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find a Kramer (yeah, the one from Seinfeld). I'm sure you have a friend/relative/nemesis who's brutally honest. get them to tell you everything that's wrong with you, maybe you'll get some insight there.
how you perceive yourself doesn't matter at all, how others perceive you is all that matters. I'm betting there's something else afoot, and you'll have to get external feedback to figure out what it is. the best person to do that is a Kramer, only he won't be telling you that you look fat, that your hair is old fashioned, that you need a nosejob, etc., he'll be helping you get a job.
When Seinfeld ended its run this guy would've been like... 7 years old.
OP, what you need is a Sheldon Cooper.
if you expect to be taken seriously as a man in American society...you watch Seinfeld.
Alright, first of all, places are very rarely going to tell you why you were fired, or if they do, they're going to write all their reasons down and try and make you sign it, agreeing to them. This is all so they don't get sued. If they fired you for "poor performance," and you prove that your performance was good and say they fired you out of racism/sexism/etc. some judge somewhere would probably take the case. HR wants people to be as vague as possible. Lucky for you, HR will also advise these managers, if they are called for a reference about you later, to simply confirm that you worked there and that you no longer do. If they go on some diatribe against you and you somehow find out, again, you can sue them.
Now, for you, something I would recommend is for you to relax and really think about how you come off to people. I was "not a good fit" for my first job and although I left before I was fired, it was certainly a possibility. My boss and I did not get along at all and it became a very antagonistic relationship over time. In hindsight, he was still the biggest piece of shit I ever met, but I no longer view myself as the angel I did at the time. It's hard to have that kind of perspective and reflection until you get out of the situation, however.
Also, don't be desperate. Begging your former employer to let you work for free? C'mon man. Take a week to get your head straight and apply for unemployment, and then work on your resume, reach out to your network, and find a new job.
What you are going through is less of a reflection on you as it is on your generation. Unfortunately, your generation was raised in a way that creates a shock when you get out there in the real world. Not everyone gets a participation trophy in the real world. Not everyone cares if you have high self esteem. You are finding this out, I'm afraid, but don't worry, you will get the hang of it soon. We all went through it to some degree. There are many unwritten rules of any workplace that you could not have known...office politics is not an easy road to navigate. Most people that have been around a while can attest to that.