On WSO we often talk about what we can do to affect our careers. We often talk about how our careers affect us. We don't often mention how our careers can affect those around us. For those of you with a serious significant-other, or those of you with a family: How do you prepare them to deal with your career and the effects of all the demands placed on you? This spouse was able to adjust:
It strikes me sometimes what a different life other people lead. When I go to gallery openings or expositions, some people are genuinely surprised my husband couldn't make it at 7pm. He is at work, and if he were somehow off early that night, he is tired and doesn't want to be at some social event. It can be a bit of a bother, going to these things by myself. There are the weddings from friends or family that he can't make. I went to two weddings in his family, alone.
Does your job affect your relationship with your family or significant-other?
This one wasn't:
This is what wrecked our relationship in the end. He was married to his work, not to me. He was working for a big investment firm, running a kind of a hedge fund. I'd tell him, just quit. You have made enough for us to live on for years to come. What's stopping you? We can travel. You are destroying your health, you can't sleep without sleeping pills any more, then in the morning you need more pills to get going.
I don't know about the rest of you but I'm pretty sure any girlfriend I've had (including the incumbent) isn't going to be particularly thrilled with me working hours like those mentioned above.