Are you a club man?
I broke up with my girlfriend last week.
Not that I am still hang up on her or anything but a few bros suggested we head out to a club to meet some women etc.
Apprehensive as I was, I still went along with it. But once again, it was confirmed to me I hate the club scene. Yeah, I hear all that bullshit about that's the only place to meet women, but I just can't stomach being there.
WSO, am the only one who feels this way? (Generally, not to offend anyone) Women you meet are not even worth hooking up with, let alone girlfriend material.
What are your experiences?
DISCLAIMER: Bare in mind, my views and experiences are based upon living, studying or working in London.
I was in a similar situation a month or 2 back...friends suggested the same thing...hated the club scene...also you're right, generally the girls you meet in clubs (in NY anyway) are sometimes so out of it, you worry that you'll catch something just by hooking up with them.
I don't think the intention of your friends was for you to meet a new GF at the club, but who knows. Not of the fan of the scene although it's definitely the type of place to forget about things (sometimes permanently) and let loose.
It wasnt my intention either but my only motivation to go would be to meet women.
Obviously your goal wasnt to actually meet a girl there, right?
Just go, drink some brews and relax
nothing more to be said, BAR>Club
Same situation
I just broke up with my GF of two years. She was in DC for the summer. Im in NYC, living with my frat bros.
Clubs have their perks. First of all, most everyone is gorgeous. If you drop money, it's not hard to get with them. Yes, they're POS, but for a one night stand, it's been awesome.
Go to Le Bain in NYC
Le Bain sounds Le Gay. When I was in Rio there was this club called Le Boy, I think with your name Adelbert Buffington you would fit in well at Le Boy or Le Bain if you wish.
:)
I love clubs, but they're not for everyone...
Bar>club.
Unless the girls at the club aren't the "we are having a girls night type"
There's no such type...that's just what they say to blow you off ;)
haha, in CT I can assure you there are girls who do this granted I'm not 21 and they check my wrists for a wrist band but still do some ridiculous shit none the less
Yeah, completely agree. I would only make my move once they break away from the pack.
Seconded
Agree again. Pity its not the consensus.
Go to the club with a big group of friends and friends of friends and it'll be a good time. Throw em back and dance with some friends of friends. You can only stand around at so many bars.
Yes
This. Very constructive.
Just go and meet people. It's unlikely you'll meet a new girlfriend over lots of drinks, blaring music, and the push of hundreds of other people, but it's also just good to get out in the mix again. Personally, I find a club cool a couple of times a year, but don't know HOW people go there all the time.
I dont even find it cool once in a while. I go, hoping it might be different this time and then it comes back to me.
I dont even think you meet people there. I mean, literally you do but you cant converse with anyone there and if your sole motivation is to meet people there, its pretty redundant because people tend to remain within their packs.
restaurants for the win. i dont really bar or club much anymore. spend the money on food instead.
Co-sign. Much prefer the intimate one-on-one thing. However, my last GF was the opposite.
So the guys who said you couldnt meet a woman at a club, what is your motivation for going? Each to their own obviously, but I have a hard time having a good time there.
clubs can be fun if you go with a big group of friends and are very drunk, or if you have a table.
But I dont see the attraction of a club over a simple bar.
Now if your not white you can dance instead of jumping around lol.
at some point of wastedness spraying champagne and committing other acts of incredible douchiness becomes the shit haha
clubs are for poor people
Troll, KYS
Activities > bars or clubs
I used to tag along with my buddy in the D.C. club scene from time to time. Honestly, it's kind of pathetic. There's nothing worse than watching males dance. Similar to watching women box, the participant loses most of his or her dignity in the process. And yeah, the idea of meeting someone at a club--well, yeah, sure, you "meet" but conversation is impossible.
Bars are just boring. You literally stand around making small talk with numerous uninteresting people.
I will admit that in terms of looks I'm probably a 5 on a 10 scale. Bump me to an 8 and my opinion probably changes, at least in terms of clubs. Bars? I don't see how standing around drinking is entertaining at all. But at least at a bar you aren't 100% sure that the girl you are talking to has STDs. At a club you can all but rest assured that the girl is a VD infested slut.
Appreciate the honesty dude.
If given a choice I choose a bar over a club 100% of the time. With that being said, I'm with Short, I much prefer going out to eat these days.
Milonga / Salsa dancing >>> Bar ~ Mariachis > Club. Again, as a latin, I as biased as possible, but the one on one dancing is a great way to know someone. Recently a German friend did his latam tour and had to agree.
This......................... I don't drink alcohol so I can find bars incredibly boring and I am sure even if i did drink the bar scene would be incredibly boring.
I prefer to go latin or middle eastern dancing. I go to the "club" to dance not to drink. If you meet a girl then thats cool but usually in the Salsa scene there are TONS of hot girls who are regulars that are at the same place every weekend just to dance.
