Dating Correctly/Incorrectly 😗❤️🚩

It’s todays standards 100%

Each person wants something different from a relationship.  The non exclusivity thing use to be mostly a guy thing but now I think that is the trend for everyone.  Let them know, you are dating two other girls and she might change her mind.

You have to have “the talk.” If you want exclusivity, say it in the talk. If they don’t want what you want, accept it and stay together or move on.

Living by others' rules is always doing it wrong.  Set your own rules and stick to them.  You only need one in the end.

These days everyone wants the best. Are you sure you're a "catch"? If you're nobody's number #1 you probably don't look as good as the other guys.

Things like empathy, personality etc don't matter till you're exclusive.

Moving forward, focus on things like your looks and that will ensure that a woman would want to take you in front of her friends and post instagram stories with. Women compete with each other and no one like an ugly male on someone's Instagram story or post. 

If you make it clear from date 1-3 that you are looking for a relationship, I'd say being exclusive after a month +/- is normal. This would be like 3 - 6 dates or so depending on how often you see someone. Again I would just make it clear early on what you are looking for and that they're on the same page. If someone is looking for a relationship and isn't ready to be exclusive after 3 months, then they aren't really serious about finding a relationship / aren't that into you. Be direct - women love it. 

Khabib voice: "this is not way bratan.."

Okay, where to begin... depends on context - where you are in age and life. 

IF you're ready to dive into fully committed and making vows and having the one and only etc. etc. then yeah, def. fishing in wrong pond brotha (as mentioned - +1 SB).

WHERE TO GO - depends on your interests and where your values align, go to those places where you... can find an ideal match for you - if you're into say Church or some other activity that will attract women who... don't frequent bars and clubs, that may be ideal.  Come up with some things which will align with your family ideals.  If not, come up with what ideals and traditions that you would want your future family to have.

Okay, besides the above, if you're just looking to date, a few simple points to remember:

• Women don't think with their heads always (obv.) and are not interested in making logical rational decisions (typically, and usually until they get to a certain age - this is a generalization, not saying all, but most who are attractive and actively and intentionally single).
• With that said, depending on her age, it's often times something of a roller coaster they want out of life (often times attractive girls / women and can call shots in some way, they want ups, downs (they don't say that but yes want it, becomes juxtaposition to the ups), confusion, sorrow the whole nine... and even if THEY don't, they hear the stories of girlfriends that sound just... crazy-adventurous and think "hmm, maybe I want something like that", if the girl might be in something of an 'excitement' phase, or, it could be that you're that guy she's willing to... be somewhat adventurous with?..  Or some combination of the two).

Therefore YOU:

• Have to be able to command, attract and maintain attention (can be you being the center of attention, can be you involving her in the conversation and learning about her (while being entertaining I would recommend), creating the entertainment in a group, doing something posh, doing something divey, developing an understanding, creating tension as a dude who can pull etc.).
• Have to have some kind of flaw or two (some kind of overall limiting factor - have to figure that out what that would be) so that she knows you're NOT long term material.
• At the same-time have to be interesting enough, attractive enough, RICH enough, you pick (dancer enough, comedian enough, guitar player enough, street-baller enough, friends in high-places enough etc.) to keep her in your rolodex, but not so much that she would want to stay in your circle for the long-term as a potential life partner.
• REVERSAL - she's playing the game as much as she can and just as much as you (if not more - women have... welp, more options to put it simply, and as she ages and her options begin to diminish then so will her lack of ration-ability. 

And then beyond the just dating (I might get some monkey shit for this) IMO the girl you pick for the long term, ideally I always tell fellas I know, you want to pick one who:

• has / had a father in her household for the long term (or some male figure available to her almost always)
• they have a solid and very strong positive bond / relationship
• that male figure was the main decision maker *or* if not regular decision maker held final say within that household (50 / 50 IMO is a rarity that less often is effective than not effective)

Not saying that without the above you cannot have a healthy and long-lasting relationship, you might go through more growing pains than you would endure without the above, and it might take more patience on your part than she will be willing to offer to you, and it might take some time for some concepts to sink in on her part (I guess in a way technical way to put it is difference in patience parity on your part vs. hers and then expectation for you to be up-to-speed on topics you may fall short of). 

