Significant Other Drama at the Office
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What's the worst significant other drama you've seen or personally experienced while at the office?
What do you do if you're on the receiving end? How do coworkers typically react? Is it normal to see gf drama, or is it something to be embarrassed about?
Have you ever seen a girlfriend or wife do something crazy like show up at the office and yell "Come home now or we are OVER!"?
My gf is very um... emotional, and as I get closer to my start date, I'm afraid she'll do something dramatic when I start working crazy hours.






I was actually wondering..
I was actually wondering.. is it alright to have a friend or bf/gf there in your office while you work at night? Not disturbing you obviously, but reading near you or whatever? I think if it were allowed it would make the analysts' lives much happier and the relationship not so tense etc. etc.
We're Italian, "WACC" means something else to us.
We're Italian, "WACC" means something else to us.
Jesus christ...
Jesus christ... ask your MD that.
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"My gf is very um...
"My gf is very um... emotional, and as I get closer to my start date, I'm afraid she'll do something dramatic when I start working crazy hours."
so then break up with her.
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"My gf is very um... emotional, and as I get closer to my start date, I'm afraid she'll do something dramatic when I start working crazy hours."
so then break up with her.
Good answer. Nobody likes baby mama drama in the office.
just let her know that work
just let her know that work is more important than her. she'll understand.
LOL
I think there would be a wee few compliance issues if you had your gf tagging along in the office. Also, you're going to want to focus on getting your shit done, not entertaining your gf and keeping her from getting too bored.
Once, on the back of working 75 out of 80 odd hours, I had to call my gf who hadn't seen me for 4 odd days (we live together) and tell her I had to cancel our summer holiday to Sardinia. She went ballistic (bear in mind she works in research so it isn't like she 100% doesnt get the hours). I put the phone down as I was too tired to comprehend her shouting, and it was so loud through the phone my buddy who could see the pain I was in, walked by and hung it up. People could tell I was going through hell, but wasn't terribly embarassing.
And if she still doesn't
And if she still doesn't understand, simply explain that work is much, much more profitable than her.
if she gets hysterical, just
if she gets hysterical, just say, "work is a better opportunity." that'll end the conversation.
Just use your common sense
if she's a tenured gf who has put in your time and you are serious about, show some tact and explain it's a 2 yr commitment, try to plan small trips together etc. If she's relatively new and unproven - do as you see fit at the time.
In all honesty, it's just an
In all honesty, it's just an issue that some people have to put up with, though it's not usually too embarrassing.
My gf works for MBB so she "gets" my work hours and hers aren't all that different; however, the associate in the office next to me has a control-freak of a gf who gets annoyingly upset with him when he works too much. It's actually pretty hilarious when they get into full blown arguments over the phone, because he's usually shouting and I can hear their entire argument from my office.
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I was actually wondering.. is it alright to have a friend or bf/gf there in your office while you work at night? Not disturbing you obviously, but reading near you or whatever? I think if it were allowed it would make the analysts' lives much happier and the relationship not so tense etc. etc.
We're Italian, "WACC" means something else to us.
I agree. I think it would also be beneficial if analysts were allowed to have a pet in their cubes, so long as it doesn't bark/meow while you're on the phone, or within earshot while a superior is on the phone with a client... that would be pretty ridiculous.
what happens if you sleep
what happens if you sleep with the MD's daughter and he finds out?
more than two years...
But I am kind of hoping this job will be more than a two year commitment. I hope to be in IB, PE or some other well-paid, high stress job. I'm hoping my job in IB will establish a trend of earning lots of money over the next 20-30 yrs.
True
but depending what you choose it gets significantly easier. I'm at a debt fund now, much much more chilled. The first 2 years are the toughest.
I debated telling this story
I debated telling this story because it's somewhat personal, but I'll be somewhat vague, I guess.
An associate of mine in banking was constantly absent from the office, it was clear there were personal issues at play - either that, or he was looking for another job. One day, a fellow analyst was sitting at his computer fixing a model while the associate looked on. Well, through the preview boxes that pop up whenever you receive email, it was clear within that hour time frame that the associate was 1) having extreme marital problems, 2) having an affair and 3) looking for another job.
To the OP, Break up with
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wow
priceless
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We're Italian, "WACC" means something else to us.
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winton, what do you trade?
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pleaseeee the 2nd story.
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"Some Type of Credit", Huh?
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nicely done
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