Done with the bs

here's some advice from an internet friend. it's pretty clear she doesn't know what she wants, but it's probably not you. maybe one day she will wake up and regret the decision to leave you, but not today.

my advice - move on. slay as many hoes as possible. thats really the only way to get over someone. i wouldn't waste any time trying to chase her down or get her back. channel that energy somewhere else, afterall, didn't Zuck create facebook because of some chick that left him? there are plenty of fish in the sea, my non-real-life friend.

Bro... you better get back with her, if only because I have 3 more accounting classes next semester.

Hate to break it to you but she didn't break up with you without a backup plan (she is interested in someone else- has been for months). She has been planning this for months and is more than likely already dating someone new. She is keeping your relationship alive just in case the new relationship doesn't work out. Do Not take her back and be her backup plan or "friend." The "she needs to figure out who she is and how she feels about me" is a bold lie because she doesn't have the cahoots to be honest, and too afraid to tell you she met someone else. She wanted you to break up with her so she didn't feel as guilty by seeing someone new, but you didn't hence the lie about "finding herself." Also, never chase.

Sour milk never goes fresh.

It doesn't matter why, but it's over. It's time to rip the band aid off and move on.

Don't talk to her for 2 weeks even if she messages you. This is pretty hard to do but you just gotta.

Then after figure out if she has another man or moved on yet, or how she feels. Take it from there and see how things go

Hire an escort, and show her off to your ex.

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I was in the opposite position a few months ago. Had a gf of 3 years that I stopped wanting to be with. Once we broke up she bugged me every day and now I don't even want to ever talk to her.

I know it sucks but you just have to let yourself move on. If she realizes she made a huge mistake, she will come running back but do not try to keep convincing her to give you another chance because that will only drive her further away.

You've been out of it for a long time and I know it is really tough to move on, but you can do it. Try to talk about it with your "real life friends." Sometimes friends can help greatly.

Good luck man

I never give advice when it comes to women because I can't seem to understand them either. However, I was in your shoes a year ago. I thought I had it all; wonderful gf, good job and was pumped about being ahead in the career race. Out of clear blue skies came the thunder and shook my world. She packed her bags and left in the middle of the night (took way too little time to be a spur of the moment act, she was out in under 30min and her mother was waiting for her.)

I really didn't understand what was happening over the next few weeks. Losing my best friend through so many years was what hit me the hardest (didn't realise it until a few days later). We tried that whole 'let's be friends', but as many others will tell you; That shit just doesn't work when it comes to a GF through multiple years.

My advice: Ditch the bitch. There's a reason why you're single now, you might not see it, but it's there. Understand why and move along. Too many girls not getting a mouthfull while you sit around feeling sorry for yourself right now.

As a joke my aunt told me when she heard the news: 'A man is like a boomerang. If you let him go the right way, he'll be coming back. Don't be that asshole.'

Sorry to hear that some of you have been in similar situations. I honestly believe there isn't "somebody else." I just lost sight of how I should treat her... Thank you everyone for taking the time out to respond. Except for Feb.

i prob gave the best piece of advice on this thread. just sayin.

I was in a similar situation a couple years ago. I thought I wanted to get back with my ex after we broke up and she seemed to have moved on. It wasn't until I had gotten over her (and she knew it) and started hooking up with another girl that she tried to get back together with me. Fortunately, I really was over her and turned her down. Getting out of that relationship actually ended up being the best thing that happened to me for a long time, at least until I met my current girlfriend.

If you truly believe that she doesn't know what she wants or even if she thinks she knows what she wants (and it's not you) you should simply move on. She'll realize that she no longer has you as a backup plan and try to win you back. Either you'll actually be over her, which is probably the best case scenario anyway, or you two will try to get together and maybe it'll make you happy. Just my two cents, everybody is different.

Having been in the same situation about 8 years back, I can just reiterate what others have said. 1) It is over 2) Don't try to be "friends". It will end badly 3) Try to go go out, don't commit to others, but date. You will get over the first one and wonder what the big deal about it was in the first place 4) Yes, you have lost your best friend. But you will discover that your other true friends are still there (in my case, most of them were from school or undergrad) All the best. You will get over it.

I was in a similar situation several years ago, move one. In my case she was with someone else. Thought I wanter her back, till I found the woman i'm married to today.

You will suffer and be sad and lonely for a while. Just stick with the decision to end it, find something else to occupy your time, and drown your fears with work/books/interests/etc.. (Not liquor though. The shit fucks you). You can find a million reasons to doubt yourself but the surest way to get through it is to not have time to even think about it. Don't be alone- always be busy/ in groups. After a month, it'll be easier. After 3, it'll be bearable. 6 months later, you'll move on.

Thanks everyone. Your replies are helping and I appreciate them.

Dont get drunk and send an embarrassing email. I was in your position; didnt deal with my feelings and they came together in an email that torments me to this day. It had a song in it. I woke up; and wanted to live in a closet until the end of time. Dont do that.