Hate to get off topic here, but lot of smart people here so I would like to get everyone's opinion.
I live in the city, have a friend who use to live in the city and moved out during COVID. Now that friend is getting married, and I got the wedding invite with a plus one. Not really dating anyone but have some casual things that could become serious. Not sure where to go with this.
Kinda won't know too many people there, so its kind of rolling the dice to see what will happen.
Should I take the risk of going solo or utilize the +1 and bring someone who I'm casually seeing? Also, don't think there will be a ton of single people there, so dunno if I can swing something at the wedding. (Also its down the shore, so I'll prob drive and come back).
Sorry for hijacking the thread, but asking for a friend - would it be inappropriate to bring a plus one who's into wearing all black, mascara, sucking/biting the neck, and the usual gothic stuff?
At long as she doesn't wear a necklace with your blood mixed with hers
its inappropriate NOT TO bring ur big tiddy goth GF
First, I would say you're probably good bringing a casual date but you could always check with your friend. Some people don't give guests a +1 without a serious SO or at least meeting them.
Second, if they're good with it I would recommend bringing a date especially if there could be something serious. Sounds like you won't know too many people - going single to a wedding can be a lot of fun but I'd want to know there would be a good amount of single people or some people you knew there. Also when's the wedding? If there are single people there, who knows if they'll want to hook up given everything going on.
Also if you do bring a date make sure they won't embarrass themselves or you while there, just a bad look to be the one or couple that everyone remembers and not in a good way. Not to mention the bride and groom will probably hate you.
Good points.
As I said its my friend who moved out; itll prob be one of those friends who kind of falls off, so even if I embarrassed myself it could fall off pretty quick.
Never know with those casual dates, next thing you know she is expecting you to put a ring on it too.
Just go alone and have fun with your buds. Don’t make your friends spend $100+ to feed a random.
That shit got so bad at one point with many friends’ wives complaining that there will forever be random girls commemorated in their wedding pics that some of the past few weddings have had soft rules that people need to have dated +1s for X amount of time before bringing them along
Yea, I mean, I've heard no ring no bring before, they're won't be a ton of people there I know, so it might be me getting stuff talking to randos.
I went to a wedding that was like a 5 course meal - was probably much more than that a plate. And they said don't bring gifts as they were moving to Singapore. Family absolutely rolling in money. Wedding a multi stage event with Brazilian dancers and all. Obviously the more the merrier.
always approach these things (as in trading) with upside/downside in mind
if you have some casual flings in mind, you've already gotten laid, so there's limited upside in bringing to a wedding to close the deal.
if things aren't serious yet, bringing them to a wedding accelerates that (see the Seinfeld episode where Jerry goes to Vermont with a casual fling)
if they don't know anyone either, you'll just be talking to each other the whole time, do you really want that? you could just do that at, idk, a dinner date...
what sort of wedding will this be? will it be a banger where you can get hammered in which case you'll want free reign and not have to babysit the stranger you brought? or, will it be more tame, in which case you'll want to gtfo early but have to convince the stranger that it's not rude?
the way I see this, more downside than upside. only time where a casual plus 1 works is if you've got a hot chick who's only a friend, there will be single girls there, and she can wingman for you.
I'd go solo and be ready to leave early if they put you at a shitty table in the back with the uncles they don't like, and also be ready to rip it up if the vibe is good. casual flings will only slow things down, you can always call them up afterwards if it's shitty and want to hang out
thebrofessor truly living up to his name
Ugh haven't been to a wedding in so long.....
I guess it really comes down to which would you enjoy more...If it were me, I would probably bring a date because you can still hang with your buds part of the time. What will you do when all your buds are dancing with significant others?
Great question. This is where you take shots with the middle aged men who don’t want to dance, swing/shag dance with all of the moms there (nothing risqué), start a limbo/conga line, or do some drugs in the bathroom. Let’s also remember no self respecting DJ keeps Brian McKnight’s entire song til the end, so this shouldn’t be too terribly long.
If you’re not a degenerate like me, you could offer to help load gifts in the wedding party’s car and stuff like that, but that’s way less fun than ripping tequila with Jeff, the father of the brides best friend who hasn’t worn a tie since bush’s 1st term and has been a parrothead club member longer than you’ve been alive.
yeah bring a plus one - plus one is more fun -
plus its boring if you're the only single dude there and its generally like a cool date
You should bring someone you're causally seeing. Maybe a little off topic but its what I've done for weddings and just about every military function I've ever had. Even though its casual, you can still avoid some awkward situations that may arise. Plus if you gotta bounce you can always say they had something come up.
Definitely bring someone - unless the bride & groom have someone they'd like you to "meet" or you expect many other singles or others you know. It will be more fun to have someone to socialize and dance with for 4 hours. Again, unless there will be plenty of others you expect to be available to chat and dance with.
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