happy bc it won’t.
Do you understand Latin?
I actually do not understand latin! I think going to traditional latin mass a couple of years ago and not understanding a word, just made the experience so much more beautiful! The priest doesn't look at those in the room, and I just sort of sit there admiring the silence and words I don't understand, but want to. It is just so much more elegant, how women wear veils and how I think they made you kiss some golden object before receiving the eucharist? A 12/10 experience. I always wanted to go again but didn't have the time.
Just curious, but what novenas are you saying? There are different kinds to different patrons so...
Also, you can just go to a normal mass. I don't know where you reside but it should be pretty much the same.
All in all, great comment. I like that you actually have something you're doing about this.
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Hi. I recommend the novenas to Virgin Mary (Queen of Heaven), the novena to St. Jude, and novena to the Sacred Heart of Jesus. They have all gotten me answers to the most confusing situations and helped in the most difficult situations.
Based, Vatican II and its consequences have been a disaster for Catholicism!
Novenas have truly helped me through some incredibly rough times....
Same! They have given me answers and outcomes that would otherwise be nearly impossible. The fact that I received answers within 4 days max of completing a novena has to mean something and makes it less likely it was a coincidence. The one that has worked without failed as promised was the novena to the Sacred Heart of Jesus. I did it twice and received what I wanted before and on the 8th day out of the 9th day as promised. Though all novenas had amazing outcomes. It's hard to stay agnostic when these novenas are obviously efficacious.
Just wait for the pandemic to end man, it'll get better.
It's never going to end. The left will see to that
I feel you. This exact thing has been with me throughout this year. I just read my novels (this is the only thing I can do all day non-stop tbh), eat and sleep.
Until last week when I just asked myself a serious question: "Do you like being poor?" (I grew up - and I'm still growing up - in a lower middle class family in a 3rd world country. So yeah). It's very funny but this kinda did the trick for me (not fully because I still have my downtimes but way better than before).
So ask yourself a hard question. Try to visualize how you want your future to be, and tell someone about it. Tbh, having an accountability partner has helped me sooooo much.
Also, try to trace the roots of this feeling, it really helps. I found mine was because of so many rejections after the grind last year so now I'm trying to be more strategic about applications. Maybe yours is the same or it could be a family issue? Then see how you can work it out.
Just remember that something must click somewhere. Good luck!
As someone who also grew up poor as fuck, although in the US, I can definitely relate. Thats been my driving motivation throughout school and work. Honestly, if I grew up privileged, I dont know how Id be able to do this. Makes me wonder how others do it.
This hit home!! If you grew up privileged though, I guess it'll be a matter of pride, maybe? Like, looking at your family and friends all successful.
If you grew up privileged like I was (am?) It's definitely a matter of pride and comparing yourself to your friends.
I have a friend that took a completely different path than me after highschool and we had similar grades. Now he goes to a target in the UK and is opting for investment banking while I am in a lower semi (or just non target) in the US and just quit trying to pursue IB. While I feel like it's the best choice for me, that comparison bugs me to this very day.
oh I just go through the motions until I get fired then move on to the next shiny object
Getting your test levels checked first would be what I would do if I were you.
Then the usual stuff really, diet and exercise. Meditation helps too. And quit the porn.
Godspeed
How would I get my test levels checked and why of I may ask?
You get your blood drawn and it gets sent to a lab, ask your (competent) doctor for more details (or literally google), im not your doctor.
Anecdotal evidence suggests that what you described in your op can in fact be low t induced. Do what you may with this information, im just telling you what I would do.
In the end you can at least rule out the hormone imbalance possibility and work on other solutions if your levels turn out to be normal (ask for a full panel if you decide to do it btw).
I don’t think this is a bad thing. There will be phases in life where you are super driven to achieve something and than other phases where you just go through the motions and recharge. I’m at a going through the motions stage myself but at one point I was super driven during recruiting season.
Hey man, I feel for you, we all do. You didn’t mention anything about relationships or personal connections. Don’t forget that humans are evolutionarily wired to receive a lot of fulfillment from being close with others and having loving friendships. Sometimes I just simply think about how nice it feels to have a good group of friends. The act of thinking about it alone makes me feel fulfilled. Something to consider for you too.
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