I know this is kinda silly to post this but I saw relationship advise thingy below, and thought it might be okay to ask you guys something..since most of people at this website are male bankers..
So my bf and I broke up and two days later his gf of three years sent me an email that even though we broke up I should know that he has a gf of three years and warned me not to contact him again...
We were in a long distance relationship, I am in NY and he is in Europe...and when he met me at first during his associate training, he was dating this girl for a while.. but he wanted me to be his gf and we called each other like crazy, went vacation together, etc...
And I met him while I was still in college. So everything (well expensive and upscale thing at least..) was very new to me and went to nice places in the city with him blah blah blah..escaped to beautiful islands in Mediterranean..etc..
Anyway. after her email, I asked him why did he cheat on her. Obviously I am in NY so it is impossible to spend lots of time together, we both knew that from beginning but he insisted that we were meant to be or said something similar..then he said he loves me and couldnt stop himself.
So I asked him then why did he agree to break up with me few days ago.
His response goes "I really don't want to date a banker, and that is why I agreed to break up with you."
Why....? I didnt ask him for the further explanation,I dont want to look desperate, begging for an explanation. over is over, I believe.
Still. Why female banker is a big no..?! well I didnt study finance in college nor did I know anything about finance back then when I first met him, so I am not as scary as other finance girls out there...
If there was a problem with my personalities like fellow female bankers(scary, ambitious, condescending, obnoxious, overconfident... I found them to be unbelievably annoying, especially ones in ) , he wouldnt start dating from the beginning.
Just because I got a job as a quant??? Is being a female banker a problem when it comes to dating?? Is he scared about me making more money and being more successful?? Out of jealousy??
You guys think it makes sense??
FYI, my ex and his gf of three years are still dating and I seriously cant figure out why he chose her over me... I am 5 years younger than him and she is 4 years older than him..So it makes me 10 years younger than her...she didnt even finish her college, works as a modelist (people who make clothes for designers...designers design, modelist create actual clothes from drawings). And regarding the looks, I am not the prettiest but not bad, and I assume dress quite well bc most of my family work in fashion industry...
The fact that he doesnt want to keep in touch with me anymore bc I have a better job than a modelist reallyyy makes me furious....!
Any idea or opinion would be really appreciated....I wanna hear male opinion...my girlfriends all said guys who cheat dont deserve anything, but I think every man cheats once or twice, so circumstances and emotions should be considered before just cursing them...
thank you guys