My colleague is a big asshole trying to stab my back whenever he can. Any idea how I should deal with him?

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Define asshole... how does he try to stab your back...

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Install Back Orifice and you can take over his machine and do some really messed up stuff. Like bulk email gay porn from his email account to all the firm employees. That'll fix his little red wagon.


A swift kick in the nuts should suffice
You should probably just confront him and tell him to stop being a dbag. If it were me, I would probably just put him through a wall (but in this case he may be bigger than you so go for the knee caps).

You are going to come across assholes in every aspect of your life and generally the best way to deal with them is to ignore them and do what you gotta do


Just talked it out candidly with him. He probably knows hes being an asshole and continues to act that way if he sees you tolerating it.

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plant drugs at his desk, and then tell the MD about it.

Afro Jacks

In reply to Soy

plant drugs at his desk, and then tell the MD about it.

I would think drugs in the desk would only be a problem if he didn't bring enough for everyone. Are you guys really getting fired for silly shit like that these days?


so I guess the best advice so far is to either 1) ignore and do what I gotta do or 2) talked it out candidly with him. Let's narrow it down to these two options (unless someone has an even better idea) and go from here? vote?


call him out.

I had a guy messing me when I was a junior staff guy and one day I just told him to fuk off or we are going to have a promblem. He shot something back and I said I was not playing.

He never tried it again.

Be firm but direct.


It's banking... you better learn to deal with assholes or else you're in for a rough time.


depends on how senior they are to you. if it's your MD, tough it out, if it's your associate then make him look like an idiot in front of his superiors or call him out on it.

i wasn't working well with an associate who wasn't even an asshole, just a micromanager, and I sorted it out with my staffer to not put me with him again. i said i wasn't working as effectively as i could with that person, i risked coming off as a whiner, but it has made the job way better. finish the task your on and hopefully move past it.


A swift bitch slap across the face...probably won't do you any good in the long run though.


He wouldn't be acting the way he did if he didn't see an easy target

He prob is assured that he can take you over, thus being not cautious of his overt actions

You need to be confident of your abilities (and realize that - act like where you work and who your position is - if banker than act like a banker), and then be direct in his face, in discrete moments. (Don't make it a big thing) and then talk about something else. Obvious good to lead and be dominate and to even befriend him (read the book "The Prince" by Macavelli a classic that still applies today).

Times are bad - he prob feels that all will be canned, but not caring about you, why not you first. Protect ya neck (like Redman says) before it is unprotectible at T+3


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