My Father (51) Wants To Marry a 21 Year Old...
Ok, before you write stuff like "good for him!" or "he's my idol," think about this for a second.
He is 51, I am 28, my brother is 22 and my sister is 21 (you can imagine her happiness about this of course...same age as the 21 year old my dad wants to marry). The smallest brother is 13.
My father divorced twice in the last 20 years, with 4 kids total.
I guess due to a mid-life crisis (which he of course denies), he started fooling around with this 20 yr old last year, and now he announced he wants to marry her.
The entire family is in shock, we are all telling him "what the hell are you doing."
What concerns me is that he is kind of wealthy, and the motives of this girl are pretty obvious, especially since she is already planning kids which is something my father decided to never ever have again.
I want his happiness and I do not want to cut my ties with him, but it is really hard for me to play nice and act like is all good, especially since she is actually turning into a controlling bitch.
He is obvously blindsided by pussy and this can potentially turn messy, especially considering that my sister of course said "you disgust me" and promised not to talk to him ever again.
What would you do ? Would you just let it be, or you would do everything possible to make him think ? Where do you draw the limit to your own personal pleasures (pussy), when you are a father of a girl the same age of the one you are banging ?






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Pre-nup... she's going to
Pre-nup... she's going to eventually want kids and he's going to snap out of his mid-life crisis.
Hate to be a dick, dude, but
Hate to be a dick, dude, but it's hard for me not to root for the old man.
Just sayin', is all.
Can we have pics of his
Can we have pics of his future wife? I think that would help us to tailor our advice further.
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Hate to be a dick, dude, but it's hard for me not to root for the old man.
Just sayin', is all.
For the record, I had no problem with him banging a 20 yr old, "good for him" I used to say, but marriage is a whole different thing.
have him sign a PRENUP with
have him sign a PRENUP with her first of all. something to the effect that his current networth will be solely inherited by his previous 4 children. and ask him why the hell he needs to marry her if he can get her and equally attractive women for FREE?
i'd personally be curious about his answer to that. why is he doing this? will he have a vasectomy? have him get a vasectomy too btw. neuter him if you can. get a shrink to declare him senile and irresponsible and then you can decide everything for him.
ok, i'm trailing off here.
but first of all make a list of all the bad things you can see coming out of this and list the solutions of least resistance. see if he will take it to heart. beyond that you can follow her around and catch her on tape with her younger lover (she's bound to have one - seriously) - you can get little spy recording devices to put in her purse... stupid slut.
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Oreos wrote: Can we have pics
Can we have pics of his future wife? I think that would help us to tailor our advice further.
No pix of course, but she is good looking when she preps herself up, but with no make up and fancy clothes, she looks average to unattractive at times (you know how women are...).
Maybe you can, in
Maybe you can, in non-accusatory tone, explain to him that you (his children) view it as a betrayal, because in essence he is trading you for the children he doesn't have yet and that you all would be more accepting of his choice if he was able to demonstrate to you all that you are still a top priority in his life and he will still take care of you, whether by setting up trusts and/or transferring assets to the children before the marriage, or by drafting a will and a prenup which clearly references and reinforces the will, that way she can't contest the will.
Talk to a lawyer, financial advisor, and a therapist before you make your case; if you are well-prepared it might be the best thing that happened to your family and your dad and his new family
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If you ain't no punk holla'
If you ain't no punk holla' we want pre-nup
Either ask him to put
Either ask him to put together a pre-nup or have him put a large amount of his assets into an irrevocable spendthrift trust, which he can use but is not considered an asset in divorce court- that way, if he wants to avoid the prenup discussion, he can still protect the kids when it comes to his existing assets.
Still, I am planning on inheriting $0 from Mom and Dad. They paid for in-state college; I can make it on my own.
Oh well. This looks like a bad Matlock or Murder She Wrote episode. Do you have a disgruntled cleaning lady?
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dagro wrote: and ask him why
and ask him why the hell he needs to marry her if he can get her and equally attractive women for FREE?
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dagro wrote: have him sign a
have him sign a PRENUP with her first of all. something to the effect that his current networth will be solely inherited by his previous 4 children. and ask him why the hell he needs to marry her if he can get her and equally attractive women for FREE?
i'd personally be curious about his answer to that. why is he doing this? will he have a vasectomy? have him get a vasectomy too btw. neuter him if you can. get a shrink to declare him senile and irresponsible and then you can decide everything for him.
ok, i'm trailing off here.
but first of all make a list of all the bad things you can see coming out of this and list the solutions of least resistance. see if he will take it to heart. beyond that you can follow her around and catch her on tape with her younger lover (she's bound to have one - seriously) - you can get little spy recording devices to put in her purse... stupid slut.
I actually wrote him a long letter. The whole family read it and they loved it. He actually loved it as well, and it was sadly obvious that his response was very forced and full of excuses. But it is precisely when he wrote "she's been wanting this for so long, it is only fair to her," that I realized this is really bad, worse that what I thought.
I honestly do not know what's going on, since he is not talking about it to anyone after the backlash, and we do not ask, hoping everything is on hold, but then again, perhaps he did it already in secret...you never know.
He said he would of course take care of everything financially (pre nup), but unless I force him to show me the paperwork, with the risk of appearing as if I am worried only about the money, I cannot know for sure.
I could care less about money or my share of any money, and do not want it, it is not the point. I am worried that this will create inevitable problems with my sister and the rest of the family, as well as for him in the future since of course this bitch will create problems somehow.
And btw thanks to all of you
And btw thanks to all of you for your replies, it really helps and I really appreciate it.
damn 51 and he gettin smokin
damn 51 and he gettin smokin hot bitches i want this mans auto graph
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It wouldn't be the age that
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