Hello there folks,
I am currently amidst a delicate and potentially awkward situation. Whilst having a bite at my desk last week, I received an email notifying me that I had a new friend request on Facebook. Between that and the status of my SRPT calls, I gave a mental fist pump and decided I had to accept the inevitably hot chick that wanted to be my virtual friend.
Only, it wasn't a girl I met at a bar last weekend or an old high school friend. Shit. It was Lily, the 30 something senior credit analyst with whom I sometimes awkwardly converse about my pursuit of the CFA. Normally I wouldn't mind letting someone have access to 1,200+ pictures of me double fisting with stains on my shirt and a facial expression like Eli Manning's. Even in my job pursuit, I truly didn't care who saw any of that. But this is different. I'm the guy that's early for work even when he's hungover, and typically the last to leave. I've only had the job for a couple months, too, so I figured I'd be better off playing it safe and not tarnishing my go-getter all-work-no-play image. Request denied.
An hour ago, Lily asked me in person why I hadn't accepted her request. I probably looked noticeably terrified, because I was. Monkeys, why am I at all concerned about this? Why has social media, the ultimate platform of frivolity and mental degradation, become a part of my life that has actually managed to stress me out? Better yet, why does someone old enough to have kids care about it? I thought it was a trend two years ago, and couldn't be happier to see its stock hit the deck as of late. However, not only does it look like it's here to stay--it looks like its becoming more integral than ever before. Have you ever been in a situation like this? How do you mix social media and the workplace?
Close the account quick and tell her that's why you didn't accept the invite.
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That's a good strat that I just implemented. Unfortunately, it wasn't until Lily found me that I made the change. SirTrades, your idea definitely would have been the most rational had I been smart enough to think of it in the first place.
I tell people point blank that I don't like coworkers on facebook. If something changes, I'll let them know. Otherwise.....deal with it.
My strategy is to get rid of Facebook completely. Another good solution is to have a policy of not friending any current coworkers. Just let her know that's your policy - people are cool with it.
Better to go through your pics and untag yourself from all those pics. Rejecting a friend request only looks like you got something to hide or that you don't like that person..because in this day and age you accept anyone who you've ever talked to..even if it was just for 30 seconds. FB is a necessary evil at times
Just don't have coworkers as friends on facebook. Unless you are actual "friends".
accepting facebook friend requests from analysts and associates (Originally Posted: 06/03/2010)
Is it wise to accept facebook friend requests from analysts, associates and VPs? Not accepting it seems a bit unfriendly if I see them everyday. These are people that I had a drink or two with.
I never had a problem with doing it, though to be fair only Analysts and Associates. I think it depends on whether you care about the privacy. If not, I don't see a problem with it, just be mindful of what you post.
Is it rude to give them access to a limited profile?
They won't be able to tell it's a limited profile unless they log on under someone else's account and look at your profile and notice the difference, which is highly unlikely.
Personally, I took down every bit of personal information, photo, and wall post from Facebook the day Zuckerberg announced his newest redefinition of what privacy constitutes - I'd delete my account entirely, but that'd make communication onerously difficult.
I took off everything personal, not wall posts tho
I added a senior banker (director level) to my friends list after meeting up around 4 times, thought I put it on limited profile but later went back to 'preview' it and turns out it wasn't. I then added him to my limited profile. Per chance he found out that I put him on limited profile - would this be rude? I have some pictures I wanted to keep private/with friends.
Tbh I think that this senior banker has more interesting stuff to do than to look through your profile and "monitor" differences... dont you think?
Just keep two or more different friends lists that have separate privacy settings. It is a pain in the ass to set everything up but once its done you will never have to think twice about adding or accepting people.
Another option is to primary use LinkedIn for professional networking although the interface is really awful.
Yeah man. Either remove personal stuff, or make friends lists (private and professional) and fiddle with the settings.
I also really don't want to risk them making a privacy change when Im not paying attention and have all my info available to people on both lists.
Depends on how many incriminating photos of you are floating around.
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Haha, great post Illini ! That kid is so dumb, pretty sad to lose a promising internship over something so dumb.
My best advice to anyone, delete everything possible off facebook. If not for works sake, do it for the fact that your privacy is being destroyed on that site. I only have a couple pictures tagged of me, but I will be eliminating those also.
Social networking for bankers (Originally Posted: 03/29/2012)
Hail monkeys,
I recently got a FaceBook invite from a VP whom I hold in very high regard. His page is very professional; suits in most photo, pictures with finance superstars, inspiring quotes, you name it.
So as a new arrival on this scene I'm looking to establish a professional profile of my own. What is your advice on online social networking proflies for career networking?
What type of photos to post up? What type of quotes, slogans etc? How would you go about creating a page that highlights professionalism and ambition but doesn't come off as too pretentious or ostentatious?
These are the types of things you don't seek advice on.
Copy the VPs approach.
Beat them at their own game on your turf.
Just be yourself. Use the sunflower seed approach. Take you what like/find useful from his profile and mold it to shape how you want a quick snapshot of your professional life to look.
This is simple, keep your public profile as limited as possible, and even limit what is viewable by your friends. Don't have a wall that others can post on. My facebook is more or less the same as my LinkedIn but with a few more casual (but still appropriate) pictures of travel, etc. My friends only profile isn't much different. No one can see the pictures I get tagged in, as I can't control that. I almost never post any content as I don't want anything to be misconstrued. It leads to a boring profile, but it's better than worrying about what others might find out about you.
my profile has nothing
Copy and paste your LinkedIn information.
Have pictures that go along with your resume's various sections i.e. if you say you do karate then have a pic of you teaching or demonstrating a move (but not beating the shit out of someone).
I would not accept the friend request.
Keep Facebook for personal friendships and LinkedIn for professional relationships. I've seen the facebook profiles of many VPs/Ds and in some cases MDs. Usually it is just pictures of them with their families. The profile that you described of the VP is rare and to me indicates that he believes Facebook is a professional networking tool. It isn't. There are plenty of VPs in this world whose lives revolve around work. Sounds like this is one of them -- don't try to emulate him.
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