I prefer to meet women at the bookstore, grocery store, restaurant etc. But then again i am very outgoing and will talk to anybody at anytime.
If you are outgoing, this.
Yea, the club scene isn't all it's cracked up to be as far as meeting girls goes.. Just a lot of guys with half-buttoned silk shirts.. Not my thing
Surprised about the hate for clubs on WSO where it seem most of us would have money (or, the MDs $$) to drop on bottles.
Point is, roll with your friends, and a good time should occur either way. If it doesnt, you have the wrong friends.
Also, youre much more inclined to go clubbing without a gf. Evidently the people here in relationships are probably not club types anymore.
Clubbing is just one gross mating ritual, realized this once I went to a club sober. You really ask yourself "is this what I have been engaging in?" and you start questioning your moral integrity from thereon.
moral integrity? didn't know you cared about it
The best way to get over an old lover is to get under a new one.
Git 'er done.
pow. your friends were just trying to get your mind off her dude
I kinda agree on the moral integrity bit, depending on which club you go to. I have been to some absolute shitholes but also been to some classier clubs. Depends really.
Generally, I kinda like clubs.
What you actually need is relaxation and distraction. Be it club or home, if only you are comfortable should you try it..Else do what makes you happy and calm!
Never liked clubs until I started being honest with myself about what I wanted from a night out.
The bottom line is that if you want to pull a hot piece of ass as fast and as cheap as possible, nothing beats a club.
If you are able to isolate your goal from the venue itself it changes things up a good bit.
I don't dance, don't hear well, don't like crowds, etc...but I have gotten to enjoy going to clubs b/c I keep my mind on the reason I am there. The pussy. Be real with yourself and reality becomes a lot more pleasant experience.
I agree. I think its one of those things I gotta get accustomed too. The issue with me was I went from one relationship to the next with no period in between really. I think, with me single, I would potentially enjoy the club scene a little more. I might give it a go again soon.
I agree when you say about being true to yourself as to why you're there, but isnt the case that women often frequent clubs a lot less too because of the issue with the sleazy silk shirt wearing dudes they will encounter there? The last club I went to, there were hardly any women there, and any that were, I didnt wanna make eye-contact with, rather anything else.
I hate clubs. Would rather spend my time almost anywhere else.
I have found that the guys with the best game, tend to really enjoy clubs.
Think about it, if you're very adept socially, you won't care where you go, be it a club, bar, lounge, etc. I like going anywhere, as long as there are hot chicks there lol.
That being said, if what you want is to fuck a random hot chick asap, it's hard to do better than a club. There's a ton of things about clubs that make this a lot easier than at a bar.
I dont necessarily agree. As long as you're not completely static with a women and can actually converse (granted, you need a little game), you should be fine.
I love heading to a place where there's plenty of hot women too but the culture at a club is pretty unappealing to me. Its probably worthless me going to a club because I dont think I can relax there. A women is gonna spot that, even if she is the slutty type that is wasted.
I'm intrigued by the idea of meeting a woman at a bookstore lol...never done that.
I think it mainly depends on if your single or not. Clubs exist to get blackout drunk, grind with a random to some Ke$ha techno remix, and try to pull a girl back to your place. If you have a significant other, and are faithful, then it can be a lot like going to a Six Flags but not riding the rides.
I agree with this statement. I used love going to clubs and have a decent record of hooking-up. Now I am in a long-term relationship and visited some college friends at another city. We tried to re-create our "stag" days of hitting the club. Most of friends were single, but three of us were not. By not putting all my heart into it, a club becomes kind of boring. I am good at chatting up girls, but lack the "killer" instinct nowadays. Though once in awhile I still feel the urge to go.
Still prefer clubs over bars due to intensity. But going to bars and lounges a lot more lately. They're fun enough.
The best places to talk to women are places not designed for it..so not bars, clubs..But normal everyday places...grocery stores(she can't reach something), gym (doing a workout wrong), fast food or restaurant..the waitress is almost to easy. Clothing store....etc...
I dont know man, its kinda difficult to broach the subject isnt it? What are you gonna talk about? I think its better when a woman knows what to expect and is there for it i.e. a club
Wrong women are on guard at normal places..and more likely to be a bitch. Just talk...and approach what subject...
You walk up to her make conversation then get her number wait like a week hit her up.. hang out....if she is worth hooking up with then do what you need to do if not on to the next one... So much easier to get with actual attractive women this way than it is at a club where you're sloppy and she is sloppy, that is if you want to remember it at all...
There is nothing like having a nice dinner with some close friends, there you can really relax, be yourself and say all the crap you want without looking like a looser.
Yep. But it can be tough to move to a new city and make as many truly close frineds as you had in college.
Maybe another thread comes out of this. How does one do that? I'm moving to Nashville soon and quite nervous.
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