Keeping in touch with friends from HS/College
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on 8/19/12 at 1:35am
Hi,
I will be going to College this fall, and as I am seeing some of my friends that I have known throughout High School and some through my entire childhood fly off to prestigious schools including Harvard, Brown, Cornell and Princeton I can't help but wonder if I will be able to keep in touch with them.
My main questions are did you keep in touch with friends from HS? Were they of any networking help in your later years if you did? Today are you closer with friends made in college or HS?





Only 1 high school friend.
Only 1 high school friend. Everybody else I keep in touch with is from college. Your personality, tastes, social life, and outlook in life will dramatically change in college and it's very hard to relate with the people you knew in highschool since they will also change to. It's sounds sad but you'll make new friends.
Facebook is a good feature
Facebook is a good feature when it comes to going to college. It connects you with your friends a lot easier and lets you see what they are up to (e.g. when they upload pictures of their oh-so-wonderful freshman year experience). I went to a rather small high school, so I literally knew everyone from my grade. To this day, there is a small group of HS friends who remain my best friends. College friends are pals but high school friends are family.
Also, if your friends go to "Harvard, Brown, Cornell and Princeton", you can probably coordinate a weekend meet-up in New York or Boston.
If you keep reaching out and
If you keep reaching out and initiating conversations, it's pretty easy to stay in touch with friends (especially via facebook or email groups). Sure, it won't be the same as when guys were all in high school, but I'm sure you will still hang out during holidays and such. If you wait for others to reach out before you talk with them, then you will have a harder time stay close to old friends. You get what you put in.
Um, if these people are your
Um, if these people are your friends then you just keep in touch with them the same way anyone else does. You call and text them and you guys hang out and get drunk when you are at home. If these people are just people that you hung out with in class and not outside school and now you want to use them for future networking opportunities then that is weird and they probably won't want to help you.
This to all my hatin' folks seeing me getting guac right now..
You're young and just going
You're young and just going off to college so a couple points of insight I think fellow WSO members will agree with me on:
1) Congrats and good luck first off. It's cliche but life is short and before u know it u will be out of college and working- so have fun.
2) As far as high school friends/college friends go, here's how life generally works. You'll go off to college, and for a while you may keep in heavy contact via Facebook, email, etc with kids from high school but after a while you'll develop new friends and relationships, and while there may be a few who u still keep in contact with long term theres really not too much u will have in common any more or be able to say to each other except, "all the best, good luck, etc." times change, people change, blah blah blah- its cliche but true
3) w/ number two, same thing will happen after graduating from college, moving around different jobs, etc
"Did you know that Whitney Houston's debut LP, titled simply Whitney Houston, had four number one singles on it?"
bbillgold: You're young and
You're young and just going off to college so a couple points of insight I think fellow WSO members will agree with me on:
1) Congrats and good luck first off. It's cliche but life is short and before u know it u will be out of college and working- so have fun.
2) As far as high school friends/college friends go, here's how life generally works. You'll go off to college, and for a while you may keep in heavy contact via Facebook, email, etc with kids from high school but after a while you'll develop new friends and relationships, and while there may be a few who u still keep in contact with long term theres really not too much u will have in common any more or be able to say to each other except, "all the best, good luck, etc." times change, people change, blah blah blah- its cliche but true
3) w/ number two, same thing will happen after graduating from college, moving around different jobs, etc
I guess my real question is when you finally make it into that job whether it's investment banking or any other high end finance job, you don't have that much time. I'm sure you spend whatever free time you have with family or a significant other but when you actually have time for friends who do you hangout with? Is it college friends, HS friends, both or coworkers? Yeah its kind of a weird/stupid question but i was just wondering haha
I only keep in touch with a
I only keep in touch with a few friends from HS. You really only talk to the ones you really care about, as it gets harder and harder to keep in touch and find similar things (you take on more responsibilities, other people come into your life, etc.)
If you have close friends, definitely keep in touch and try to see each other now and then; with friends that are more acquaintances than anything else, say hi when you see them, but chances are you'll fall out of touch, which isn't a bad thing; it's just a natural part of life.
melokid: bbillgold: You're
You're young and just going off to college so a couple points of insight I think fellow WSO members will agree with me on:
1) Congrats and good luck first off. It's cliche but life is short and before u know it u will be out of college and working- so have fun.
2) As far as high school friends/college friends go, here's how life generally works. You'll go off to college, and for a while you may keep in heavy contact via Facebook, email, etc with kids from high school but after a while you'll develop new friends and relationships, and while there may be a few who u still keep in contact with long term theres really not too much u will have in common any more or be able to say to each other except, "all the best, good luck, etc." times change, people change, blah blah blah- its cliche but true
3) w/ number two, same thing will happen after graduating from college, moving around different jobs, etc
I guess my real question is when you finally make it into that job whether it's investment banking or any other high end finance job, you don't have that much time. I'm sure you spend whatever free time you have with family or a significant other but when you actually have time for friends who do you hangout with? Is it college friends, HS friends, both or coworkers? Yeah its kind of a weird/stupid question but i was just wondering haha
Well...that's the first time i've heard "hangout" used in that context in probably 5-10 years. You're an adult, do whatever and "hangout" with whomever you want. However, if you're likely working at least 80 hours/week on Wall Street, maybe have a family, and whatever other committments, well you can see that there's not much free time. Maybe some occasional time to get a golf weekend in with the fellas, get together for dinner, etc., but that's about it
"Did you know that Whitney Houston's debut LP, titled simply Whitney Houston, had four number one singles on it?"
I had a group of 6-7 best
I had a group of 6-7 best friends in high school and were freshmen year roommates with 3
- One of them I hang out with once every few months when his girl lets him off the leash
- One I probably see once a year but somewhat chat every month
- One I talk to a couple times a week because I still wanna bang her
The other bros/old roommates in the group I really don't talk too but they know what it is, the few times I do go home and kick it it's like old times