Generally, Women are born negotiators and communicators and with very high EQ (learn from a very young age and on).

Generally Men on the other hand are born understanding equity (equitable circumstances) and solid deal terms (just my opinion on the matter), which and then ties back to why some guys who communicate really well across mediums, can pull, and often etc. etc.

That's my simple interpretation of the game in a nutshell, pick your lane and choose wisely!

IMO, do not overcomplicate things. Just go on as many dates as possible and try to ensure they are with high quality people.

It's a numbers game just like any form of what is basically sales, and when you meet the one you will know.

My first date with my now wife was ~8x+ better than any other date. Our values aligned very closely etc.

I just communicated that exclusivity was a requirement after the first date / that I was only asking for a second because I planned to put effort in and be exclusive myself.  Fine if that's not for some women, just meant those women weren't for me.  Very happily engaged now and avoided wasting time / going through the awkwardness of feeling out where you stand w/ someone who you fail to communicate directly like an adult with (they're probably failing to do so, too)

Don't look so hard man. I get there are times when we all desire a relationship, but honestly everytime i have gone out and looked for a partner it has almost never worked. Keep living your life and doing your thing. I agree with the other comments of trying new clubs / groups and meeting somebody that way, but the way that will happen is if you join a group in which YOU are interested. 

Also, what is stopping you from talking to multiple people at a time? Heck - talk to as many people as you want until you find the right one :)

If you want a relationship, make sure you date an uglier chick. They are great (low stress, low maintenance, etc) - I've been with mine for almost 2 years and I've never been happier !

This is just the big city mentality. Try settling down somewhere more rural and I doubt you’d find girls take as long to commit. I don’t like seeing more than one woman at a time, so I don’t. If I don’t like her I don’t go on a second date.

Know your worth.

When people I really liked wanted to do that, I treated it like a casual relationship and found someone serious to date. 
 

Found someone cool who wanted what I did and it’s been smooth sailing.

At OP, have to ask a couple questions: 

1. Where do you live, or in what city?

2. How old are you and have you dated before?

3. What do you want out of your relationship?

Mainly, no offense, you seem a little green in terms of dating. Here are a couple pointers I'd give:

1. Don't take advice on dating from movies, TV shows, or even woman themselves (I believe it was Steve Jobs who said people will know that they want when I show it to them). Basically, everyone wants something different when dating;however, not everyone will tell you straight what they want. Every one will tell you the same things, "nice" guy, treats them a certain way, has a certain kind of job. Sometimes people say that because it sounds, but sometimes that's not what want woman want. Some woman want guys who treat them badly (daddy issues), some woman want drama, some woman care less about the job/money but want a physical attritbute (for example, they might want someone over 6 ft, or someone more on the chubby side so they feel better about themsevles.) Also, do fun stuff. Read some stuff about dating, Google fun date ideas where you live. Dont' be too extreme though, first dates should be drinks or something you can leave early if it isn't going well, not a 5 hour boat trip with someone you just met. 

2. You say you're a catch, but that doesn't mean everyone's catch,. You can be the best tasting strawberry in the world, doesn't mean everyone likes strawberries. Also, what do you mean by you're a catch? You could have a billion dollars, but some woman would go with a free spender if you're counting every dime. 

3. Look at dating like doing business. It's harder now with the apps, as options increase decisions go down. As much as you need to be smooth on a deal with a client you need to be smooth while dating. Not saying don't have time frames, but don't have charts that are like "3 dates or two dinners or $348.47 spent with this girl that shoudl equal a relationship." This is where the TV stuff comes in, some woman want "a story" about their relationship,others are very low key. 

4. You might need to go on dates to get good at the relationship part or understanding woman. Don't be afraid to adjust "tactics" as in places to go, things you talk about or things you wear. Also, don't get stuck on just dating one specific person. If you don't like talk girls, don't date someone 6'3", that's bound to fail, but if your limit on height is say 5'3", don't exclude a 5'5" woman just on that basis. 

Start seeing multiple girls, you'll be surprised how quickly one of them will want to be exclusive once they find out you're seeing others. It might not align with your values at first, but sadly this is the way in big cities